What to do before starting a family?

[lumpkin]

Date: 1/17/2008 11:44:08 PM
Author: sunkist

Date: 1/17/2008 4:23:26 PM
Author: lumpkin

Fincancially, unless you are really wealthy, you are never ready. If you wait until then, you'll wait forever. HOWEVER, its best if one of you has a super stable career and you know you can provide a stable home. It was also very important to me to make sure my marriage was stable. My mother married four times, divorced three. The best gift you can give your kids, aside from love and guidance, is a stable marriage, IMO. It's the foundation for everything else.

Lumpkin, I totally agree with you! I think all children deserve to be born to faithful, loving parents who have made vows to eachother. That's one thing that as parents you can actually have control over. Money comes and goes and is not always reliable. Vacations are nice but aren't necessary. Even large homes are nice, but other things can be arranged. But if parents are commited to eachother and the vows they made to eachother, their family can make it through anything.

Yes, definitely in most cases. I'm just staggered by women who pick men who are totally unsuited for a stable, loving marriage, let alone being a good father, and they have kids with them. There's no end to the drama and chaos, and I think some people need the thrill of all that or get some kind of satisfaction from the conflict. (ETA: or maybe they think they can't get/don't deserve such a good man???) It's such a shame for their kids.