What is your favorite thing about your spouse?

[missy]

OK fair play. Talking about what we would like to change made me think what do you love most about your partner?
One favorite quality only please. I mean I could list a hundred or more but what is your most favorite quality about your spouse?

For me this is a challenging question because it's not one quality it's all his good qualities. it's how generous he is. He is so free with giving and he is generous of spirit too. It really is a wonderful trait. He gives freely with his emotions (warm and loving and kind) and yes material goods which of course is less important but shows the bigger picture. He is not petty or mean or small minded. He is just generous to the max. There are so many other wonderful qualities but I asked for just one so will leave it at that.

 

[Lisa Loves Shiny]

Great question. I think we can include everyone who has a significant other in the conversation too. I love that my husband is always on my team and I am on his. If we have a difference of opinion we sort it out behind closed doors and not in front of others. If one of us makes a mistake we choose to try to solve it instead of lay blame.

I love that my husband holds my opinions in high regards. I frequently hear him on the phone letting his friends know my take on whatever they are discussing. In a good way. I sometimes wonder if they get sick of hearing my opinions because IMHO he spends too much time talking about me. But it is an ego booster. He's my person. Love at first sight for both of us which I never believed would have happened until I first saw him.

 

[missy]

Great question. I think we can include everyone who has a significant other in the conversation too. I love that my husband is always on my team and I am on his. If we have a difference of opinion we sort it out behind closed doors and not in front of others. If one of us makes a mistake we choose to try to solve it instead of lay blame.

I love that my husband holds my opinions in high regards. I frequently hear him on the phone letting his friends know my take on whatever they are discussing. In a good way. I sometimes wonder if they get sick of hearing my opinions because IMHO he spends too much time talking about me. But it is an ego booster. He's my person. Love at first sight for both of us which I never believed would have happened until I first saw him.

Yes agree on all counts. If you read my first sentence in the post I wrote “partner “
And I feel the same way. Having each other’s back. Being one’s soft place to fall. It’s everything. Great answer

 

[Lisa Loves Shiny]

Yes agree on all counts. If you read my first sentence in the post I wrote “partner “
And I feel the same way. Having each other’s back. Being one’s soft place to fall. It’s everything. Great answer

Sorry Missy if that came off as scolding which I did not mean at all. My reading skills were a bit lacking this morning.

 

[missy]

Sorry missy if that came off as scolding which I did not mean at all. My reading skills were a bit lacking this morning.

Aww no. I just felt bad if you thought I left out people. I should have included it in the title. It’s my fault.
Next time for sure

 

[Lisa Loves Shiny]

Aww no. I just felt bad if you thought I left out people. I should have included it in the title. It’s my fault.
Next time for sure

You are always so nice. My brain went to the couple next door, and honestly, sometimes it's just a stream of consciousness that doesn't serve me well when I reply to things without taking the time to fully read them. I will do better.

 

[pearlsngems]

My husband is very accepting. I can share anything with him and know I won't be judged or criticized for it.

 

[Begonia]

He's patient and calm. So patient.

He restored my relationship with mankind. After being raised by an abusive father, I had significant trust issues. My healing relationship with DH lead to being able to raise 2 sons with love and acceptance (and even wonder at times).

 

[Avondale]

It's quite simple, really.

He is the one human being I trust most in this world.

There are many good things about him. But this is the one thing no one else has and the reason I'm still married to him.

 

[Daisys and Diamonds]

this is so major its huge
he let me get a cat -Tinky
and he keeps letting us get cats even when he says this is the last one when they pass away
then Borris
then Tibby
then the Fluffa Duffa
then Puff Ball and Sox when the SPCA would not take them

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

DH is artistic. He makes hand made cards for me and draws cute and funny things on them. I haven't had a store bought card in years--and I am glad!

cheers--Sharon

 

[oncrutchesrightnow]

Kindness

 

[stracci2000]

My DH lets me be me.
He indulges all my messy artistic or crafty endeavors. If I tear up the house, it's ok with him.
He never tried to change me, and he never criticizes.

 

[kenny]

His heart.

 

[mellowyellowgirl]

Oh my goodness what ISN’T my favourite thing about that boy!!!!!???

Honestly we’ve been together since 19 and I’m still chasing him around like a shameless hussy! He’s just so dependable, solid, stable and affectionate, and all this drives me mental in the best of ways! I get a huge kick out of the way he reacts to my shenanigans.

 

[kenny]

Is this one of those family-friendly forums?

 

[OreoRosies86]

He is the funniest person I’ve ever met, his wit is sharp and keen and lightning fast. This makes for an amusing and much happier life together.

He also encourages my jewelry hoarding to the point I’d (almost) say he enables me

 

[Rebel Rebel]

I can't choose one, but can narrow it a bit after 42 years.

My husband was a semi-pro athlete and he's still hot.

We suffered an immense loss and are still strong together.

He doesn't care about money, never questions extravagances.

And, finally, we have achieved the thermostat balance of happiness.

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

DH is artistic. He makes hand made cards for me and draws cute and funny things on them. I haven't had a store bought card in years--and I am glad!

cheers--Sharon

LOL. The VD card he made me is so silly. Cut and pasted old photos and put it together and printed it out. And I have a bacon cheeseburger coming my way!

 

[Matthews1127]

I came here to answer first, and read everyone else’s responses after. I don’t want my answer to unintentionally be similar to anyone else’s. If it is, it’s simply coincidence!
What I love most about my partner is his HEART.
The way he loves with EVERYTHING he has. I fell in love with the FATHER he is to his own children, and MINE.
I fell in love with the PARTNER he is to me, after.
He moves mountains, swims oceans, and climbs the tallest buildings for those he loves.
As for me? He gives me the moon and the stars ️, and I’m the luckiest lady in the world! ️

 

[missy]

I love this @Matthews1127


Another thing I LOVE about my DH

The way he lovingly gets up at 4:45AM to go outside and feed our feral cats in the cold and inclement weather. He never complains. He goes downstairs and I help prepare their food and he goes out no matter the weather and places the food in three different areas for the cats. Wet food in heated bowls and dry treats plus we have a feeder exclusively for dry food open 24/7. And he replenishes their water in the heated water dish with fresh water.

How many men would do this? For me and for the cats. He started out not knowing cats and being very very allergic to them but over the pat 25 plus years (after over a decade of immunotherapy) he loves them as much as I do. And he takes the bullet for me since the cold weather wreaks havoc on my hands (ulceration of all my fingers to name one issue)...he goes out every single morning and afternoon and evening to feed them. He has built shelters for them. He lovingly cares for them and for our house kitties too.

That is a real man.

24 years ago..when our cat Billy got sick. Greg spoon fed him every few hours.




This is love.
And how can I not be crazy in love with such a wonderful human?

 

[Matata]

He is otherworldly kind and patient.

 

[natasha-cupcake]

There's so much I love about my husband, that it's hard to come up with just one thing. His unquestioning loyalty is probably the most important thing to me, because I used to suffer from extreme relationship insecurity. I have a sensitive nature, a long memory and went through some really negative dating experiences when I was younger. It took me a long time to get over those feelings, to let down my walls and to offer him the love he deserved. But he stuck with me. Over thirty plus years, he's understood my peculiarities and has been so patient and so loyal. Without him, I know I would have ended up alone--a bitter old woman. He really did save me.

The second-best thing I love about him is that he's super talented (he's a musician), very smart, resourceful and most importantly, open to constructive criticism. He came to the relationship a bit of a mess. His upbringing was chaotic, unlike mine which was stable and fairly idyllic. His mother was emotionally MIA most of the time, clinging and needy the rest of the time. She suffered from paranoia and personality disorder, so he had issues with knowing how to relate to people in social and work settings. Over the years, he would listen to my frank but gentle explanation of his behaviors and their consequences. Then, he would actually self-reflect and change. Because of that, he turned out to be a successful, more centered and much calmer person. He tells me that I saved him.

It's funny because when we first met, I didn't think we'd end up in a long-term relationship. He was sweet, funny and caring, but I didn't feel that big spark, that I thought should be there in a love match. Part of me felt as though I was "settling". I was wrong. The spark might have been very tiny, almost non-existent, but it ended up being a slow burn that survived the test of time. I'm very lucky.