What is driving you nuts in isolation?

[arkieb1]

I have been going a bit nuts because I cannot get to my mother still in critical care in hospital in Sydney and my father in another state with early onset alzheimer's and a 97 year old grandmother I adore who has been put into a nursing home.

A few days ago the house next to us began renovation and by renovation they have demolished all of the walls, a whole section of the house at the back and are then going to rebuild.

Legally work is supposed to start at 7:00am. They are not supposed to make any building noise before that time.... They have been turning up at 6:30am and making a lot of noise. My bedroom is next door to the boundary of where the noise is upstairs and my son is on the internet homeschooling downstairs right next to where the main source of hammering, banging and a loud orchestra of noise is coming from.

On the one hand, I can appreciate that the new neighbours want to renovate their house and that the workman have jobs in an economic crisis, but on the other, after many weeks of isolation, home schooling and sorting out a wide range of things for my family members remotely, to have to put up with the construction noise all day I'm about ready to punch someone in the throat both literally and metaphorically....

The isolation and inability to travel to family is bad enough, the renovation noise on top of everything else IS driving me nuts... What's driving you nuts?

 

[Gussie]

My FIL died last week and there can't be a funeral until travel restrictions are lifted and people feel safe. DH and one of his sisters went to see his mom and he stayed a few days. His sister is still there. His other sister who lives in Connecticut cannot go as there is a 14 day quarantine for travelers from CT to TX. My heart breaks for them. We never got to say goodbye in person.

Maybe not driving me nuts but a very terrible situation nevertheless.

 

[Dancing Fire]

The isolation and inability to travel to family is bad enough, the renovation noise on top of everything else IS driving me nuts... What's driving you nuts?

Liberals like you!... This isolation is driving you nuts. You need to go out and party!..

 

[arkieb1]

My FIL died last week and there can't be a funeral until travel restrictions are lifted and people feel safe. DH and one of his sisters went to see his mom and he stayed a few days. His sister is still there. His other sister who lives in Connecticut cannot go as there is a 14 day quarantine for travelers from CT to TX. My heart breaks for them. We never got to say goodbye in person.

Maybe not driving me nuts but a very terrible situation nevertheless.

I'm deeply sorry my condolences to your whole family, that is a really terrible situation at this testing time.

 

[missy]

@arkieb1 I'm so sorry you and your family are dealing with this and I hope your mom and grandmother will be OK. And as for that construction noise oy that would drive me nuts too with all that is going on and the inability to escape for most of the day.

@Gussie I am so sorry about your FIL. My condolences.

At this moment all I can think of that is driving me nuts are inconsiderate and selfish people who go out and refuse to wear masks endangering all around them.

 

[arkieb1]

Liberals like you!... This isolation is driving you nuts. You need to go out and party!..

The isolation is fine, I actually don't mind being in the house or not going out, I talk to family and friends via phone and texting and the internet every day - it's the construction noise and not being able to escape that early in the morning and at times when I'm on the phone or my son is trying to actually learn something online via the link up with his teachers that is getting the better of me....

 

[Karl_K]

Being sick and stressed out.

 

[Calliecake]

I’m so sorry @Gussie .

 

[MissGotRocks]

My FIL died last week and there can't be a funeral until travel restrictions are lifted and people feel safe. DH and one of his sisters went to see his mom and he stayed a few days. His sister is still there. His other sister who lives in Connecticut cannot go as there is a 14 day quarantine for travelers from CT to TX. My heart breaks for them. We never got to say goodbye in person.

Maybe not driving me nuts but a very terrible situation nevertheless.

I am so sorry. These losses are hard at any time but certainly compounded by not being able to be there and grieve with the family.

 

[MissGotRocks]

I have been going a bit nuts because I cannot get to my mother still in critical care in hospital in Sydney and my father in another state with early onset alzheimer's and a 97 year old grandmother I adore who has been put into a nursing home.

A few days ago the house next to us began renovation and by renovation they have demolished all of the walls, a whole section of the house at the back and are then going to rebuild.

Legally work is supposed to start at 7:00am. They are not supposed to make any building noise before that time.... They have been turning up at 6:30am and making a lot of noise. My bedroom is next door to the boundary of where the noise is upstairs and my son is on the internet homeschooling downstairs right next to where the main source of hammering, banging and a loud orchestra of noise is coming from.

On the one hand, I can appreciate that the new neighbours want to renovate their house and that the workman have jobs in an economic crisis, but on the other, after many weeks of isolation, home schooling and sorting out a wide range of things for my family members remotely, to have to put up with the construction noise all day I'm about ready to punch someone in the throat both literally and metaphorically....

The isolation and inability to travel to family is bad enough, the renovation noise on top of everything else IS driving me nuts... What's driving you nuts?

I can only imagine how difficult it must be to be separated from those that are ailing. I hope in time you will be able to travel and check on them personally.

 

[MissGotRocks]

Being sick and stressed out.

I am sure the stress doesn’t help the sickness but there is just so much that is out of our control these days. I hope that in spite of it all you are soon feeling better.

 

[telephone89]

I'm extremely lucky, but honestly nothing about isolation drives me crazy. I'm a total introvert. It did take my husband and I a few days to get used to seeing each other so much (we normally work opposite schedules), but other than that I'm not hating it. I'm also very lucky that both of us are still getting paid fully, so that probably helps.

Lots of hugs going out to the people more affected <3

 

[mellowyellowgirl]

Not seeing my sister.

Fortunately they changed the laws but not seeing my sister for a month was doing my head in.

I've got lots to do during the day but I missed her so so so much. She told me yesterday she would sit and cry by herself because she missed us so much!

Lesson learned! Hopefully her bedroom furniture will be delivered next week so we can set up her room. If they change the laws again she's moving in!

 

[Daisys and Diamonds]

oh @Gussie.
im so sorry for your family at this time

sending you and your family a hug

 

[MissGotRocks]

Other folks here have real issues with being confined and I don't mean to make light of them. Mine certainly pales in comparison.

I hate snowstorms. I hate having my life disrupted and stopped because of them. Most people like to curl up by the fire and look at the beautiful scenery. Not me - I hate being confined because of it. However, that is usually a day or so max in my area. This has gone on and on and while I may not necessarily need to go anywhere, I am constantly reminded that I can't or shouldn't. It's the mental part of me that drives me crazy!

To counter that, however, I remind myself how fortunate we are to not be sick or suffering or enduring the loss of a loved one. I count my blessings so far in this Covid disaster and am very mindful of the suffering of others.

 

[Daisys and Diamonds]

my neighbours
at hime ive brought they'll be the death of all of us the way they defy the lockdown rules
at the best of time they bang and crash doors at all hours of the day and night but the domestics are the worth
5 times this year we have had to call 111 - and its female vs female

at the best of times they call the small children c**t
some days all the lobelly birds in our garden go somewhere else just to get piece and quiet
everyone else on the planet are hearing more birds - we can't hear ours over the racket

 

[YadaYadaYada]

My sincere condolences to you @Gussie
@arkieb1, so sorry for what you are going through with your parents and grandmother

My issue pales in comparison to others but I am going crazy being technically unemployed again. Life was just starting to come together, the job was going well and financially we were in a really good place, then the state shut us down. Despite a promise of being able to work from home I have not been given any work and I can't collect unemployment since I wasn't there long enough.

I actually just found out today that my bosses wife works with nursing home patients and the boss is terrible about washing his hands. My office was right outside the bathroom....yeah that's all I'll say about that.

So with all that considered I don't even know if I will be working the rest of the year. The kids are not in school and I can only leave them alone so long anyways. Once school starts back up who knows what that will look like. It's a bit depressing.

 

[Daisys and Diamonds]

My sincere condolences to you @Gussie
@arkieb1, so sorry for what you are going through with your parents and grandmother

My issue pales in comparison to others but I am going crazy being technically unemployed again. Life was just starting to come together, the job was going well and financially we were in a really good place, then the state shut us down. Despite a promise of being able to work from home I have not been given any work and I can't collect unemployment since I wasn't there long enough.

I actually just found out today that my bosses wife works with nursing home patients and the boss is terrible about washing his hands. My office was right outside the bathroom....yeah that's all I'll say about that.

So with all that considered I don't even know if I will be working the rest of the year. The kids are not in school and I can only leave them alone so long anyways. Once school starts back up who knows what that will look like. It's a bit depressing.

oh dear
you would think being married to a health care worker he would wash his hands
hopefully he is now.
im so ready to go back to work
i havn't had a job since we moved and although i needed a rest and Gary got sick ...i so need to get back to work
not just for money but to make friends

 

[YadaYadaYada]

@Daisys and Diamonds, you are so right, the social component is very important right along with the money. My office is only four people but it's nice to see people you don't live with, change of scenery and all that.

 

[kenny]

Nothing really.

I'm happy as a clam at home with Bibi and my SO.

 

[Bonfire]

So sorry for the loss of your FIL @Gussie

 

[OX1985]

My FIL died last week and there can't be a funeral until travel restrictions are lifted and people feel safe. DH and one of his sisters went to see his mom and he stayed a few days. His sister is still there. His other sister who lives in Connecticut cannot go as there is a 14 day quarantine for travelers from CT to TX. My heart breaks for them. We never got to say goodbye in person.

Maybe not driving me nuts but a very terrible situation nevertheless.

Sorry to hear that. My condolences to the whole family.

 

[arkieb1]

my neighbours
at hime ive brought they'll be the death of all of us the way they defy the lockdown rules
at the best of time they bang and crash doors at all hours of the day and night but the domestics are the worth
5 times this year we have had to call 111 - and its female vs female

at the best of times they call the small children c**t
some days all the lobelly birds in our garden go somewhere else just to get piece and quiet
everyone else on the planet are hearing more birds - we can't hear ours over the racket

I'm sorry that would drive me nuts too we used to have a lady that lived over the back behind one of the neighbour's houses that had drunken parties until 2, 3 and 4 am with very similar sorts of behaviour, I'd call the police on a regular basis.... she has gone now thankfully. They knocked down the place she lived in and built a brand new house and a really lovely family moved in there.

 

[Daisys and Diamonds]

I'm sorry that would drive me nuts too we used to have a lady that lived over the back behind one of the neighbour's houses that had drunken parties until 2, 3 and 4 am with very similar sorts of behaviour, I'd call the police on a regular basis.... she has gone now thankfully. They knocked down the place she lived in and built a brand new house and a really lovely family moved in there.

this gives me hope !
once im working again one of the first thing im buying is a pack of 1.8m fence palings - that's all the councils allows here but just that extra 30cm would help
then im planting dense bushes in that garden, in front of the trees- if they were afordable id buy those big concrete panels they use between highways and residential housing

 

[Calliecake]

@arkieb1 , Please be kind to yourself. It is difficult when our family members are seriously ill under the best circumstances. Adding the stress of the virus and the neighbors and no wonder you are feeling on edge. Hugs

 

[Queenie60]

Being sick and stressed out.

I'm sorry @Karl_K - hope you feel better soon. Prayers for your health

 

[Queenie60]

We are not able to be with my husbands aunt who is in an extended care facility, they're confined to their living quarters and cannot have guests. My husband's cousin passed a few weeks ago and we just want to hug his Aunt and let her know she will be ok and we love her. She is 89 years old and lost her daughter, bad timing. This is driving us nuts.

 

[Ally T]

@Gussie I am so sorry to hear your sad news. These uncertain times just make everything sad just that bit harder. Sending hugs.

@arkieb1 This would totally drive me nuts too. I'd be hanging over that fence at 6.30am, bed head & smalls, giving them a piece of my mind! Urgh!

Thankfully I am like @kenny & @telephone89 in that I am quite happy being in lockdown. My family are safe, infections & deaths here are dropping quickly now compared to the end of March / beginning of April, I am reading heaps, getting far more fresh air than usual & as a family unit, things are great. If I can save just one persons life living under these pretty harsh restrictions, then I'm ok with that. I've definitely made peace with the situation.

 

[missy]

We are not able to be with my husbands aunt who is in an extended care facility, they're confined to their living quarters and cannot have guests. My husband's cousin passed a few weeks ago and we just want to hug his Aunt and let her know she will be ok and we love her. She is 89 years old and lost her daughter, bad timing. This is driving us nuts.

I am so sorry @Queenie60. This is hardest for those who have loved ones who are elderly and alone and who are losing loved ones. It is heartbreaking.

@Karl_K I am so sorry you are stressed and ill and I am continuing to keep you in my thoughts.

One of my greatest fears is that my dad or mom or DH will become ill. My dad is 86 and my mom's immune system is basically non existent. i worry about them. I also worry about my DH as he is over 60 and has compromised lung capacity as well as a few other conditions that are now being ignored due to the pandemic. He has a very suspicious mole on his thigh again where his first melanoma was removed in 2011. He was supposed to have it biopsied in March. So it weighs on my mind.

For me that is the worse thing about being quarantined. I don't mind being home so much. As long as everyone I love is healthy and safe I am OK with being home most of the time. I can deal with anything that comes our way if my loved ones are safe and well.

For everyone who is affected negatively I am sending bucketloads of good wishes your way. And gentle hugs. We just have to take it one day at a time and when that feels to be too much one hour at a time.

 

[Ally T]

I am so sorry @Queenie60. This is hardest for those who have loved ones who are elderly and alone and who are losing loved ones. It is heartbreaking.

@Karl_K I am so sorry you are stressed and ill and I am continuing to keep you in my thoughts.

One of my greatest fears is that my dad or mom or DH will become ill. My dad is 86 and my mom's immune system is basically non existent. i worry about them. I also worry about my DH as he is over 60 and has compromised lung capacity as well as a few other conditions that are now being ignored due to the pandemic. He has a very suspicious mole on his thigh again where his first melanoma was removed in 2011. He was supposed to have it biopsied in March. So it weighs on my mind.

For me that is the worse thing about being quarantined. I don't mind being home so much. As long as everyone I love is healthy and safe I am OK with being home most of the time. I can deal with anything that comes our way if my loved ones are safe and well.

For everyone who is affected negatively I am sending bucketloads of good wishes your way. And gentle hugs. We just have to take it one day at a time and when that feels to be too much one hour at a time.

Big hugs, lovely. Just keep on keeping on & make sure your parents stay tucked up & safe.

Fingers crossed for Greg & that he can get seen to soon. And NO WAY is he over 60??! What a hunk!