JenStone
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I attended my FBIL''s wedding this past weekend. I was already apprehensive about attending this wedding because I didn''t know anyone who would be there (aside from family, who would be speaking Chinese the entire night) and I knew my FI wouldn''t be able to spend much time with me since he was the best man.
I know the wedding was THEIR day and I''m happy for them. However, I did learn a few things from this wedding...mostly what NOT to do.....
1.) They had a head table and basically, I was stuck in the "reject" table. This term was humorously coined by those of us at this table. It consisted of dates of the bridal party and the photographer. We were seated the furthest away from the head table. This wouldn''t have been so bad, except that the DJ equipment totally blocked our view of the head table! We couldn''t even see our dates do their bridal party duties, make their speeches, etc. Good thing we all had a good sense of humor and joked about it together.
2.) The bridal party all danced together, each bridesmaid to groomsman. No offense to those who plan on doing this, but not one of us (the dates of the bridal party) liked this too much.
3.) The bride changed thrice throughout the night, from her white wedding gown to a Korean traditional dress, then to a Chinese dress, then back to her white dress...each time making another grand entrance announced by the DJ. The groom always left the banquet room with her, along with the bridesmaids. So there were three instances where half the bridal party disappeared for about 15 minutes. In addition, they had the Chinese tea ceremony in a different room during the banquet so they disappeared for another 30 minutes. They didn''t announce that they were even having a tea ceremony so most of the guests were left baffled as to why the entire bridal party and family left without saying a word. All in all, I just felt that there were just too many interruptions during the 4 hour reception.
Although we had fun at the wedding, my FI and I both discussed what had happened and decided to do a bunch of things differently. I know your wedding is your day and you should be able to do what makes you happy. However, I still equate our wedding to a big party and I want to be a good hostess and make sure everyone has fun.
Since this is the first wedding we attended as an engaged couple, it almost seemed like we were taking notes....is that wrong? Does anyone else do this? What have you learned from attending other weddings while engaged?
I know the wedding was THEIR day and I''m happy for them. However, I did learn a few things from this wedding...mostly what NOT to do.....
1.) They had a head table and basically, I was stuck in the "reject" table. This term was humorously coined by those of us at this table. It consisted of dates of the bridal party and the photographer. We were seated the furthest away from the head table. This wouldn''t have been so bad, except that the DJ equipment totally blocked our view of the head table! We couldn''t even see our dates do their bridal party duties, make their speeches, etc. Good thing we all had a good sense of humor and joked about it together.
2.) The bridal party all danced together, each bridesmaid to groomsman. No offense to those who plan on doing this, but not one of us (the dates of the bridal party) liked this too much.
3.) The bride changed thrice throughout the night, from her white wedding gown to a Korean traditional dress, then to a Chinese dress, then back to her white dress...each time making another grand entrance announced by the DJ. The groom always left the banquet room with her, along with the bridesmaids. So there were three instances where half the bridal party disappeared for about 15 minutes. In addition, they had the Chinese tea ceremony in a different room during the banquet so they disappeared for another 30 minutes. They didn''t announce that they were even having a tea ceremony so most of the guests were left baffled as to why the entire bridal party and family left without saying a word. All in all, I just felt that there were just too many interruptions during the 4 hour reception.
Although we had fun at the wedding, my FI and I both discussed what had happened and decided to do a bunch of things differently. I know your wedding is your day and you should be able to do what makes you happy. However, I still equate our wedding to a big party and I want to be a good hostess and make sure everyone has fun.
Since this is the first wedding we attended as an engaged couple, it almost seemed like we were taking notes....is that wrong? Does anyone else do this? What have you learned from attending other weddings while engaged?