what do you think of "shhhhhh-shing"?

[janinegirly]

Very random topic, but on my commute today I heard a husband sternly shhussshing his wife as she got a little animated in their conversation. It wasn''t an argument, just an exchange. It seemed kind of rude to me since it wasn''t done tenderly, kind of like how you shush a dog!

This made me wonder--do you find it offensive to be shusshed? How about with children? Strangers? (seen this on the train too when someone is too loud on the cell...a united SHUSSSH follows--that I don''t mind so much .

 

[tyty333]

I have to shusss my kids all the time...(the younger two are 5 and 7). I think that is normal right? I dont think I have
ever shussed my husband and would only do it if I really felt like he was being disrespectful to others around us. I dont
think he has ever shussed me either. There are a couple of times I have felt like shushing people. Its mostly while
they are on their cell phones and they are sharing their conversations with everyone in the resturant. I cant help
but think that these people are so rude (or the other word that enters my mind is stupid

).

 

[luckystar112]

DH has a habit of Shh-ing me sometimes, but not in an angry way.
Still, it drives me crazy.
For example: We went to a movie the other day and the girl sitting behind me had to have been the.most.annoying.girl.ever. She wouldn''t shut up through the whole movie. She was one of those "I need to guess about what is going to happen next" types so most of the time she was saying things like, "Oh, I bet that''s not really him" right before we''d get the answer. SO ANNOYING. So I flipped around and gave her the stink eye then looked forward and muttered jussssssst loud enough "She needs to shut up."
DH shh-ed me in a way that told me that I was out of line. It was annoying, but the girl shut up.

 

[mayachel]

I think it depends. It could be a short shhh and simply a request for quiet which seems fine or a long drawn out shhhhhhhhhh or SHUSH! that would strike me as rude.

 

[dragonfly411]

I think it depends on the circumstance. My mom actually shushed three girls at my sister''s graduation. We didn''t know them, and they were rudely loud during all the speeches, to the point that several people around them were disturbed and we couldn''t hear. They also poked fun during the pledge and the national anthem

I have had to shh SO before, he tends to talk loud in restaurants out of fear of not being heard, and sometimes it turns to personal topics that I don''t want others to hear .

It really depends to me though. I would never do it in a harsh tone

 

[KimberlyH]

It depends on how it''s done. I tend to get loud when we''re in a place with background noise and it embarrasses me; we devised a signal (he puts his finger to his lips w/o saying "shhh") and I know my voice is too loud.

 

[MonkeyPie]

Date: 6/12/2009 1:45:34 PM
Author: luckystar112
DH has a habit of Shh-ing me sometimes, but not in an angry way.

Still, it drives me crazy.

For example: We went to a movie the other day and the girl sitting behind me had to have been the.most.annoying.girl.ever. She wouldn''t shut up through the whole movie. She was one of those ''I need to guess about what is going to happen next'' types so most of the time she was saying things like, ''Oh, I bet that''s not really him'' right before we''d get the answer. SO ANNOYING. So I flipped around and gave her the stink eye then looked forward and muttered jussssssst loud enough ''She needs to shut up.''

DH shh-ed me in a way that told me that I was out of line. It was annoying, but the girl shut up.

Nicely done! Hah, I hate when people do this in a theater - honestly, why do they think it''s ok to do that?

I tend to get loud, especially if I can''t hear myself very well. So I yell a bit

And my husband will sometimes shush me, quietly. But I appreciate that!

It''s worse when parents DON''T shush their kids, and they are being especially loud. Ugh.

 

[princesss]

I''m a really loud person. I don''t mean to be, but I''m definitely that person. I try not to be loud, but sometimes it happens. BF has been known to shhh me out of exasperation sometimes. Mostly I''m just embarassed that I''ve been so loud and obnoxious. But if he were to do it rudely, I''d be a little upset.

I wish I was a shhhh-er. There are some shows (*cough*LOST*cough*) where you really miss a lot if somebody''s talking, and we tried having a LOST-watching party one time but our friends missed the "watching" part of the memo and got stuck on "party." I wanted to shhhh them SO badly, but I didn''t and we re-watched it online the next day.

 

[atroop711]

that''s one of my pet-peeves when my dh SHHHHHhhhss me or anyone. I think it''s rude. Usually the SHHHH-er is usually as loud or louder than the person they are trying to shhhsh.

Personally I just put my finger up to my mouth and get my point across to my dh when he''s speaking to loud and I''m not next to him to tell him quietly that he''s been too loud. I do the same to my kids if they are across from me but being a tad loud.

In the movies I just ask someone nicely if they could keep it down.

I guess it''s the way the Shhhh-shing is done. I think it''s ok when trying to explain to a small child but not how most ppl do it. SHHHHHHHHH-SHHHHHHHH!!!!! Ugh irks the heck out of me

 

[mysterylover]

Shushing a wife? In public??

That would earn my hubs the "Oh, no, you didn''t" glare, and I''d go on speaking however I wanted.

I wouldn''t do it to him, and I doubt he would have the nerve to do it to me.

 

[monarch64]

Date: 6/12/2009 2:04:27 PM
Author: princesss
I''m a really loud person. I don''t mean to be, but I''m definitely that person. I try not to be loud, but sometimes it happens. BF has been known to shhh me out of exasperation sometimes. Mostly I''m just embarassed that I''ve been so loud and obnoxious. But if he were to do it rudely, I''d be a little upset.

I wish I was a shhhh-er. There are some shows (*cough*LOST*cough*) where you really miss a lot if somebody''s talking, and we tried having a LOST-watching party one time but our friends missed the ''watching'' part of the memo and got stuck on ''party.'' I wanted to shhhh them SO badly, but I didn''t and we re-watched it online the next day.

Were you the annoying girl sitting behind Luckystar at the theater? Just wondering.

I''m not a shush-er. I will give the stink-eye in a heartbeat though. I''m good with facial expressions!

 

[trillionaire]

Date: 6/12/2009 2:48:58 PM
Author: mysterylover
Shushing a wife? In public??

That would earn my hubs the 'Oh, no, you didn't' glare, and I'd go on speaking however I wanted.

I wouldn't do it to him, and I doubt he would have the nerve to do it to me.

LOL!!!

I think we've done it to each other on occassion, but neither of us like it. It's more of a quick reaction, like during a Movie, sporting event, news report, radio broadcast when something is highly time sensitive and there is not time to say 'babe, hold on a second please'. So, in that case, there is shushing, followed by a crazy look or head scratching by the shushed, then followed by an apology by the shusher, and forgiveness by the shushee!

 

[princesss]

Date: 6/12/2009 2:56:00 PM
Author: monarch64

Date: 6/12/2009 2:04:27 PM
Author: princesss
I''m a really loud person. I don''t mean to be, but I''m definitely that person. I try not to be loud, but sometimes it happens. BF has been known to shhh me out of exasperation sometimes. Mostly I''m just embarassed that I''ve been so loud and obnoxious. But if he were to do it rudely, I''d be a little upset.

I wish I was a shhhh-er. There are some shows (*cough*LOST*cough*) where you really miss a lot if somebody''s talking, and we tried having a LOST-watching party one time but our friends missed the ''watching'' part of the memo and got stuck on ''party.'' I wanted to shhhh them SO badly, but I didn''t and we re-watched it online the next day.

Were you the annoying girl sitting behind Luckystar at the theater? Just wondering.

I''m not a shush-er. I will give the stink-eye in a heartbeat though. I''m good with facial expressions!

Darn you and your detective skills! LOL

I make a point to try not talk during movies because I know I''m so loud. The one exception lately was when we went to go see Angels and Demons. I got all excited because I saw this fabulous gelato place that we went to in Rome and I wanted to point it out to BF. Stupid, but it was exciting at the moment. I''m fairly certain that really only bothered *him*, though. I''m loud, but oddly enough I''m really good at whispering.

 

[April20]

I got "shushed" just a few years ago by someone and just about melted down. I wasn''t being obnoxious or even overly loud. This person was just VERY reserved and I suppose didn''t think I was being appropriate. As an adult, I found it highly offensive to be shushed because I didn''t fall into what they felt was appropriate. I have a huge issue with managing to the lowest common denominator with people that think everything is inappropriate, but I digress.

 

[JSM]

I've been known to 'shhh' my brother's fiance. She's nice but talks a lot and talks LOUDLY. I'll gently say 'shhh' and lower my hand in a gesture meant to say, "just a bit softer, please!".

I'll rudely 'shush' friends in the middle of a movie if they won't shut up. I'm sure they don't like it but, hey, they shouldn't be talking during the movie anyway!

 

[fatafelice]

LOL! I spend all day shushing students, so it has become somewhat ingrained. I have accidentally shushed DH several times, and twice (I think) I have shushed perfect strangers in public without thinking about it. One time I was lucky, and they didn''t hear me. The other, they looked at me, very surprised, and I quickly apologized!

 

[Kaleigh]

I had to shush my Nanny all the time, because she loved saying iawful things in public just to get a rise out of people. Like in the doctors office in a crowded waiting room...

But if Hubby shushed me, well I wouldn''t be pleased. I would probably give him one of my death glares. Like oh you just shushed me??? HA!!

 

[packrat]

I''m loud too. Especially if I''m telling a story about something, I get really animated. JD and I went to see I Am Legend in the theater..they had it turned up to super loud rumble your eardrums level..and the part where Will Smith puts his family on the helicopter, I leaned over to JD, and obviously couldn''t whisper, so I said "It''s gonna crash!"..not knowing of course that the sound cuts out at that point..the theater was packed and everyone turned around..so I looked around like oh hey, who''s yelling? So embarrassing. JD doesn''t shush me tho..he does this thing where he kind of raises his chin a little and raises his eyebrows at me and sometimes he''ll put his hands out and pat the air like, settle down. Or we do Dr. Evil-"Lemme tell ya a little story ''bout a man named SHHH"

 

[rainwood]

I like shushing when it''s done to others. I hate it when it''s done to me.

 

[EricaR]

I have to shhhhh my husband. When he gets fired up he can get LOUD! If we are in a restaurant or somewhere else in public he forgets to moderate his volume. A few times I haven''t shhh-ed him and pointed it out later, and he was then embarrassed that personal matters may have been overheard. I just try to be polite and wait until he''s done speaking. I''d rather say "volume" or "your voice is loud" rather than "shhhhh".

 

[loriken214]

I''m very animated when I talk and you know how I''m feeling by looking at me. DH doesn''t like it when I get upset or excited and tends to tell me to "calm down" or "shhh".....BIG MISTAKE! This is one area where he and I will never agree. He comes from a family of dominant males who always told their Mother to quiet down and stop crying, etc. Well, that crap doesn''t work with me since I come from a family of dominant females and am used to sharing my feelings and not being told to stop.

I don''t hesitate to give someone the evil eye if they are being too loud in the wrong place and will make a comment to DH. He gets SO upset with me if he thinks the person heard what I said, though he''ll talk about them to me as long as they can''t hear him.

Lori

 

[whitby_2773]

Date: 6/12/2009 8:25:23 PM
Author: Kaleigh
I had to shush my Nanny all the time, because she loved saying iawful things in public just to get a rise out of people. Like in the doctors office in a crowded waiting room...

But if Hubby shushed me, well I wouldn''t be pleased. I would probably give him one of my death glares. Like oh you just shushed me??? HA!!

well, just so long as it was all legal....

(loved this typo, kaliegh )

chuckling....

 

[Imdanny]

I think it might be a necessary form of communication in an emergency. Social situation in public and interactions between people in general can be difficult to read and if I saw it frankly I'd ignore it. Do I find it offensive if it happens to me? Not necessarily.