What do you do when you want to PUNCH SOMEONE IN THE FACE!

[kama_s]

Date: 4/12/2010 9:27:30 AM
Author: Hudson_Hawk

Date: 4/12/2010 9:23:12 AM

Author: PinkAsscher678

When I get seriously mad, I''ll cry. A good cry works wonders for my temper, and no one gets hurt.

This is me too; however, it''s really not a good thing when you''re angry and trying to make a point/statement and all you can do is sob.

That is exactly what I do too - and I used to hate when I''d start crying in the middle of an argument or when I''m so upset if something goes horribly wrong. But my parents used physical force, so I''ve come to realize that tears far trumps violence any given day!!

 

[Callisto]

I can''t remember the last time I was that mad at friends or family so I''d probably act different with them, but there are a few people at work who just consistently piss me off and my current solution is really deep breaths. I just go in my office close my eyes and take 3-4 really deep slow breaths and then I try to avoid that person for at least an hour. I haven''t punched anyone yet so it must be working at least a little.

 

[HopeDream]

Try this discussion model:

When you ___(what ever she did to make you angry)____I feel ___(very very angry)____because___(articulate exacly why you are angry -did she do something that undid all you hard work or careful social planning?, made a situation with someone else worse? etc.).

I find letting the person know that you are angry with them and why, can be quite helpful.

 

[megumic]

Date: 4/12/2010 6:01:56 PM
Author: packrat
Hey, if you do get one of those punching guys..be careful where you put him. When you walk downstairs at night and are flipping on lights you may catch sight of him out of the corner of your eye and think someone is standing there, causing you to enter ninja state and prepare for attack. If you put him in the garage, don''t put him in front of a window b/c looking out the kitchen window you may think there is someone in the garage in which case you may duck down and waddle thru the kitchen and do some sneaky reconnoitering with the phone set on 911 until you realize hey..yeah, that''s the punching guy.


I''m not saying either of these things have happened to *myself* upon spying my husband''s punching guy, and I''m not saying these things have happened several times due to my overactive imagination. Just friendly advice.

I JUST LITERALLY FELL OVER OFF THE COUCH LAUGHING HYSTERICALLY!!! Thanks for this - it just made my night

 

[megumic]

Date: 4/12/2010 7:44:36 PM
Author: HopeDream
Try this discussion model:



When you ___(what ever she did to make you angry)____I feel ___(very very angry)____because___(articulate exacly why you are angry -did she do something that undid all you hard work or careful social planning?, made a situation with someone else worse? etc.).


I find letting the person know that you are angry with them and why, can be quite helpful.

You''d think that would work, and with *normal* people it usually does. But when irrational immature individuals are involved the response one gets (and has gotten recently to such approaches) is: "I resent you."

Feeels pretttttyyyy darn crappy. Hence Mr. Punch-me-in-my-6-pack.

 

[HopeDream]

I'm sorry you have to deal with crazy people!

You are a strong and intelligent woman. you will get through this. punching man will help.

 

[packrat]

Dammit, I just realized I should''ve added a theme song to play in the background of my post. Crap. My theme

K, Meg, now go back and read it again while the music plays! It has way more impact.

 

[junebug17]

I usually vent to my husband. After a while he'll say "hey, don't get mad at me" and I'll say "I'm not mad at you, I'm mad at so and so, I'm just venting" and he'll say "oh, ok" and then I keep on venting as his eyes start to glaze over.

My husband doesn't understand venting.

 

[zoebartlett]

Packrat -- that''s hilarious!

Meg -- I''m sorry you''re feeling so tense right now. I hope things are okay soon.

I usually find that having a good cry and then writing down how I''m feeling can help. If I''m angry at a specific person, I write a letter to him/her but I don''t send it. Getting it out helps and that''s usually all it takes to feel better.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

I''ve never punched anyone but have yelled at people. . .mostly my pet-peeve is when people don''t stop for pedestrians at cross walks. No joke here - someone almost ran over me yesterday. I was walking across at a four-way stop and the guy came within a foot of hitting me. I turned and he waved kind of an ooops, and I yelled out, "CROSS WALK," and pointed right down at it. I wouldn''t have punched him though if he hit me. Seems like suing him would have been the more sucessful way of getting him in the gut. lol

Years back I took a kickboxing class and around the same time, was obsessed with the show "Alias," with Jennifer Garner. I swear that show made me want to punch random annoying people at the grocery store for stealing my spot in the deli line.

 

[geckodani]

I throw things. Usually socks, since they can''t cause much damage.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Meg...if it will make you feel better then go ahead and...SHOCK IT TO ME BABY!!

 

[MichelleCarmen]

Date: 4/13/2010 1:58:03 PM
Author: geckodani
I throw things. Usually socks, since they can''t cause much damage.

Ugh, socks. My kids throw them everywhere, but not out of anger, just habit. Drives me nuts. Seriously.

 

[dragonfly411]

kickboxing - GREAT way to take out frustration.

 

[Steel]

I internalise, like all good oppressed housewives.

 

[Amethyste]

Honestly, I know that sounds weird... But when I am sper angry and ready to cap one in someone''s head, I..........:

DO SOMETHING NICE. Right after that incident.

I either walk off the situation ( most likely it is at work ), and go see another co-worker and instead of complaining or talking about the incident,
I ask them about their day, and pay a compliment to them in either their hair or what they are wearing. It makes them smile, and makes me happy in return...

If I am in a situation I cannot talk to another person, I close my eyes and talk to either my mom and dad ( i know eventhough they are no longer living, they are around me ).

It works for me most of the time... Otherwise, there is always the Irving Station on my way home and I know they have a a 1/4 gallon of Cherry Garcia waiting for me

 

[VRBeauty]

I rarely get that mad or frustrated but it does happen on occasion. I once punched a guy in the gut. He was a dorm-mate. Fortunately he either realized that what he had done to provoke it was out of line, or wasn''t fazed by my punch, and didn''t try to retaliate. I once took my frustrations with a BF out on my bathroom mirror. My house is beyond vintage and that was a major pain to fix... lesson learned. There have been times when I''ve gone around the house slamming doors, and stomping my feet, or shouting like a little kid. It''s rare, but it does happen!

My rages are pretty organic. Aside from getting myself in a private place, I don''t think about them, they just happen. But most of the time I''m a pretty easy-going person. I know people who seem to be perpetually angry and constantly muttering to themselves or their SOs or anyone else who will listen about that so-and-so or the latest injustice that''s being foisted on them.

Personally I''d rather indulge the occasional rage session to deal with that stuff than to carry the anger around with me all the time.

 

[megumic]

I did actually slap someone across the face once. It shocks everyone I know to hear the story, since it''s so out of character for me.

During college at a big 10 football game some kid sitting behind us would not stop saying comments that although were not personally insulting to me, I felt were inappropriate for the public setting we were in. So after kindly asking him to CUT IT OUT once. The second time I wound up and said, "I told you to SHUT YOUR MOUTH!" And then I caused a fight. And then we got kicked out of the football game. I partially blame the midday college binge drinking...

 

[missy]

Date: 4/13/2010 10:30:38 PM
Author: Amethyste


Honestly, I know that sounds weird... But when I am sper angry and ready to cap one in someone''s head, I..........:


DO SOMETHING NICE. Right after that incident.


I either walk off the situation ( most likely it is at work ), and go see another co-worker and instead of complaining or talking about the incident,

I ask them about their day, and pay a compliment to them in either their hair or what they are wearing. It makes them smile, and makes me happy in return...


If I am in a situation I cannot talk to another person, I close my eyes and talk to either my mom and dad ( i know eventhough they are no longer living, they are around me ).


It works for me most of the time... Otherwise, there is always the Irving Station on my way home and I know they have a a 1/4 gallon of Cherry Garcia waiting for me

That''s a great suggestion Amethyste!! I am going to do it next time someone pisses me off. I think it is genius!!