what do you consider sexual harassment ?

[LGK]

Date: 5/14/2009 3:53:11 PM
Author: HollyS
Butt grabbing is WAY over the line. Always report physical contact that is unwelcome and/or sexual.

As an adult I would definitely report it. At 17, for whatever reason, I didn't. It was long enough ago I honestly can't remember *why* I didn't- I vaguely think I may have given my notice and it was my last couple of days there, but I could be wrong. I was the most incredibly introverted teenager, so it may just have been that I didn't want to go through the hassle of talking about it.

(Wish I could say that was the dumbest thing I did when I was that age, but not even close!)

 

[Steel]

Wow PP....A chair

. If that is sexual discrimination you must be kinky

.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 5/14/2009 3:29:35 PM
Author: HollyS
I draw the line at Quid Pro Quo. I will not trade sex for advancement. And I would probably give serious thought to filing a lawsuit.

People''s little comments, wolf whistles, tacky girlie calendars or screen savers don''t faze me. I find those men to be rather juvenile and mostly stupid, and that often works to my advantage. And it certainly lets me know up front what they''re made of. Kind of separates the boys from the men here in the corporate world.

what if my boss was one hot lady.what should i do?

 

[bee*]

Date: 5/14/2009 11:20:42 AM
Author: purrfectpear
In my case, touching and/or extremely explicit verbal comments. Something beyond ''how you doin'' baby''

That''s how I feel too. It takes a lot to make me feel uncomfortable around someone so it would have to really be over the line before I''d think it was sexual harassment.

 

[HollyS]

"I dont live my life under a PC microscope and I let a lot slide, I find a lot of people over sensitive to comments" - SDL

I agree. And maybe it''s an age thing. I remember one guy (back a good 25+ years ago before the age of all things PC) asking me to ''sit on his face''. Quite openly a sexual comment, but I don''t recall getting uptight about it. Guys used to say these things just to get a rise out of a girl; if you didn''t take the bait, you were judged to be okay and worthy of their respect. Maybe it was a way to define the parameters of the work relationship; sort of like dogs sniffing butts. A comment like that was usually not meant as anything but a joke. Not really funny . . . but also not upsetting if taken in that context.

I was a whole lot more miffed at my boss at that time; he ''rated'' me on a scale of 1-10 when he interviewed me! And it had nothing to do with my resume; it was how I looked.

(He gave me an It was sexist to say the least, humiliating, but also snarky ''cause I was a pretty foxy 20 and he was a fat arsed tub o'' ugly.

 

[musey]

Date: 5/14/2009 4:21:31 PM
Author: Dancing Fire

Date: 5/14/2009 1:06:34 PM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 5/14/2009 1:03:29 PM
Author: MC

Date: 5/14/2009 1:00:21 PM
Author: fieryred33143
You know what else counts??? If someone has a picture of themselves on their desk in a bikini and a person is offended, they can report it to HR.

Who would put a photo of themself in a bikini on their own desk??? That is just bizarre.

Like Musey, I don't work in an office so I'm totally oblivious to customs in that environment. The only photos I'd put up would be those of my cat! When I was recently promised a job, I was told never to bring up my kids because one of the owners doesn't like kids. Should I put photos of them up in their swim trunks to bug him?

Wait.... you guys dont have one?

elle

go ahead and post your pix

i wouldn't feel offended.

A good example of taking a joke a little too far. Some people might feel 'sexually harassed' by this comment, Dfire.

 

[joflier]

Double ditto on whatever gives you that weirded out feeling. It truely depends on the guy, too. Some guys can get away with making some off sexual remarks and I would think its funny. Others could just stand a little too close, and I totally get the heebie jeebies.

 

[Dancing Fire]

Date: 5/14/2009 10:56:37 PM
Author: joflier
Double ditto on whatever gives you that weirded out feeling. It truely depends on the guy, too. Some guys can get away with making some off sexual remarks and I would think its funny. Others could just stand a little too close, and I totally get the heebie jeebies.

my RH gf.

 

[loriken214]

We were attending an off site teambuilding meeting and were taking informal photos in one of the hospitality rooms. I was in the middle of two co workers, both guys, and just before the photo was taken one of the guys bent over and put his open mouth next to my breast......I was sitting in a bar chair and screamed when I saw his mouth close to me and ended up falling out of the chair with a beer in my hand. Everyone turned to see what had happened and there was Lori on the floor with a beer in her hand. I was mortified and took my boss into another room and explained what I had just encountered. They wrote this guy up for harrassment and he had to apologize to me. HE THOUGHT I WOULD GET A KICK OUT OF IT! Due to other problems, this guy left the company not too long after that.

Also, there was another guy I worked with and he used to come "visit" me in my office from time to time. He didn''t work in my department and his office was in the basement of the building so it was obvious when he showed up. Anyway, he used to want to give me hugs....I''m a hugger and will give hugs freely. Well, this guy''s hugs got tighter and tighter as time went on. He even tricked me into taking off my sweater one time, supposedly to see the label on the inside to see who made it, what he really wanted was to check out my bustline.....UGG!!! I finally got rid of him after one of the nurses in my department told me that he had been written up for stalking another employee.....she intervened and was always there when he showed up.

Lori