What did you love about your wedding? What was an abject failure?

[Barcelona]

Date: 7/10/2009 10:11:56 AM
Author: monarch64
Wedding=everything was fabulous/gorgeous/perfect


Marriage=abject failure.

Same here!

 

[Gypsy]

LOL Whitby, we are our own worst critics, I know.

I wanted comfortable low wedge shoes (grass, no heels sinking) that I could wear again. And I found these, and they are a brand that I own like 6 pairs from, and all of them are just so comfortable... except these.

Here they are... they actual are HORRIBLY uncomfortable. And they were ugly to boot. LOL.

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Date: 7/13/2009 4:10:03 PM
Author: Gypsy
LOL Whitby, we are our own worst critics, I know.


I wanted comfortable low wedge shoes (grass, no heels sinking) that I could wear again. And I found these, and they are a brand that I own like 6 pairs from, and all of them are just so comfortable... except these.


Here they are... they actual are HORRIBLY uncomfortable. And they were ugly to boot. LOL.

I think they''re cute Gypsy!

Stop dissin'' the design of the shoes! Lol.

 

[KristyDarling]

LOVED:
* having my immediate family there with me, all together for the first time in years.
* having my bridesmaids there with me (they had flown in from all over the country)
* all the vibrant, ultra-bright, vividly colored flowers
* pumpkin orange tablecloths...yes, pumpkin
* unusual music selections for the church service (no "Here Comes the Bride" for me!)
* beautiful and historic church, beautiful reception space

HATED:
* my awful makeup -- ugh! Now I have my wedding photos to remind me of it for the rest of my life!
* my hair -- can you say "shellacked?"
* my dress -- there were probably about a hundred more flattering styles that I could've chosen instead
* having an expensive wedding coordinator. In retrospect, we could've done it without her.
* listening to my wedding coordinator and ordering a very expensive, yet very PLAIN and unremarkable cake from Perfect Endings in Napa.
* listening to my wedding coordinator and hiring a very BAD photographer. *I* could've taken better pictures. The wed coord also told me to hire a videographer who later cussed me out yelling and screaming 2 days after the wedding -- she accused me of not paying the balance, when I had actually paid the whole thing in full months ago. Beeyotch!
* having to hitch a ride home with a random wedding guest because my new husband was butt-wasted and too incoherent to leave the reception hall...his groomsmen carried him back to the hotel.

If I had to do it all over again, I would've taken more time with hair/makeup trials (I only did one but got impatient, and said "OK this is fine" without REALLY scrutinizing), and with selecting my dress (again, lost patience and quit after only trying on FIVE dresses...big mistake). Every time I look at my wedding photos, I cringe! My bridal look could've been so much nicer. I also would skip the wedding coordinator and would've forced myself to man-up and do more of the planning work myself...would've saved us a bundle and I would've probably ended up with a better videographer and photographer.

BUT, at the end of the day, it's all just smoke and mirrors. I married the man I am supposed to be with and it's been 8 years now, still going strong.

 

[Gypsy]

Date: 7/14/2009 4:28:18 PM
Author: SarahLovesJS

Date: 7/13/2009 4:10:03 PM
Author: Gypsy
LOL Whitby, we are our own worst critics, I know.


I wanted comfortable low wedge shoes (grass, no heels sinking) that I could wear again. And I found these, and they are a brand that I own like 6 pairs from, and all of them are just so comfortable... except these.


Here they are... they actual are HORRIBLY uncomfortable. And they were ugly to boot. LOL.

I think they're cute Gypsy!

Stop dissin' the design of the shoes! Lol.

It's more of an insult to injury thing. I felt like I wanted to amputate my feet half way through the night. And I mean, come on... if you are going to go through the PAIN of uncomfortable shoes... you might as well get the gain of glorious show stoppers as well. If they had been comfortable I would have had NO issue with them at all. But they really hurt. I can't even wear them to work (and I spend most of my time sitting) now. The place where the wedge ends on the heel gives them a weird center of gravity that shoots serious bolts of pain into my heels and ankles.

And it's not like I didn't buy 2 other pairs of shoes that are now collecting dust.

VIOLET where are you hon??? We need to have the bridal yard sale. I got a bunch of stuff to unload.

 

[Elmorton]

Loved:
1) My husband - of course, still do (and, for the record, this is the only item in order! Everything else is more random)
2) My dress, my veil, my jewelry, my hair, my makeup, my shoes, my flowers - I''ve never felt more beautiful
3) How my friends/family looked - beautiful, and insanely happy. Seeing everyone''s smiles made me realize how ridiculously loved DH and I are
4) Our cake. The food. If I could eat one meal for the rest of my life, I''d be happy with the one at our reception
5) The dancing! I thought I''d get sick of the dance floor like I do for others'' weddings, but I practically had to be dragged off of it. Loved dancing with my mom to NKOTB (she took me to the concert when I was in 2nd grade)
6) Everyone helping out to make it perfect - friends brought the arrangement from the ceremony and set them out at the reception which was super cool and unexpected. Tear down at the ceremony site was a breeze b/c everyone pitched in and it took literally 30 seconds (at the rehearsal we delegated, so members of the BP, readers, parents, etc, just grabbed their one assigned item and headed to the car)
7) Our ceremony. We asked a friend to do the officiating and he took it SERIOUSLY. Best wedding officiant I''ve heard to date. It was perfect. We also wrote our own ceremony (sortof - had some help from prayer/ceremony books) and sometimes it''s crazy how spot on we were about what a marriage means.
My husband''s vows. The night before, he showed them to me and they were...well, not his best. He''s a writer, and I knew he could do better - so I told him so. It hurt his feelings initially, but when he got home, he saw what I meant about needing revision. So, while he''d seen every revision of my vows, I had no idea what he was going to say. They were beautiful - and we often say little bits of them to each other.
9) The wedding suite. The BMS and I got ready there and it was gorgeous for the photos - and then as a wedding night, it was pretty awesome too. Loved it.
10) What my dad said as he gave me away - he told my DH "I''m giving you the best I have." Total tearjearker moment.

Abject Fail:
1) The weather. It was 92 and one of my readers nearly passed out (outdoor ceremony).
2) Placecards - I spent a ton of time on those and then my grandparents decided they didn''t like my table arranging and sat where they wanted - throwing off 3 other tables...and I found this out as I was about the enter the reception because my mom ran into the hallway to tell me that I''d "messed up the seating arrangements!!"
3) We''d arranged to have the cocktail hour appetizers ready backstage (reception was in a theater) before BP arrived, but caterer forgot until 3 seconds before we were going to be announced..so I really didn''t get to try any of the apps. My BMs said it was great though because the caters also forgot to clear that area, so they noshed all night. Haha.
4) Ushers - love them, but they totally messed up ceremony seating. DH''s grandparents were sitting in the 5th row.
5) Parents totally couldn''t follow directions. DH''s parents weren''t seated how they were supposed to be, and my dad threw a fit near the end of the reception because he told me he wanted to drive home right after bfast the next morning and that I''d sprung tearing down the reception/taking gifts to my house on him (I''d told him all this info multiple times and it was on an itinerary that he received a week before the wedding and then again when he arrived in town for the wedding). Oh well.
6) Honeymoon - if I had to do it again, I would do it a week or two after the wedding, NOT the day after the wedding. We were exhausted.
7) I left 1/2 of the centerpieces at home and was so upset with myself during the rehearsal. But, it was that moment I needed to realize that things weren''t going to be perfect and that was OK.
Emergency kits are a GOOD THING and aren''t just for the ceremony. My dad''s tux pants broke on one side right as the reception started, so in photos, he''s trying to discreetly hold up one side. No one had a safety pin.
9) In the parking garage, some kids who were high threw a beer (full) at one of my guests. Luckily, it didn''t hit her. I didn''t hear about this until a month later, but it was a reminder that downtown areas DO have serious drawbacks.
10) Went by way, way, way too fast!!!!!

 

[litebrite]

I loved pretty much everything about my wedding, and I loved all my vendors except for the flower lady, who forgot that she was doing our wedding until a week before when my mother in law checked in with her!!! (but really, I am not huge on flowers to begin with and it was very reasonably priced. Except that when I look at my wedding pics, I can see the dropping in my bouquet.)

But really I loved my dress, the food, my dj, my makeup artist, my photographer, the venue. It was so very worth it. And this is all coming from someone who never wanted to get married. No crazy people fighting, no drama, just love.

My wedding day was one of the happiest days of my life. Now, the planning of the wedding was a different story.

 

[diamondringlover]

I loved the weather, it rained for a week before and a week after my wedding, the day of my wedding the sun came out and it was about 75 with a gentle breeze, loved my dress, got is off the clearance rack at JC Penney, but it fit wonderfully and it was beautiful, loved the music at the ceremony, there was a women that I worked with her daughter had the most amazing voice (she ended up singing as backup singer for Stevie Wonder!) I loved the fact the we had a live band at the reception and at one time me and both my sisters (triple wedding) were out on the dance floor with my parents doing the can-can in our wedding dresses, sure wish we had video tape of that!!! lol

What I didnt like, the zipper on my beautiful dress broke as my MOH was zipping it up! Lucky for me my FMIL had a small sewing kit in her purse and she was able to fix it! I didnt like the fact the my MIL and FIL were fighting on that day, there were recently divorced and several of the pictures you can tell they were pissed off, I didnt like the fact that the wedding took so long, since it was a triple wedding and the fact that the preacher was long winded the ceremony lasted around an hour and then he forget to do the part where we exchanged rings and he had to backtrack lol, he was very nervous (we had the local TV station there).

What I did and didnt like was the fact that I had a triple wedding, I realized later that it wasnt our special day, I shared it with my sisters, so I have mixed emotions about that.

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

I loved the weather-had rained for almost an entire month straight prior to it. I also loved how small and intimate it was. I hated the DJ and think it was a waste of $500. They didn''t really do much at all.

 

[DMBFiredancer]

Date: 7/10/2009 10:50:07 AM
Author: Italiahaircolor
Loved



Failed



2. 2 of my bridesmaids...what a let down.

wow....glad to see i''m not the only one.
and mine were my sisters.

so sad.

 

[DMBFiredancer]

Loved: EVERYTHING!!!!

except....

1. Photographers could not figure out how to show the OCEAN through the windows during the reception. UGGGGH. some of my friends were somehow able to do it, thankfully.

2. 2 of my sisters (bridesmaids) were fighting the whole weekend...and onto my wedding day. Thank GOD I did not witness this. I hear that they were fighting at the table even. I have not talked to either sister since. I am fuming.

3. I wish I would NOT have left 4 hours in between the end of the reception and the after party. Nobody warned me of how EXHAUSTED I would be. We had very good intentions of having everyone watch the sunset with cocktails from the hotel sundeck, but that did not really come to fruition. By the time it was after party time at 8pm (reception ended at 4), me and hubby were SO TIRED. If we were to do it over, we''d do an after party right after the reception.

4. Sadly, my mom never made it down when me and my sister were getting ready in the morning. We both assumed the other told her and since we were getting ready so early (6-8am) we somehow missed getting my mom down to my room. TO this day, it bugs me. AND the fact that even though my other 2 sisters were invited down, they never showed. Oh wait...one did....but just for 5 minutes. Thank God for my 3rd sister (maid of honor) who was there the entire time and knew what to do. Luckily one of my best friends who wasnt a bridesmaid made it to the ''getting ready'' part.

5. The DJ could not find the music for the ceremony, but luckily I had a backup CD in my purse -thank God I think ahead!!!!!

Other than that, the day was PERFECT!!!!!!!