What book do you recommend for a breakup?

[Luckyeshe]

One of my really good friends just got dumped by her bf. She''s really down and I want to get her a book to help her get over it. I know that time heals all wounds, but I just want to help her smile again as well as help but things in perspective for her. I''m thinking of getting her He''s just not that into you but I''m not sure what else is a good one out there. That''s the only one I know of off the top of my head. TIA.

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

I would definitely get her "He''s Just Not That Into You" and "It''s Called a Breakup Because its Broken," which I think are by the same author??

 

[Luckyeshe]

Thanks, HH!

 

[cinnamongurl]

"Eat, Pray, Love" by Elizabeth Gilbert...LOVE that book!!

 

[treefrog]

I''m not sure there is any book that will help get over a breakup.

For possibly understanding the challenges a little better, and an EXCELLENT read regardless, I''m going with "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman. I read the Men''s edition but there are several editions. Don''t accidentally get the children''s edition though!

Treefrog

 

[Circe]

Do you want a "relationship" book, or just something to take her mind off of it? If it''s the former, I vote for "Sex and the Single Girl," by Helen Gurly Brown - an oldie but a goodie, and it definitely reminds you of the positive parts of being on your own. So many possibilities! Also, it''s kind of a fun cultural artifact. If it''s something to get her mind off of things, I''d recommend "Superior Women" by Alice Adams. Definitely drives home that men aren''t the centers of women''s lives!

 

[Luckyeshe]

Thanks, Circe, treefrog and cinnamongurl. I have the Five languages of Love so I''ll let her borrow it. Superior Women sounds awesome to get her mind off of things!

 

[SparkleSparkle]

I have a few that make you think/help you cope/make you laugh: Kiss My Tiara, Why Your Life Sucks, and What You Can Change... and What You Can''t.

 

[radiantquest]

I don''t think that Hes not that into you is a good choice. I think that it will remind her of how he isn''t into her and that is why they borke up.

My opinon is that you give her men are from mars and women are from venus. I think this will give her insight into relationships and help her see what is really going on with a man. This will give her inspiration for her next relationship and also help her succeed in further relationships.

 

[Dannielle]

Date: 7/23/2009 10:08:41 PM
Author: radiantquest
I don''t think that Hes not that into you is a good choice. I think that it will remind her of how he isn''t into her and that is why they borke up.

My opinon is that you give her men are from mars and women are from venus. I think this will give her insight into relationships and help her see what is really going on with a man. This will give her inspiration for her next relationship and also help her succeed in further relationships.

I tend to agree that "He is just not that in to you" may not be the best choice so soon after they have broken up. It would be like putting salt in the wound.

As HH suggested "It''s Called a Breakup Because its Broken" would be a fantastic choice

 

[OUpearlgirl]

Thritto on "It''s Called a Breakup Because It''s Broken"

It gives really good advice and it''s also a bit of a mood lifter.

 

[mayachel]

"A Woman''s Worth" by Marianne Williams. It is both female positive and love positive...something that can be hard to see post breakup

 

[dragonfly411]

I have to recommend "Dance of the Dissident Daughter" by Sue Monk Kidd. I read this after a break up. It is a very empowering book for women looking to find themselves and learning to be independent. It helped me quite a bit after I left my abusive ex. I hope you find what'' you''re looking for in a book! I love books

 

[Luckyeshe]

Date: 7/24/2009 10:28:17 AM
Author: dragonfly411
I have to recommend ''Dance of the Dissident Daughter'' by Sue Monk Kidd. I read this after a break up. It is a very empowering book for women looking to find themselves and learning to be independent. It helped me quite a bit after I left my abusive ex. I hope you find what'' you''re looking for in a book! I love books

Thanks, dragonfly! This is exactly what I need to get her. I want her to be empowered and not think she needs a man in her life alll the time. That it''s ok to be alone and independent. It''s better to be alone and happy, than miserable and with someone.

I got her It''s a Breakup because it''s Broken, and one other that''s been recommended on this thread. I just forgot the title since I ordered it online...but I''ll go to the store and get this one too! Thanks!

 

[Richard Sherwood]

The most practical book I''ve ever read on how to deal with emotional pain is Eckhart Tolles''s "The Power of Now".

A life changing book, which would help her not only now but throughout her entire life.