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What Advice/Warning would you give your 16 year old self?

Re: What Advice/Warning would you give your 16 year old self

I would tell her you are smarter than you think, You can go to Med school.
Wesson oil IS NOT sunscreen.
A credit card does not just pay itself. SAVE YOUR MONEY!!
Take the Aunt Rose's 3 ct Diamond Uncle Jerry is going to offer you when you are getting engaged, you can get a pear later!
When Richie says buy stock in that small company he is off to California to work for MICROSOFT, in the name of all that is holy sell that diamond and buy buy buy!
Other than that, have fun!
 
Re: What Advice/Warning would you give your 16 year old self

You just had the best year of your school life. You made great friends, had great teachers and an environment that stimulated you growth. Get ready, though, because the next three years will be tough. Unfortunately, there is no way out. A few tips:

- Put your foot down right away that you want to go to the school that is further away. I know that, on paper, that doesn't make sense but, believe me, it will get you out of an entirely miserable 3 months, a case of depression and an intro to anorexia. The other choice won't be great, but you will be all right
- Don't lose contact with the amazing people you met this year. They are some of the coolest, best informed, most interesting people you will meet. They will choose some amazing paths in life. Don't do as I did and drop the correspondence because it depressed you even more, because you couldn't be there, with them. Letters are the next best thing.
- On the same note, choose your friends wisely. Yes, they are weirdos but they are good people. You know who the wrong people are.
- Keep up your hobbies, your interests and your reading. They will enrich your life more than you can ever imagine.
- Be yourself. Yes, it is a strange, weird, unusual self and some people will hurt you for it. But they will still hurt you if you try to fit in or to force them to accept you. It is all right and you are not "wrong".
- Give that religion teacher as much trouble as you can, without getting into any yourself. Unlike your previous religion teacher, this one is a hypocrite and other students deserve to see it (besides, it will be very satisfying, believe me!).
 
Re: What Advice/Warning would you give your 16 year old self

Dear Self,
Don't ever get fat, it's hard to lose weight. I don't mean worrying about being up 5-10, I mean don't become obese. Stay active. You like walking, do it more.
Save more money. Little bits add up, and you have expensive taste.
Buy your birkins and big diamonds before 2005. Everything gets hideously expensive soon thereafter.
Be yourself. Yes, you have a worldview not shared by many, but unless you are authentic you'll never have any real friends. It takes courage to be genuine, but you are a worthwhile individual.
If someone doesn't like you, that is alright. It doesn't mean either of you are bad, it's a simple incompatibility.
Propose to your honey properly, don't get engaged in the shower. Elope or have a big wedding, don't go half arsed. Wear the tiara.
Travel more as a couple, enjoy your freedom before you have a baby.
Save more money. Seriously I cannot stress this enough. I want a 5ct AVC! :lol:
 
Re: What Advice/Warning would you give your 16 year old self

Relax and quit thinking so much. No one is perfect and the good people won't expect you to be either. Forgive yourself and have fun.
 
Re: What Advice/Warning would you give your 16 year old self

-Love yourself a little more

-Stay away from all those losers you gave your heart and time too

-Stay away from alcohol

-Don't try so hard to make everyone like/love me
 
Re: What Advice/Warning would you give your 16 year old self

Appreciate that smokin' body, it's never coming back again.

Don't believe any man who says his marriage is over and he is separated. He's lying.

Keep not drinking, not smoking, not taking drugs. Best thing you'll ever do for your health.

Keep brushing twice a day. Your teeth will thank you for it.

You will make it through medical school and the horrors of being a junior doctor, and come out way stronger.

Say yes to more dates: you're not going to meet your husband for another 13 years.
 
Re: What Advice/Warning would you give your 16 year old self

HI:

Realize that image is like ropes of sand and thereby exhausting and vacuous to try and maintain.

Revel in the fact you were completely correct about jewellery and it's connections to the universe. :bigsmile:

Understand that what your parents offered you but did not "do" for you was a lesson in character building--rather than a suspension of any pleasure.

cheers--Sharon
 
Re: What Advice/Warning would you give your 16 year old self

Lighten up...sometimes, the rules are meant to be broken.

Take more risks...life can be too short.

Stay away from Davis. Period.

Be strong enough to stand up for yourself because no one else will.

Know that Mom is on your side even if it doesn't feel like it.

Trust yourself and listen to your instincts.

When you have the chance to live overseas, take it and RUN!
 
Re: What Advice/Warning would you give your 16 year old self

Don't think that you have to go to a private university just 'cause you're in a private high school. Get off your high horse. Spoiler alert-- you're going to change your mind a million times and that's okay. Being thousands of dollars in debt on the other hand, not okay AT ALL. Go to a public college and save your money!!!

XYZ not worth it so don't wallow in misery during the break up and then go back to him the moment he wants you again-- spoiler alert, he cheats on you and it sucks. He'll always love himself more than he loves you, so don't even think about crying yourself into oblivion with this guy. NOT WORTH IT!

ZYX is going to take up a lot of your time, don't grow attached. He's going to say all the right things, but do nothing. Don't get caught up with the thought of marriage because this is not the man you're meant to be with. Realize that things are stagnant and DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. Don't let years go by with your life not amounting to anything. Trust me, you're not going to think fondly on the time that you WASTED!!! Always put yourself first and damn it, STOP PROCRASTINATING!
 
Re: What Advice/Warning would you give your 16 year old self

Stop pigging out, so you'd have to go through college 40lbs overweight

Stop being boy-crazy, take a break between boyfriends to find your own identity

Stop skipping classes, you could have gone so much further if you had better grades

Remove your make-up before going to bed, regardless of how tired you are, you'll thank me in 30 years!
 
Re: What Advice/Warning would you give your 16 year old self

*You are feeling very delicate and unloved right now, but you have to hold it together.

*Concentrate on your studies and TELL YOUR MOTHER about the unsavoury school mates that are distracting you from your after school homework and turning up at the house all the time, uninvited.

* You really need to TELL YOUR MOTHER that you feel very ill and tired, I'm sure you need a good multi vitamin and especially iron supplements!! You are so tired you can barely think.

*Also, that knee that you can't walk on? Physotherapy alone will NOT fix it. TELL YOUR MOTHER you need a referall to a specialist, you need an operation.

* The uni you pick is in a pretty boring town. You may want to go for a more exciting choice, even though the travel time will be much longer. Or, look past the prestige of the university you have chosen, and go for the more exciting Institute in the heart of the city. You will die of boredom in all that sandstone.

* Boys and men are really time-wasters and egoistic tyre-kickers until they have decided you are 'the one'. Please don't bother with Andrew, he means well but he he is incredibly selfish, has no prospects and is too self-centred to realise the damage he is doing to you! He is hiding a BIG secret - an illegitimate child! His sexuality is a big part of his life and recreation, and that's where it starts and stops with him and you.

* YES you should be with that extremely tall, dark and unnervingly good-looking guy with the sickeningly long, thick, hairy legs. Don't be intimidated! Actually, he is suffering dreadfully from loneliness, and YES, that strange feeling you have about him is exactly what you think it is - FATE!! Avoiding him like this postpones the inevitable for longer than a decade, and you will deeply regret those lost years in time to come.

* Try to be more disciplined, go to bed earlier.

* Don't spend so much time in 'artistic' negative thoughts. It is not healthy to starve in a garrett.

* Connections and money mean something in this world. Everything you achieve has to be created from scratch, without the benefit of any family or social support. So GET GOING, and make the most of what resources you DO have. One day you WILL find like minded people.
 
Re: What Advice/Warning would you give your 16 year old self

Don't worry, someone will find you and love you soon.

The loneliness is only temporary.
 
Re: What Advice/Warning would you give your 16 year old self

-Love that boy you're dating with all of your heart. He will be dead soon. Hold on to every hug, every kiss, every touch. You will feel him in your dreams for ten more years.

-Everything that goes wrong in your home really isn't your fault. You have a sneaking suspicion that your mom isn't right. Well, your mom isn't right. Don't internalize the things she says. She's broken and jealous and hateful and sick. You didn't do that to her and you can't fix her either.

-Love your step-dad now. Your drug addicted bio-dad won't come back to you until it is far too late. Step-dad has loved you since you were a baby. It's time you start learning to stop holding on for those who aren't worth it.

-Start Irish dancing again, even if no one supports you. You were amazing at it.

-In a year, when you see that 23 year old at a party, who gives you a sly smile and tells you you're beautiful. WALK AWAY. He will do more psychic and physical damage to you than any other person on the planet. Give him a hair toss and a middle finger if you feel like it...believe me, he deserves so much worse.

-Never stop singing. Your voice is amazing. You can do anything you want with it and your sense of pitch is perfect (and you know it.) Don't stop singing for fragile narcissists. Sing and let the whole world hear you.

-Finally, in three years, when you get pregnant, don't be weighed down with shame. You will be a damned good mother even though you have no clue. Your son? He will grow up to be the most incredible person you know.
 
Re: What Advice/Warning would you give your 16 year old self

There are some really poignant things here, sad and happy mixed together.

My advice for myself?

Slow down, don't be in a rush to grow up. What you have now is just as great as what is ahead. Appreciate it wholeheartedly. (This advice applies to any age!) :))

Wait a while. If you think you are happy, wait a while to see if that changes. If you think you are unhappy, wait a while to see if that changes. Again, don't rush. Chances are things will change, for the better or worse, and you need to know which way it's going to go before you make any life-altering decisions.
 
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I cannot even begin to respond to this, otherwise, I'll be here responding for the next two days...
 
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minousbijoux|1359269925|3364689 said:
I cannot even begin to respond to this, otherwise, I'll be here responding for the next two days...
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:lol: Yeah, there's a lot of things I COULD say, that's for sure!

Isn't this an amazing thread? I want to single out some especially inspiring posters, but I don't want to embarrass anyone!!
 
Re: What Advice/Warning would you give your 16 year old self

Stop making decisions based around the boys/men you like. College, jobs, where to live- Don't change your life circumstances for anyone other than yourself.

Face it, you're a cry baby. You're going to cry whenever anything moves you. If you can learn to control it you will save yourself a lot of embarassment and people won't see you as weaker than you really are. It sucks, but it 's the truth.

Remember that some day you will need to support yourself. It's ok to follow your passions, just remember that you need to pay the bills.

Focus and be patient, hard work pays off.

Be good with money, save for the future, you don't need a lot of stuff.

Some day the person you love most in the world will break your heart. Try with all your might to stay strong and make rational decisions. You will survive this.

And most importantly, you have the most amazing parents and sister ever! They will always be there for you, respect and honor them every chance you get.
 
Re: What Advice/Warning would you give your 16 year old self

Wow... this thread is making me cry. It is such a perfect reminder that every single person has a "story".

I am torn as to what to say to myself. I made some choices with grave consequences... but they have made me who I am. If I did it differently, I would not have the husband/children/life I have today. But there are some things I WOULD say for sure... and the others I might hint at...

Amy...
You are beautiful, but whether or not other people think so doesn't define you. You are SO much more!!
Don't be such a flirt, it gives you a bad reputation and makes the girls not like you. When you transfer schools, work on being kind, instead of pretty and see who you might meet... Your girlfriends will be your lifeline in years to come, cultivate them!

If you really don't want to have sex, DON'T. But if you DO want to, then own up to it and take the damn pills. You can (and will) get pregnant while in high school if you continue to pretend that you are not having sex. But if you choose to continue down that path... Just know that the decisions you make will rip your heart out and change your life but you will never regret choosing what was right over what was easy.

If you DON'T walk down that path... The sky is the limit, Girlfriend!!

Even though school comes easily for you and you can get B's without trying... work a little harder and get the A's.

Don't be so needy in relationships, and don't make decisions based on boys. BOYS AREN'T WORTH IT!! YOU are worth it!!

Realize that EVERYONE is insecure.

John is an *******, always was and always will be, don't continue to chase him and let him hurt you. You are better than him and someday he will be a 40 year old alcoholic with 2 failed marriages and will move back in with his mom. It REALLY doesn't matter what he thinks of you!!

Finish college and live on your own for a while. If you don't do this, you will forever feel a nagging doubt about yourself because you never supported yourself. You need to know you can do it!

You are stronger, and braver, and kinder, and more valuable than you have any idea!!

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding... In ALL your ways acknowledge Him and He will direct your path." These are not just words. Start paying attention NOW and don't wait until your situation is dire.
 
Re: What Advice/Warning would you give your 16 year old self

alma123|1359127201|3363375 said:
Brush your teeth better.

That's it. I was a pretty good kid. I was a big nerd (read: loser) in high school so I pretty much concentrated on my studies, graduated valedictorian, got a top scholarship, etc.

What would I say to my 26 year old self is another question...
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So what would you say???
 
Re: What Advice/Warning would you give your 16 year old self

This is such an amazing thread!

First of all- I wanna give everyone the biggest cyber hugs from Down under.

Some truly amazing ppl out in PS world. So amazing that you have the perseverance, sensitivity and integrity to allow yourselves to be loved by the most important person in the world- yourselves. Knowing AND appreciating self worth is something that will take time. Some get it quickly while others need more time to understand.

For me, to my 16yo self:

1). It will get better. It may take time to understand sexuality, but the focus you have on your studies now will ensure that you will have more time to worry about sexuality at a later date.
2) Date as many ppl as you like but be sensible about it.
3) Be a little smarter with real estate decisions.
4) Your parents only are looking after your bests interests in life. They may not understand your sexuality for many years to come. But, they love you and want to see you succeed.
5) It is possible to have kids. The right ppl will show you the way when you are ready
6) Be honest with YOURSELF.
7) you are adaptable in your environment but don't allow others to take advantage.
8) continue with your fitness, don't give excuses, cos its harder work when you are older.
9) your fascination with diamonds will come to fruition!!!!!
10) continue with your self learning- self appreciation.

I am sure there are a few more, but these come to mind so early in the morning.

I LOVE THIS THREAD!!!
 
Re: What Advice/Warning would you give your 16 year old self

After seeing what that 16 year old girl came on this forum to ask about some guy at her school with "sexy lips"!!!!!! I'd say:

- Not that I was even into boys because at that age they are just ignorant dorks, but boys aren't everything and crushes dissolve faster than they started
- Enjoy every single day because it's never coming back and they just go away faster and faster
- Focus on school - despite what you're told you are smart and will get into college one day
- Don't waste a minute worrying about what other's think
- Things will get better
- don't ever stop working out!!! It's good for the mind and the body!
- If he doesn't ask you out HE'S NOT WORTH IT!
- you are worth more than you think
- enjoy the little things in life because God blesses with His heart open
- ***always remember where you came from***
 
Re: What Advice/Warning would you give your 16 year old self

16 was too late for me, if I wanted to pull a Ghost of Christmas Past, I'd have to visit a 14 year old Madelise.
 
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