by sonyachancs » Nov 23, 2014 it's about a year and a half before the wedding (we think, though we'll give it up to 2ish years), and we're trying to think about what we want. we're chinese, so the standard is: 1. gatecrashing in the morning (which means the man needs to do all sorts of hijinks to 'get' the bride) 2. sometimes a church-walk-down-the-aisle, and sometimes a small solemnisation 3. HUGE banquet dinner with about 300-400 people. BUT 1. we don't want the gatecrashing 2. we won't have a church ceremoney 3. we want a small dinner with close friends and immediate family, with about 85-100 people. so I was wondering, of the rest of you unencumbered by church or asian traditions, what did you do for your wedding? I see loads of gorgeous photos of american/ european weddings, but what actually goes on!