Wedding near holidays

[EyeElle]

Hey All,

I have made my way over to BWW So happy to be here!

And I have my first question for you all.

My fiance and I are picking dates for our wedding, to be in 2011.
One of the dates I want is June 18th, which falls a day before father''s day.
Most of our guests are from out of town, and my fiance is worried that because our wedding is the day before father''s day, some of the guests might not attend - want to spend that day with their father''s etc

What are your thoughts on this?

P.S. The guests would stay for more then 1 day, and I know some will say they can just go home the day of, but lets pretend that isn''t an option

Thank you for your input

 

[choro72]

Heck, we''re contemplating Christmas/New Years. I don''t think Father''s Day will be too much of a problem. Those who want to come will come.

 

[Clairitek]

Father''s Day- every year.
Your wedding- once in a lifetime.

I think that people will probably deal with it. Our day is next weekend (as well as a bunch of other PSers) and not one single guest has complained about the fact that its Father''s Day. Actually, I''ve been to two other weddings on the same weekend in the past 3 years.

If it were Thanksgiving Weekend, Easter, Passover, or any major religious holiday I could see cause for concern but like the poster before me said, if people want to come, they will come.

 

[meresal]

I don''t think you will see a substantial amoutn of people declining because of Father''s Day. Most people don''t even realize what day it falls on until March or April anyway, maybe that''s just me? If that''s the day you want, I say go right on.

 

[Diamond Confused]

I agree, Father''s day isn''t big enough of a holiday to have an affect on your guestlist.

 

[NakedFinger]

Date: 6/11/2009 4:10:48 PM
Author: Diamond Confused
I agree, Father's day isn't big enough of a holiday to have an affect on your guestlist.

+1. its not a major holiday per say, and one that sadly isnt celebrated as much as it should be. I don't think many people would not come because of it.

Other major holidays are a different story. Christmas, major Jewish Holidays, Thanksgiving, etc, where people are required to be at family events, and many times have to travel for said events, are a different story. That may cause problems. I know I wouldnt miss x-mas with my family for a wedding.

Also, as a wedding planner, i CONSTANTLY hear guests pissing and moaning about wedding dates on "fun" holidays, ie. Forth of July Weekend, Memorial Day Weekend or Labor Day weekend. You'd be surprised how many people complain, and say its "inconsiderate" and a huge "inconvinience". I guess most people would rather be at the beach, away for the weekend, at a bbq, etc than at a formal event. Usually "ruins there plans".

The only holiday i have never heard crap over is New Years Eve. Everyone just wants to drink, party, dance that night anyway? So why not make your wedding the party! Open Bar + Food+ DJ/Band= Good New years eve!

 

[Elmorton]

Our wedding was the day before Father''s day. Actually, it was nice for our guests. Because we had our wedding near our hometown, friends and family who flew in got the added bonus of visiting dear old dad when they probably wouldn''t have traveled in the first place just for dad''s day. It really didn''t seem to affect our guest list at all - the only people who weren''t there were a couple people who had plans (a conference, a 40th wedding anny party) or couldn''t come because it was too far to travel in the first place.

 

[adak]

Date: 6/11/2009 3:41:12 PM
Author: Clairitek
Father''s Day- every year.

Your wedding- once in a lifetime.

Exactly. I am getting married on Labor Day of this year. When I was trying to decide on a date, my dad assured me that no matter what day of the year you pick, holiday or not, there are going to be people that can''t make it. We haven''t sent out the invitations yet, but most friends and family know the date and we haven''t heard any complaints so far!

 

[Smurfysmiles]

I think it should be ok Our wedding is the week before thanksgiving and believe it or not; most of our guests were more concerned about whether it fell on the opening day of hunting season

rather than thanksgiving
that''s our family for ya!

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

I do not think that would be a big issue at all. As someone mentioned above, it''s not typically a very widely celebrated holiday.

We are having our wedding on Halloween this year and the only people who have said anything at all are those with children - my feeling is if you can''t find a family member who can take the kids trick or treating and you miss our wedding, then you miss our wedding. No big deal. Life is going to go on and regardless of how extra cautious and careful anyone is with picking a date - there are bound to be people out there on your guestlist who have some other commitment on your chosen date - planned or otherwise. If that date works for you, I say plan it up!!

 

[honey22]

Date: 6/11/2009 4:10:48 PM
Author: Diamond Confused
I agree, Father''s day isn''t big enough of a holiday to have an affect on your guestlist.

Ditto, it''s not like it''s a major holiday like Christmas etc.

 

[sunnyd]

I think it''s a GREAT day to get married, Father''s Day or not. Ahem, it''s my birthday, so my thoughts may be colored by that.

 

[Haven]

I don''t think it''s a problem at all.

My best friend was married on Mother''s Day and she got a killer deal for nearly everything for the wedding. My mum wasn''t thrilled, though, but we all survived.

DH and I were married on the morning of the 4th of July. Only one of his friends gave him a hard time about not being invited with her children, but our reception was over by 5:30 so she had more than enough time to get the kiddos ready for fireworks.

I''d love a Halloween wedding! What fun!

 

[ash313]

I say Father''s Day is a go. Not a huge holiday that people typically make major plans for.

My wedding is January 2, the day after New Year''s Day. So the rehearsal dinner is New Year''s Day. No one has said much, except a few people who will be in our hometown for the holidays anyway, and are glad to extend the trip they already would have made to attend the wedding (wouldn''t have been able to afford two trips in a year). The only other concern is Bowl Games, but we will just have to have our rehearsal dinner where there is a TV to check the scores!

 

[Blair138]

I don''t think Father''s Day weekend is a big deal-it''s a Sunday and you are getting married on Saturday-people will survive.

If you ask my college friends though apparently it''s a huge deal I''m not aware of-no one can make my bachelorette party because it is the Saturday before Father''s Day-yeah, they are AWESOME friends

Seriously though you should be fine