disneybride
Shiny_Rock
- Joined
- May 13, 2008
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When we started wedding planning everything we checked out was an exorbitant amount of money...around $23,000 with zero extras and a lot of basics cut down - no limousine, student photographer, and no videographer. We had flexible dates and still had a hard time getting one. We decided it wasn't worth the expense to try and have a fall wedding near our home (Boston) and followd our hearts to a Disney wedding. We were planning an escape wedding and maxed out our guest list, but still had extra family coming who wanted to watch the wedding and would do it from the boardwalk overlooking SBP then join us for our reception dinner. A lot of our family was upset that we were marrying in Florida because they wanted to be there for it (hence why some are still coming even though they aren't technically invited).
Well, Joe was looking online for activities to do in Salem, MA on our day off. He came across the Hawthorne Hotel (something that I never found during my venue research). I looked into it and it's BEAUTIFUL. It's $53.95/pp, so we're looking at about $6,500 before taxes...but it includes:
wedding coordinator
four course meal
champagne toast
place cards
candlelight centerpieces
custom wedding cake
complimentary menu tasting
souvenier wedding knife
guestbook and pen (oh boy, I know, free pen)
prive photography room
coatroom attendate
deluxe wedding night accomodations in a one bedroom suite for bride and groom
selection of floor length linens
It's all included in the 53.95/per person price, and I think that's a very reasonable price. It would be amazing to get married in Salem near Halloween. The town is all lit up, the smell of firewood and autumn is in the air, and it's all around just a beautiful place.
I would still need a limo, dj, and photographer. My mom has a dj friend that can do it at a low cost as a wedding gift so that would be terrific. I would probably be looking at about $10,000 for everything not including my wedding dress, tux, and the extras that come along with it. I talked to my parents about it and they told me that it's completely up to me, that they will either come to Disney with us or giive us the money they would have spent on the trip to help with a wedding near home. Even if we have a Disney wedding, the costs are going to be around $10,000 after including an at-home reception.
I'm really torn. My fiance REALLY wanted to marry in Disney, then he found this hotel and is somewhat excited about the idea of getting married in Salem. It's a long drive for my family though...about 1 1/2 hours from Worcester to Salem so they'd probably have to stay at the hotel. If I got married here I could have a bridal party, have my theme and colors, and have a traditional wedding. But the main drawback is that it's not Disney. We will Disneymoon no matter what though.
The main reason I'm so torn is because of my dad. He's undergoing chemotherapy right now and I know that this trip to Florida may be our only chance at a family trip. My parents were thrilled at the idea of going to Florida and having an oceanside wedding, going to parks and getting to see the magic that is Disney...plus the food and wine festival and MNSSHP that will going on.
I'm completely torn. Right in half. Half of me really wants a wedding with all our family and friends back home and the other half of me wants to do Disney with our family and friends. I'm afraid of disappointing people no matter what we choose and doing both is not an option. His family is not quite as thrilled as mine about going to Disney but they are happy we are getting married and willing to do whatever we want. Our families have both been great sports with our mind-changing and haven't complained or said one negative thing. I know my parents really just want us to do what will make us happy and I'm sure that his do too. It's so much pressure because a wedding is (usually) a once-in-a-lifetime deal and I'm so scared I'll have regrets no matter what we do.
Any insight/advice you girls have would be much appreciated. We're at the point now where we have to start making decisions and I'm so nervous about making the right one that I'm losing sleep over it.