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It was a few months back.
I didn't bother starting a thread about it till Matata mentioned me writing, "my husband", in MillieLou's 'special occasion' thread.
We're both very low-hoopla people, and didn't seem worth mentioning here.
I don't go to weddings or funerals; I just don't.
We're both extreme introverts who despise being a public spectacle.
We are both think-for-yourself-and-do-your-own-thing kind of people, and not go-along-with-the-crowd types.
"Tell us all about your wedding", you say?
Well, there wasn't one.
We just went to the local courthouse.
I'm the one in yellow and white heels.
Exciting Details?
Clothing was just whatever we were wearing that day, probably shorts, T-shirts and flip flops.
Our clothing didn't match, and I don't recall whether anything was white.
Nothing borrowed, old, and I don't remember whether anything was blue.
The only thing new was our N95s.
I saw no particular reason to shave.
No rings, I still just wear my Octavia on that "marriage" finger for practical reasons, but it never was a "relationship' ring
No particular symbolism or meaning, since marriage does not prove love, and love does not need marriage
No prepared vows, just whatever the county clerk uses
No bouquet, garter, or jock strap tossing
No bridesmaid or best man
Nobody gave anyone away
No broomstick jumping
No religious anything
No groomal shower
No name changing
No gifts, or registry
No rice throwing
No unity candle
No honeymoon
No koran, et. al
No celebration
No blood tests
No invitations
No reception
No bouquet
No partying
No weeping
No dancing
No flowers
No alcohol
No photos
No videos
No guests
No family
No cake
No veil
No DJ
We enjoyed our perfect dream wedding, exactly as we wanted it.
... zero wasted money, quick, quiet, low carbon footprint, minimalist, and as low key as possible.
$66 for the license, $17 for the optional piece of fancy paper, and four quarters for the parking meter.
We kept to our wedding budget, $84.
It's nice that in California you don't even need a witness if you pay $5-extra for a confidential license.
He hasn't told his family.
I asked why and he said something like, "No reason to tell them."
I love this man.
I'd like to say something here that I forgot to say in the recent thread, "Why did you get married?
I answered, "We both did it for the insurance."
Many people answered, "For Love".
I can't help but imagine most people were very proud to answer "for love", and feel other answers are not as good as "for love".
But I guarantee we both love each other more than many who marry for love - which BTW has a 50% divorce rate.
You can be 100% in love without marriage, and some folks marry being 0% in love.
I will confess, it feels nice to be married.
That surprises me a great deal.
TIA if there are any congratulations here.
I didn't bother starting a thread about it till Matata mentioned me writing, "my husband", in MillieLou's 'special occasion' thread.
We're both very low-hoopla people, and didn't seem worth mentioning here.
I don't go to weddings or funerals; I just don't.
We're both extreme introverts who despise being a public spectacle.
We are both think-for-yourself-and-do-your-own-thing kind of people, and not go-along-with-the-crowd types.
"Tell us all about your wedding", you say?
Well, there wasn't one.
We just went to the local courthouse.
I'm the one in yellow and white heels.
Exciting Details?
Clothing was just whatever we were wearing that day, probably shorts, T-shirts and flip flops.
Our clothing didn't match, and I don't recall whether anything was white.
Nothing borrowed, old, and I don't remember whether anything was blue.
The only thing new was our N95s.
I saw no particular reason to shave.
No rings, I still just wear my Octavia on that "marriage" finger for practical reasons, but it never was a "relationship' ring
No particular symbolism or meaning, since marriage does not prove love, and love does not need marriage
No prepared vows, just whatever the county clerk uses
No bouquet, garter, or jock strap tossing
No bridesmaid or best man
Nobody gave anyone away
No broomstick jumping
No religious anything
No groomal shower
No name changing
No gifts, or registry
No rice throwing
No unity candle
No honeymoon
No koran, et. al
No celebration
No blood tests
No invitations
No reception
No bouquet
No partying
No weeping
No dancing
No flowers
No alcohol
No photos
No videos
No guests
No family
No cake
No veil
No DJ
We enjoyed our perfect dream wedding, exactly as we wanted it.
... zero wasted money, quick, quiet, low carbon footprint, minimalist, and as low key as possible.
$66 for the license, $17 for the optional piece of fancy paper, and four quarters for the parking meter.
We kept to our wedding budget, $84.
It's nice that in California you don't even need a witness if you pay $5-extra for a confidential license.
He hasn't told his family.
I asked why and he said something like, "No reason to tell them."
I love this man.
I'd like to say something here that I forgot to say in the recent thread, "Why did you get married?
I answered, "We both did it for the insurance."
Many people answered, "For Love".
I can't help but imagine most people were very proud to answer "for love", and feel other answers are not as good as "for love".
But I guarantee we both love each other more than many who marry for love - which BTW has a 50% divorce rate.
You can be 100% in love without marriage, and some folks marry being 0% in love.
I will confess, it feels nice to be married.
That surprises me a great deal.
TIA if there are any congratulations here.
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