Wait for custom setting or get stock one and upgrade later?

[patman]

So, without giving too much away in case she stumbles upon this post:

She is expecting a ring this month and I have been searching very diligently for an awesome stone. Finances are in place, and I have located several stones (~2ct cushion) in my price range that I am very happy with. However, it has come to my attention that to get a setting along the lines that I had in mind (milligrain edging, micro-pave) will take approximately 3 weeks as they must be custom made, generally. The other option is to get a simpler setting carried in stock, propose, then comission the fancier setting when time is not an issue. Several jewelers have told me they would take back the simpler setting for a complete refund toward the purchase of the fancier setting.

So it boils down to: risk not making it in time for this month or get something simpler (which I think she will still appreciate) and comission a fancier setting later which I originally had in mind or which she can pick out herself?

 

[LGK]

If you can get a full refund from a jeweler on a temp setting, heck yeah I would do that. First, a *lot* of us girls have preferred to be involved in picking settings out, and I think you can get the best of both worlds (surprise/romantic proposal with instant-gratification sparkliness, plus then having some control over what the ring looks like). Also, you would have less stress going on if you weren't fretting about a deadline; I've had a number of much lengthier than quoted custom work experiences, and I know a *lot* others have too with custom work. Even without any sort of deadline, that's frustrating.

 

[tyty333]

Go for the cheap temp setting (with the beautiful cushion)....commision the setting with her input!
Perfect if you ask me!

 

[stone-cold11]

thritto.

 

[Collee]

Is your dream setting her dream setting as well? If so, I would push the time envelope and order the custom setting. It''s such a heart pounding thrill to be presented with the setting of one''s dreams. Since she is "expecting" a ring this month and if you have to push off until December, it will be an even more unexpected shock and surprise.

If there is a reason why you absolutely MUST propose by the end of the month, then I guess the most viable solution is to get the temp setting.