Hello everyone, I''m new here and was told about this site from a friend of mine. I guess you could technically call me a LIW...hopefully not for long though!
I was wondering if I could get some advice here.
My bf and I have been dating for about 3 years now and have talked about ''the future'' and what that means for us. We talked about what I''d want in a ring (I got to pick the cut and he picked the carat size). Things were going really well and he figured we''d be engaged by the end of the year but now with everything that has happened with the market I was thinking this would delay things a bit since I know he wanted to get me at least a 2 carat stone. Last night we were talking and I brought up the engagement and said I didn''t mind if we waited since I know things are very unsettled with the market and all. He said he had no intention of waiting and said he wanted to proceed as planned (well his plan anyway which was by years end). I told him I''d rather wait since I know financially his idea of a ring would be a lot of money but he was insistent. We even started arguing about it and I told him to get me a simulant if he was that adamant about proposing already that I didn''t care one way or the other as the ring wasn''t the most important thing. I just wanted to make sure that we had money and were okay financially. We live in a two bedroom apartment in NYC so things are very expensive here and I''d rather have money in the bank than a money on my finger! Well the fight ended by me walking out of the apartment and taking a long walk. When I got back he had already went to sleep and was off to work before I even woke up this morning. We haven''t talked at all today except for a brief email from him saying he''d be working late (me too unfortunately). I know this isn''t ''the end'' but I''m just so frustrated right now with him. The more I thought about him getting me a simulant (at least for now until things are settled) the more I am taken with the idea. When we were arguing I told him why not go for a smaller carat size and maybe ''upgrade'' later but he said no.
So here I am, at work and not able to concentrate and at the rate I''m going, I''ll be here all night if I don''t start being productive! I just don''t know what to do. Should I push the simulant idea or let him waste his savings on a ring?
Thanks for letting me vent and any advice you may have!
I was wondering if I could get some advice here.
My bf and I have been dating for about 3 years now and have talked about ''the future'' and what that means for us. We talked about what I''d want in a ring (I got to pick the cut and he picked the carat size). Things were going really well and he figured we''d be engaged by the end of the year but now with everything that has happened with the market I was thinking this would delay things a bit since I know he wanted to get me at least a 2 carat stone. Last night we were talking and I brought up the engagement and said I didn''t mind if we waited since I know things are very unsettled with the market and all. He said he had no intention of waiting and said he wanted to proceed as planned (well his plan anyway which was by years end). I told him I''d rather wait since I know financially his idea of a ring would be a lot of money but he was insistent. We even started arguing about it and I told him to get me a simulant if he was that adamant about proposing already that I didn''t care one way or the other as the ring wasn''t the most important thing. I just wanted to make sure that we had money and were okay financially. We live in a two bedroom apartment in NYC so things are very expensive here and I''d rather have money in the bank than a money on my finger! Well the fight ended by me walking out of the apartment and taking a long walk. When I got back he had already went to sleep and was off to work before I even woke up this morning. We haven''t talked at all today except for a brief email from him saying he''d be working late (me too unfortunately). I know this isn''t ''the end'' but I''m just so frustrated right now with him. The more I thought about him getting me a simulant (at least for now until things are settled) the more I am taken with the idea. When we were arguing I told him why not go for a smaller carat size and maybe ''upgrade'' later but he said no.
So here I am, at work and not able to concentrate and at the rate I''m going, I''ll be here all night if I don''t start being productive! I just don''t know what to do. Should I push the simulant idea or let him waste his savings on a ring?
Thanks for letting me vent and any advice you may have!