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lulu said:Maybe selfish is the wrong word. It just seems to me that it's unfair to the children. And I think it's irresponsible of the doctors who facilitate it. Helping infertile women during normal child bearing years is great,but this is going too far.
I think Lulu hit the nail on the head. There's a reason we start going through fertility changes in our 40's. Please don't think me insensitive towards infertile couples because I've been there myself. However, when you are looking at being retirement age before that child would be out of high school, you need to take into consideration not only health issues but financial issues as well. My MIL, God bless her, had my little SIL when she was somewhere between 45 and 46. My husband was 24 at the time. He really doesn't know a lot about his sister as he didn't grow up with her, and while she was busy in kindergarten and grammar school, we were busy having our own family. My oldest is only 4 years younger than her. Now my in-laws are fretting over the rising taxes in their town (they already pay over $13k a year!), what they're going to do in another year and a half when my MIL's husband retires, and how they'll put their daughter through college. Also, medically speaking, children who are born to older parents are not as healthy as those born to parents in their 20's and 30's.