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Gypsy

Gypsy

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My mother is in surgery, my fiance is an ..... let''s say IDIOT, although that''s not the first word that pops to mind . My boss needs a valium IV. And I want to go away for the day. To a hotel. Somewhere in the city. Where I can check on my mom, not deal with anyone or anything else. Then I want to not have to come to work or see my fiance for the rest of the week.
 
Aw jeez. Is your mom going to be ok? Sorry the FI is being such a dummy.
 
6-8 hour surgery in hour 2. So, I don''t know yet.

As for John. If you had a mysterious fever for two days of over 101 would YOU go to the doctor?
 
My past history says no, actually, but I do see your point
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Best wishes for your mother. Did this come up suddenly?
 
Date: 7/24/2007 1:55:02 PM
Author: rainbowtrout
My past history says no, actually, but I do see your point
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Best wishes for your mother. Did this come up suddenly?
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Thank you for the best wishes. No, it''s been planned. She''s having major spinal surgery today. So... I''m a little on edge.

John hasn''t had health insurance for the last ... at least 8 years. SO, now that he does I want him to go to the doctor. Everytime he has a fever it''s something. And we''ve been doing it all out of pocket, waiting till the last minute until it was OBVIOUS that something was really wrong.

And this time I just want to get him in for some preventative care. Also, I thought the MD would order some general physical type tests (blood tests and the like) so that we get an idea (after EIGHT YEARS) of where he is physically. But he''s being a PITA.

Personally I think that if you have a fever and are feeling crappy enough that you cancel your appointments for the day, and are resting... then you should go to the MD. So that tomorrow morning we don''t have a repeat of the same problem.

He''s just so irresponsible sometimes.
 
I am so sorry about your mom. I hope her surgery is a sucess.

And most likely, no, I would not go to the doctor for 2 days of 101 fever unless I had other worrysome symptoms with it. Fever alone of 101, no I would not.
 
I hope your mother comes out of surgery just fine.

As for you FI going to the doctor, I''m of the opinion that you can never be too careful. With health insurance, it''s a little bit out of pocket, an hour or two out of the day, and peace of mind, which is oh so important. Some things can have mild symptoms and progress rapidly. My father woke up one day with blurry vision in one eye. He went to the doctor straight away and was told that if he had waited, he might have lost the sight in that eye permanently.

Is there at least an advice line your FI can call to see if his symptoms are serious enough that they want him to come in?

Good luck with that.
 
I hope all turns out well for your mom''s spinal surgery.

As for John and the mysterious fever, I think you have mentioned in previous posts that he hasn''t been feeling well for some time. If that''s the case, he should go for a thorough checkup especially now when you and he have insurance. Is there anyone among his family and/or friends (preferably male) whose opinion he respects and is persuasive? I don''t know what it is with guys, but they seem to have a " head in the sand" attitude when you mention any kind of doctor.

Personally, with a 101 degree temp for two days, I wouldn''t go to an MD either, but this may be a symptom of what''s been going on with John''s health recently.
 
Aw Gypsy, I hope things settle down for you. Are you able to leave and just wait at the hospital for you mom? If so, do it. I''ll be keeping you in my thoughts. If it makes you feel any better, your FI probably has a virus and he''ll be better in a few days. Visits to the Dr. (and antibiotics) aren''t necessary unless there is bacteria present.
 
Oh Gypsy, great big huge hug. I am so sorry. I am praying very hard for your mom and you. Our mom's mean the world to us so I understand how scary it is, but you have lots of people sending good vibes and good thoughts!!!

I understand you are scared for your mom so your FI not taking care of himself makes it even more upsetting. Take care of yourself and you mom now and deal w/him later. Big hug again.
 
I called the hospital, so far so good. They started surgery at 8:55... so at the earliest she''ll be out at 3:00 pm... but more likely closer to 4 or 4:30.

I''ve decided to leave straight from home and go to the hospital, instead of going home, picking up John and taking the Bart in... then taking a cab to the hospital from there.

I just don''t want to deal with him today. I realize that I''m over reacting a bit regarding him, but I''m just frustrated with other things about him too right now... so. I''d rather just be alone.
 
Awww, Gypsy...I''m sending prayers for your mom and hugs your way!
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Men can be such poops sometimes, can''t they? Arghh! Hang in there!
 
There's a lot going on for you today. It's understandable that you just don't want to have it all heaped on your plate at the moment. Just deal with your mom and surgery and going to the hospital first. Then deal with John being ornery later. And hold out on his chicken soup till he stops being a boob.
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*hugs* girl - hope all goes well with mom
 
Date: 7/24/2007 4:44:38 PM
Author: FireGoddess
There''s a lot going on for you today. It''s understandable that you just don''t want to have it all heaped on your plate at the moment. Just deal with your mom and surgery and going to the hospital first. Then deal with John being ornery later. And hold out on his chicken soup till he stops being a boob.
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*hugs* girl - hope all goes well with mom
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Ditto. Gypsy you do have a lot on your plate today. Focus on your Mom. I''m sending prayers her way, and a (((( big hug))) to YOU!!! Hang in there!!!!
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Ugh. Men just...do that, for some reason. Mine will do it too. I think they are maybe conditioned to find going to the doctor weak or not masculine or something. SO frustrating.


But like the other people said, you can only handle one problem at a time. You''re entitled to withdraw any and all sympathy for the silly boob, though.
 
Aw Gypsy, I am sending big hugs your way and I hope your mom will be OK.

As for men. They sometimes can be a big PITA. My hubby is like that too. I have to literally drag his butt to the Dr. I hope your fiancee will go to the Dr. and get an initial work-up to see what is wrong. If something is wrong, it is better to find out early. Sometimes they can be so macho can''t they, or should I say "think they can be macho"

Love, Linda
 
Lots of thoughts and hugs going your way Gypsy! Please keep us updated on your mom. Sorry John is being a PITA.
 
Mom is out of surgery. According to Aunt who is there Doctor seemed very pleased with the surgery. She will be out of recovery in time for me to see her when I drive up.

From San Jose to UCSF. Heck... what''s a 2 hour drive in rush hour, right? LOL.

I''m feeling relieved. Deciding to just ignore John for the time being. Men and Doctors.
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Good news on your mom; praying for a speedy recovery for her.
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Date: 7/24/2007 7:10:46 PM
Author: Gypsy
Mom is out of surgery. According to Aunt who is there Doctor seemed very pleased with the surgery. She will be out of recovery in time for me to see her when I drive up.

From San Jose to UCSF. Heck... what''s a 2 hour drive in rush hour, right? LOL.

I''m feeling relieved. Deciding to just ignore John for the time being. Men and Doctors.
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Glad to hear the good news. Yes, unfortunately it''s about a 2 hour drive. Drive safely.
 
Thank you both, and I will drive safely.

I''m considering the merits of picking John up and using the carpool lane. And if I do, he''ll drive.

Bart''s a PITA to UCSF as it''s no where NEAR there.
 
Would you be going 101? Cuz then you'll only have carpool till Redwood City. Then it's still traffic hell. 280 is more winding but at least it's better in traffic.
 
880 if I''m picking up John. (We live in Fremont)... 280 if I''m going alone.
 
Parking is a pain too. Are you going to park in the parking lot? It can get costly. If you get there after 6 you may be able to find some street parking but be prepared to walk a few blocks or more. If you take BART, you could take the N Muni from Civic Center. If you''re going to drive, definitely take 280 over 101!
 
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Hope your mum's surgery went well.

(and march your FI to the MD quicksmart
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Glad to hear your mom is out and resting and doing well.

Men can be babies. Trust me, I have had a migraine, been dealing with three sick kids (strep, stomach flu, what have you)...hubby walks in from a trip (so he has not even been here) sneezes once and says, I think I am getting sick and toddles off, meanwhile I have been hopping for days and even with my nanny I am wiped. I tell him to get in bed, I start waiting on him too. He is fine, never even gets sick, which is great, but in the meantime is a total pain. Other times, he really truly is sick and will not call the doctor, and I start to get ticked. Does not want to take a tylenol, but wants me to sit and hold his hand when I have three kids and a house to run, but just will not take care of himself!

Just take a breath, focus on your mom and let him make the decision...
 
Gypsy - I''m so glad it sounds like your mom''s surgery went well. Good luck with the drive tonight - and with FI, men can be so annoyingly stubborn sometimes, definitely crazy-making!! All fingers and paws here are crossed for you, your mom, and John.
 
I hope everything turns out well for your mother.
 
Picked up John and took 880 up. We got there in about an hour and 45 minutes (would have been less but we got lost once). I was actually happy to have him there with me. He was a big help... especially as I almost passed out when I saw the drainage tubes they had running out of her back and the other things they had stuck in her.

But she was doing VERY well. She was groggy but coherant (and bossy which was actually nice to see). In a lot of pain, but the managed her mediciation while we were there and she was comfortable by the time we left.

My aunt spent the night last night. John is relieving her this morning. Then my step dad will be there at 4:00. And John will come and pick me up... I''ll visit till 10 again, and step dad will spend the night.


Grandma is having surgery on Friday. Hernia. Glad my other Aunt is coming up to help with that.

John and I had a talk. We worked it out, and he is going to the MD on the 1st of August. One of the reasons he didn''t want to go is because the appointment with the MD wasn''t with our normal doctor, but with another MD in his practice.

And so far the other MD''s in his practice have been quacks.

John had pnemonia-- one doctor pronounced it as allergies and sent him home.

I had finished my first course of antiniotics and had a rebound of high fever and return of my pnemonia/bronchitis symptoms and yet another doctor in the practice told me it was ''toxins'' leaving my system and sent me home.

So as we haven''t any faith in any doctor buy ours, John wanted to wait until he could just see ours.

SO... that''s resolved. Mom is doing well, I''ll call to check in on them in a few minutes. And John should be there soon.

Thank you all for your kind words and warm wishes. I appreciate them very much.
 
Gypsy,

I am so glad to hear that you mother is dong well.

Equally happy to hear that John will be seeing a doctor. What a relief for the both of you. Having a doctor that you both trust is so important.

Hugs to you.
Linda
 
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