upset...soulmates...?

sunseeker101 · Dec 18, 2009

What wonderfully gall-filled advice

She might as well have commiserated with you for not finding your true soulmate -- touch of the green-eyed monster for whatever reason I''d suspect (i.e. her soulmate wonder-marriage might well be wishful thinking). According to MBTI personality model some people need a soulmate while others need a mindmate or a helpmate or a playmate or whathaveyou. It just depends on your temperament. What matters is that each person gets their preferred type of mate and I''m sure you''re sure of that, to get married in the first place

Deactivated member 42515 · Dec 18, 2009

Date: 12/18/2009 6:40:14 PM
Author: NakedFinger
Even though I know its very sarcastic, and not what ''romantic'' girls like to hear....I think theplunge.com (wedding website for men) put it best in their article about determining whether the is ''the one'':

''Let''s start with the obvious. If you know in your heart and soul (ahhhhhhw) that she''s The One, perfect, skip this. Move on to another article.

Now if you''re more on the fence and wondering if she''s the ideal perfect one-in-a-billion?

Probably not. If you cling to the fairytale of a mythical, perfect girl out there—who both “completes you” and has flawless teeth—the one girl, the only girl…your girlfriend’s probably not it.

The odds are low. Let’s say you had a chance to meet, then kiss, have sex with, and then fall in love and live out your years with thousands—make it millions—of other women around the globe. You’d likely find an even more perfect girl in Munich, or one in Barcelona, or maybe one in San Pablo.

But here’s the thing. You’re not going to San Pablo. You’re not seducing Munich Girl. So even if some imaginary, theoretical girl in Barcelona could rightfully claim the mantle of “The One,” as a practical matter, it’s utterly irrelevant.

Think of your girlfriend like a hiking boot. It’s not important that she’s perfect; it’s important that she fits. So instead of asking if she’s “The One,” you should ask yourself: Is she “One-of-the-Many-Ones-Who-Would-Work-Out-Okay-Enough?”''

hmmmm interesting....

AdiS · Dec 19, 2009

Date: 12/17/2009 11:20:38 AM
Author:So_In_Love
I recently got engaged and went to a work party a few days ago. One of the older ladies from another department congratulated me on the engagement and asked if I believe in soulmates. I said 'umm no, not really', and then she responded with 'oh, it means that you havent met him yet and he's still out there. trust me, when you meet your soulmate you'll know immediately. When i met my husband i knew right away that he is my soulmate, and we've been together for 20 years'. I know that she wasnt trying to offend me, but it sounded like 'nevermind your fiance, you still havent met your true love-soulmate'..i almost started crying

what a way to ruin the evening...

But why? You said you didn't believe in soulmates, why would someone else's beliefs on the matter hurt you so much? She was being a jerk, no doubt about it, but why let that ruin your evening?

For the record, I do believe in soulmates, instant recognition and all that. And if someone told me "Oh, there's no such thing. Your husband is most definitely not your soulmate", I'd just

I think you should do the same here. You love your FI and you want to marry him. Plus, you don't believe in the concept of soulmates. Why let a silly comment made by someone who thinks no one else is entitled to have an opinion disturb you? People are just plain stupid sometimes, don't pay any attention and enjoy your happy relationship!