turboflgrl
Shiny_Rock
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Sounds bad just by the title but I promise I'm not complaining about not getting stuff that's "good enough"..lol
Let me give a little background first. DH and I are not religious, we do not attend church, and we do not consider ourselves Christian or otherwise. Without getting into too far with religion, we believe there is a higher power and that's about it. We're comfortable with that. My parent's have never been overly religious though they do consider themselves Christian. DH's Grandmother is probably the most religious person I've met in my entire life... to the point of purposely shoving it down our throats, sending us religious material in the mail, showing up at our residence to attempt to guilt us into coming to church, etc. She finally stopped after we threatened to stop coming around if it continued.
Now his parent's are following the same attack. They were NEVER "religious" before DH's father was diagnosed (and since "cured") from cancer. Suddenly, they pray at every opportune moment in the spotlight.... it truly comes across so contrived and unbelievable. Frankly, I'm embarassed FOR them. That said, this was only a growing minor annoyance until we finally came clean about questioning religion and told them we had decided that organized religion was simply not for us. They seemed to accept it and didn't speak about it again. DH had spoken to them just a few weeks prior to our wedding and what do you think we received as a wedding gift????
ENGRAVED STUDY BIBLES. As in, two "study Bibles" with our names and our wedding date engraved on them. We purposely didn't have a religious ceremony either. To make matters more irritating, DH's mother was planning to present the "gift" to us in front of everyone at our rehearsal dinner.... another way of showing just how religious they are... or want to be perceived as far as I'm concerned. On a lighter note, I was even more put off when I realized that my married name was not correct. They assumed I would get rid of my middle name and replace it with my last name (which I did not) so that makes me even more aware that this was a last minute gift thought up simply because of DH's conversation with them about our beliefs.
Some might be wondering what the big deal is. Frankly, I think it's completely disrespectful and shows just how little they care about or respect us. My family was shocked at their blatant attempt to push this on us. DH has been avoiding them and I feel so badly for him... I'm just so extremely offended that they would completely squash our beliefs and continue to impose theirs on us. I'm at a loss and don't know how to handle the situation. I have to see them and the rest of his family this weekend... haven't seen or heard from them since the wedding (Feb 19)... and I don't even know how I'll respond when they ask what we thought of their gift.
What would you do???
Let me give a little background first. DH and I are not religious, we do not attend church, and we do not consider ourselves Christian or otherwise. Without getting into too far with religion, we believe there is a higher power and that's about it. We're comfortable with that. My parent's have never been overly religious though they do consider themselves Christian. DH's Grandmother is probably the most religious person I've met in my entire life... to the point of purposely shoving it down our throats, sending us religious material in the mail, showing up at our residence to attempt to guilt us into coming to church, etc. She finally stopped after we threatened to stop coming around if it continued.
Now his parent's are following the same attack. They were NEVER "religious" before DH's father was diagnosed (and since "cured") from cancer. Suddenly, they pray at every opportune moment in the spotlight.... it truly comes across so contrived and unbelievable. Frankly, I'm embarassed FOR them. That said, this was only a growing minor annoyance until we finally came clean about questioning religion and told them we had decided that organized religion was simply not for us. They seemed to accept it and didn't speak about it again. DH had spoken to them just a few weeks prior to our wedding and what do you think we received as a wedding gift????
ENGRAVED STUDY BIBLES. As in, two "study Bibles" with our names and our wedding date engraved on them. We purposely didn't have a religious ceremony either. To make matters more irritating, DH's mother was planning to present the "gift" to us in front of everyone at our rehearsal dinner.... another way of showing just how religious they are... or want to be perceived as far as I'm concerned. On a lighter note, I was even more put off when I realized that my married name was not correct. They assumed I would get rid of my middle name and replace it with my last name (which I did not) so that makes me even more aware that this was a last minute gift thought up simply because of DH's conversation with them about our beliefs.
Some might be wondering what the big deal is. Frankly, I think it's completely disrespectful and shows just how little they care about or respect us. My family was shocked at their blatant attempt to push this on us. DH has been avoiding them and I feel so badly for him... I'm just so extremely offended that they would completely squash our beliefs and continue to impose theirs on us. I'm at a loss and don't know how to handle the situation. I have to see them and the rest of his family this weekend... haven't seen or heard from them since the wedding (Feb 19)... and I don't even know how I'll respond when they ask what we thought of their gift.
What would you do???