Wedding Uneven Bridal Party? HELP!??!

[mintve]

Just wanted your input on this one. I have 4 bridesmaids and we had 3 groomsmen. My FI decided to ask two other people who are important in his life to be groomsmen. So, now we are at 4 BM and 5 GM. We will have two flowergirls. We asked his sister if she wanted to be a BM, but she is too shy and did not want to do it. My FI said I should ask one more friend. I have a few that I could ask, but I don''t want to offend someone I don''t ask. Basically, I have two people in mind that I could add, but I don''t want to upset the other person. FYI- they know each other but are not really friends w/ each other, so they are in differnt social circles.

I was thinking of asking one and having the other one of them do a reading?

Or, maybe just keeping it where we are and just have uneven numbers? I don''t think I should ask both because then the bridal party will start to get out of control.

Any suggestions?

 

[palomablancabride]

I wouldn''t ask people you didn''t really want in the wedding party to begin with. I was recently one of 7 BM and there were only 5 GM. There weren''t any problems. Two of the guys escorted two girls during the recessional and the introductions.

 

[Sabine]

I wouldn''t ask someone just to keep the numbers even. If you didn''t want either girl in your wedding enough to have already asked her, chances are they aren''t special to you enough to actually be in the wedding party.

I actually had one more bm than groomsman. It didn''t matter AT ALL except for 2 times: After the ceremony, we did some group pics with our wedding party broken up into couples, and the bm had no one to stand with, so my cousin (who had passed out programs) stood with her. Then, when the wedding party was announced and entered the reception, the bm was the only one alone, and I could tell she felt a little awkward, but had I realized that beforehand, I could have had someone enter with her (like her husband).

 

[mintve]

this is good feedback. I think I will keep it how it is. Its always good to have the assurance from others

One of my BM will have two GM escort her down the aisle and into the reception. And in pics it will be OK too b/c we will have the two flower girls, but no ring bearers. Plus, its more about having the important people there than having even numbers, right

Thanks!!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

We had an uneven number. I didn''t think it was a big deal.

 

[KesVayReas]

Hi Mintve,
I, too had an uneven party, 5 BM and 3 GM. Truthfully, I thought it looked great. One GM just escorted 2 BM (the boys loved this and our guests chuckled at it). The photographer arranged us in our photos so that it always looked even and well-balanced. In my opinion, choose who you really and truely want to be there whether it''s 5 people or 15. I did not want to add a couple more GM just to even it out when my husband already had just exactly who he wanted. But, that is just me...
Good luck with your decision!

 

[Diva0413]

Yeah, you want the bridal party to have people that you would pick as first choice. Not just tallying up to keep it even. I''m going to have 4 bridesmaids and my FI has 5 groomsmen (and counting!) and I''m not worried one bit. You shouldn''t be either. Congrats by the way!!!

 

[mintve]

thank you for your input

 

[Yimmers]

I''ve got 5 BM, 6 GM. Add that to me and the honey, we have a lucky # of 13 in our total party. Oh, and I work on the 13th floor. Good thing I''m not superstitious! You''ll be just fine - don''t worry about it!!

 

[musey]

The people in your bridal party should be there because they''re the most important friends (related to you or not) in your life. Not because you need to fill spots for symmetry.

I say this as someone who has 1 BM and 2 GM, 2 flower girls and no ring bearers... I''m obviously lax in this area. But my general thought is that if you don''t care that the sides are uneven, no one else will, either.

 

[icekid]

I agree w/ everyone else- make your wedding what YOU want it to be. You don''t have to fit into some prescribed formula. My hubby had four groomsmen, and I also had 4 attendant- but two were guys (my brothers!) and two were girls. Soo during the bridal party dance, we had a good ol'' time and made all of my hubs'' friends dance together in a circle. it was hilarious! you''ll make it work

 

[mintve]

Thanks Ladies, you are so sweet and helpful!