Two quick questions regarding bridal showers

[laughwithme]

The situation - my aunt is throwing a shower for me. All of my side of family, and girls in the bridal party, and a couple family friends, are invited. I also planned on inviting all of FI''s close family - aunts, grandmothers, etc. My shower is May 23. Just last night, FMIL calls and says FI''s aunts want to throw me a separate shower.

1. Question #1: FI''s side has said they can do the shower either May 22, or May 29. Whatd''ya think - two showers in one weekend, or split them up a week? (wedding is June 26.)

2. Question #2: do I still ask my aunt to invite FI''s family to the original shower that she is throwing? Or do I leave them off the list? I don''t want to seem like I am asking them to attend two showers with two gifts.

Thanks everyone!

 

[Prana]

I think I would doing them back to back, the 22 and 23 might be nice, but it might be overwhelming too. Splitting them up for a week might give you more to look forward to excitement wise.

I think it would be a nice gesture to invite the other side of the family-guests to your ''original'' shower, and let them know that they don''t need to bring a gift, but since there are 2 showers, I don''t think it''s necessary. His side probably won''t invite your side to their shower, so I would just say no.

 

[Haven]

I suppose the dates are a matter of personal preference, but I would want them to be a week apart.

I would only invite FI''s family to one shower. The purpose of a shower, as everyone knows, is to "shower" the bride with gifts. I imagine that the women would feel awkward not bringing gifts to a shower, especially if you are going to open them in front of everyone at the event, even if you told them "no gifts, please." I know I would never show up at a shower without a gift, as that would feel very awkward.

Besides, I don''t think people really *want* to go to two showers, if you know what I mean.

I can''t imagine they''ll be offended if you spare them the invitation to your family''s shower.

 

[laughwithme]

Date: 3/14/2010 12:36:26 PM
Author: Haven
I suppose the dates are a matter of personal preference, but I would want them to be a week apart.


I would only invite FI''s family to one shower. The purpose of a shower, as everyone knows, is to ''shower'' the bride with gifts. I imagine that the women would feel awkward not bringing gifts to a shower, especially if you are going to open them in front of everyone at the event, even if you told them ''no gifts, please.'' I know I would never show up at a shower without a gift, as that would feel very awkward.


Besides, I don''t think people really *want* to go to two showers, if you know what I mean.

I can''t imagine they''ll be offended if you spare them the invitation to your family''s shower.

I think you''re totally right - putting myself in their shoes, I definitely wouldn''t want to go to two. I was leaning towards this already. Thanks for your thoughts!

 

[PumpkinPie]

If it were me, I would have them a week apart, and keep the two guest lists separate

 

[dcgator]

As far as the timing thing is concerned, I had two showers in two days b/c I had to travel home for my showers, so I had to put them in the same weekend. It is doable and maybe preferable b/c then you don''t have to get dolled up and deal with the whole party thing two weeks in a row. Especially as the wedding gets closer, you might just want to chill before the insanity ensues...

As far as inviting people to both showers: The 2 showers I had was one from my mom''s side and then one from my dad and his wife''s family. We didn''t really have any overlap in invited guests. I think inviting people to two showers could be a bit much.