blissfulbride
Shiny_Rock
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Let''s share some stories of the friends who were around when we got engaged, then had to be dropped before or after your wedding because it was time to let go of the toxic friendship.
Mere! That''s awful!Date: 11/5/2009 10:08:37 AM
Author: meresal
Letting the friendship die was my plan for after the wedding.... well, that was before the week of the wedding, and my MOH set her up with her boyfriend''s roomate, and they have been dating since.
I had been planning to let this friendship die after my wedding since before even getting engaged, but since I was supposed to be the MOH in her wedding a year earlier, I knew it couldn''t really happen until after mine.
She now spends more time with my best friends than I do. Everytime I go back to town, there she is... AGAIN.So much for that.
ETA: It''s not so much that she is ''toxic'', she just doesn''t have the sense to really care about anyone else. One of those people that doesn''t bother to visit freinds out of the city, unless there is something in it for her. She almost missed my bridal shower because she told her current BF that she would watch his dogs, and then when they broke up and she did come, she was going to set up a date with a guy here in my area, for the night before the shower. Keeping in mind, in the 2 years I had lived here at that point (4 hour drive from where she lives), she had never visited, and was going to go on a DATE instead of hanging out with me. lol. Just a person that I stopped ''really'' caring about over 2 years ago, and was ready to be done with her for good.
Ditto!! We had our local friends, our college friends, my high school friends - it was such a fun mix and we had so much fun. I wish I could do it all over again.Date: 11/4/2009 10:06:17 PM
Author: Elmorton
Ditto - DH and I are very lucky in love with each other and our friendships. If anything, our friendships have grown because I''ve become closer to DH''s friends and vice versa. Ohhhh to have the wedding again just so we could have our crazy mix of friends together for another night! It was the most fun I''ve ever had in my life, and I know it will never be that way again.
WannaB- It's funny how easily these "true" colors can be seen. All of my best freinds already know how she is, from what I have told them and now first hand, and the "big" red flag to me is that I think it's always a bit strange when a new girl comes around that has absolutley NO other friends. I am the only one. For some reason, my mom and DH say it's because I'm forgiving and don't like to see people hurt, she knew I would always listen. But, I am the only one that she continues to call when going from relationship to relationship. I was looking forward to not being that girl anymore. Luckily, for me, she is around all my other friends, so now I don't get the calls as much.
Amizzle- I'm sorry to hear about your friend. I wish I could say that my friend is successful as well. She lucked out with this guy. She has horrible spending habits, and is lucky to be dating a guy that pays for everything. She found a job right before the school year, literally 3 weeks before. I don't know what she would have done if she hadn't found it.
Ditto El- Our wedding night was the most fun! Got to hang out with all my besties!