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Hi All,

As some of you may or may not know, I am looking to one day own a Ritani Endless Love style ring. I love halos and it just took my breathe away.

But I do have a question for all you halo owners out there ...... do you ever feel self-conscious wearing your ring? Or feel sometime you need to hide it simply because it is such an extravagant ring?? Do people ever give you comments that its too "over the top" or you spent to much??

The reason I am asking is because a friend of mine has a solitaire with a channel set band and peoples comments to her surprised me. Saying things like "oh you like that much stuff on yoru ring" or "you should have gotten a plain band, it would look better" etc.

P.S. Just want to add that I like what I like and no comments by others will make me sway otherwise, I am just curious as the the comments I may one day (hopefully) be getting ... if any.

Thanks
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Rude people will always make comments like that whether your ring is "too big" or "too small". Ignore them and get what you want because they will likely be rude regardless of what you have!

I certainly am someone that thinks less is more, but that doesn't mean that I don't love me a well done halo!
 
Halo or not some people like alot of bling and some don''t. I wouldnt worry about it and just get what you like.
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I have been looking for my e-ring for awhile and my co-workers have said things like... "I can''t see you with more than a carat diamond".. or when I showed them what I liked.. they''ll say "that''s beautiful but it''s totally not you" or "I can''t see you in that". These are already the more gentler comments and I''m not even going to quote what they say what kind of wedding dress that I "SHOULD" wear and what kind of wedding I "should" have. I know they like to make fun of me .. since I''m quite a tomboy who wears jeans and running shoes to work .. and doesn''t comb my long hair at all... (hmm.. they always said that I make it easy for them to make fun of me.. ).. anyhow, that''s really besides the point. Sorry for the rant.

To me, the bottom line is for me and my FI to like what we pick and the what other thinks/says do not really matter unless it''s constructive comments. I kept switching between micropave and plain setting not because most of my friends/co-workers said the micropave is SO SO NOT ME but it''s because I''m not sure if I want a higher maintenance setting (e.g. the melee may drop out and it''s harder to clean and etc) although I love it.

They can comment what they want.. but you are the one wearing it all the time. Such comments will die down after awhile and you will still have your beautiful blingy halo ring that you love ;)
 
It''s important to pick what YOU like and what looks good on your hand. I originally liked something like a tiffany legacy or three stone, but I have small hands and fingers, and it just didn''t look right on me. Other people look great with those rings, but you just don''t know until you try it on. I also thought I would want something more "antiquey," but was surprised when I liked the look of more modern, clean lines on my hand.

And don''t mind what other people say - I''ve had people make snarky comments about my rings, and I let them bother me at the time, but I realize afterwards that they were just being mean for their own reasons ... so it''s most important to be objective & figure out what looks good on you. When I first got engaged, my secretary looked at my ring & said, "I thought it would be bigger" (it was 1.64 cts) and that upset me, but thinking about it later, she had just gotten divorced, so maybe she was just down on the engagement thing. Then, one of my (formerly) good friends looked at my ring (it''s a solitaire) and said, "oh, that''s nice, but when I get engaged, my ring will be special" connoting that my simple solitaire was not. However, she made that comment in early 2006, and her boyfriend still hasn''t proposed, so I guess that was just sour grapes ...

May I just say, I think that the Ritani Endless Love is one of the prettiest rings out there, so I''m sure that would be gorgeous, and you would be happy with it, if it''s what you pick.
 
Generally you will ALWAYS hear weird comments from people about your jewelry, whether its a .20 ct solitaire or a 3.55 ct in a halo. (I speak from experience
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With the smaller stone, as far as rude comment go, generally it's just backhanded ways of implying it's rather small. ("oh how cute" etc.)

With the larger one, it does attract more wingnuts, I admit. One woman recently went absolutely nuts over trying to get me to tell her what I'd paid for my ring- she just would NOT let me alone over it and I finally had to get really blunt when she wouldn't take a friendly "sorry, not sharing that".

(It also attracts fingers- people seize your hand and tap at the stone or put a finger on it... I don't get that at ALL- I need my personal space and I've never just grabbed a stranger, let alone poked at her jewelry!)

I haven't actually had anyone tell me they think my ring is OTT or gaudy (and it kinda is, that's just fine with me though!) Usually people instead ask if it's real or if you inherited it, which is a more backhanded way of saying "why in hell are YOU wearing that rock?!" I think the "is it real" thing is the most common sorta-rude one. Though 90% of people are polite and just ask to see it or say something actually nice!

Basically- get what speaks to you and to heck with what sort of feedback you get on it. A Ritani halo is hardly outrageous, it's classic, antique styled and beautiful.
 
Some people like a lot of bling, some don''t. I have a 1.35 plain solitaire and people tell me it''s HUGE--I''ve heard "it''s as big as a house!" A lot of it really depends on where you live and what people in your area have. I know I wouldn''t have gotten those comments in LA.
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If you''ll be comfortable wearing it, go for it. Rude people may comment either way.
 
People shouldn''t know how much your fiance spent on your ering, even if they ask.
 
there are incidents where ppl (total stranger) have grabbed my hand in my company''s elevator and commented how sparkly my ring is... I have not received any rude comments yet...

BUT, when me and my FI attended a friend''s wedding back in May, a woman (FI''s friend''s date) at our table has asked my FI if he can also buy her a ring like my e-ring for her(and she was not joking) right in front of me!
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I was very upset but I kept my response to myself...
 
Date: 10/9/2008 2:02:05 PM
Author: swingirl
People shouldn''t know how much your fiance spent on your ering, even if they ask.

Seriously! It boggles the mind that I''ve been asked at least a half dozen times (if not more) in the four or five months I''ve been wearing the larger stone. I''ve decided next time, rather than just saying that I don''t care to share that info, that I''ll actually just play dumb and say I have no idea what he spent. That should end the convo faster!

I wonder if other people get asked that as much as I do, or if I''m just lucky?

But then, people can be insanely rude. I had someone ask me if I was an albino a few months ago, in all seriousness... because, ya know, there''s tons of black haired, black eyed albinos out there!! I know I''m pale, but geez.
 
Hi,

Well, I''m getting adjusted to the extra bling and so far I love it
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I am a solitaire girl yet I ended up elsewhere. However, I''m planning on enjoying my ring now, if I get tired of it or if it becomes dated, I will reset down the line. That''s what anniversaries are for. Right?

People can and will be cruel no matter what you do. At the end of the day, I''m with you, who cares?

The Ritani Endless Love Halo is a classic, really tasteful design. It is not what I would call "over the top" anyhow.
 
Even though most of us prefer to shop for our rings and work within the budget (so we know the cost) traditionally the man provided the ering and it would be rude for anyone to ask or know the cost. It could be a heirloom, too. So telling people it was a gift and you don''t know the cost (or details) really should be the answer, because it isn''t your information to share. And I doubt that many men care or ask eachother about their finace''s rings.

I know is some circles and cultures it is spoken about by men and women but I still thinks it''s private.
 
People are always able to comment. I do what I like, can afford, and feel comfortable with. That works well for me.
 
I wouldn''t worry too much about the ritani feeling overly big. The halo will make it larger, but it''s not over the top since the halo is so nice and delicate. Sometimes when I''m back in the midwest with family I do feel like I have too much bling on, but here in LA...NEVER!
 
Thanks so much guys! Its good to get some opinions on it.
I appreciate you all sharing your stories too ..... people do surprise me on the comments they make. To me ALL rings are beautiful, regardless if its my taste or my type of ring ... its still gorgeous!

I do agree that the ritani ring isn''t a setting that is too much ... that didn''t even cross my mind untill I heard comments made about my friends ring.

And about asking the price of a ring .... I wouldn''t have the nerve to ask flat out the price like that haha

Thanks for the replies, and you all have a common bottom line ..... get what you like .... and I like my ritani lol Unless I change my mind, which has happened many times ... to everyone I assume lol
 
Get what you like.

Everyone always has an opinion, but that the end of the day the only one that matters is your''s.
 
Life is short, get what you like, and don''t care about what others have to say.

I have over 1.8 carats in my wedding band and I am a man!
 
I would suggest not discussing your ering with family, collegues etc, as you will always get different opinions on what they would like you to have. Decide for yourself and don''t even think about other people''s reactions. I find some people quite bizarre and their comments. Just make yourself happy.

And if people ask about the cost, tell them it''s a secret, or whatever, don''t feel pressured into telling them if you don''t want to. If it doesn''t bother you then you can share the money side of things if you both feel comfortable.

I have told our immediate families how much mine ering cost, only because we both felt totally comfortable about it, the money wasn''t an issue to us and I was more intent on sharing the fantastic savings of purchasing from WF instead of Australia. It more came up in conversation about buying online rather than nosy people fishing for gossip. I have also discussed price with my best friend but we often talk about money issues so that''s ok with me too. I was a bit taken aback at work when I was asked in front of friends how much it cost, but I think the question slipped out without her really thinking as she immediately blushed and tried to laugh it off. She nearly fell off the chair when I told her a ballpark figure, we didn''t spend that much in PS terms, I guess, but she was amazed. I don''t even know why I told her, I just felt on the spot and didn''t know how to answer.

Bottom line to this silly long winded response is you have to make yourself happy and comfortable. Don''t matter what other people think, the negative comments are probably jealously anyway
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Everyone has differing opinions on what is big, acceptable, pretty, etc., so you need to go with what style you like. FWIW, right after I got my Tiffany-By-The-Yards style necklace a few years back, two people gave me nasty looks over it! One was a worker in Starbucks (and keep in mind that the lighting is fabulous in there. Makes diamonds dance!) and the diamond in that setting is only .38, so it''s not like I was sporting monster size bling.
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Cannot please everyone!
 
I always thought I was a solitaire kind of girl. Until I saw the Endless Love. I became quite smitten with the pear halos in the side of the RB with halo. It is beautiful and not to much at all.

I met a girl that wore a similar one, but with all RB. She wore it with matching EB and then a plain platinum band between the two and I''m not exaggerating that I almost fainted and it was the most beautiful set I have ever seen. I loved it. Still do. Dragged my BF to see it.

I know that everyone is "entitled to their own opinion" but let me say, any who doesn''t cry at the sight of these prefect jewels, is wrong. And crazy.
 
I think it''s a beautiful ring, wear it with style and complete confidence.
 
Personally, I won''t think there is such thing as too much bling.
 
it is all in what you like. i know that i will probably get unfavorable comments about my ering when i get it. there is alot going on with it. a small diamond and then a halo and then smaller diamonds on either side and then diamonds in the band. it is not alot of carat weight, but it is blingy. that is what i like and i have NEVER seen anything even similar and that is why i decided it would be mine. i didnt want to see another woman with the exact same ring as me ever. now there may be a chance, but i doubt it!
 
i think diamonds are amazing: they reflect light, they can be mesmerizing, they emit fire and sparks. too much of anything can be ............too much. massive diamonds can be tasteful and highly intricate blingy pieces can be tasteful too. i think it is very important to chose things that you love and that suit your lifestyle as well as compliment your hands and personal style
 
I would get what you want.
 
There''s no such thing as too much bling. Don''t waste your time worrying about other people''s opinions - get what you want and enjoy it!
 
I''m with the school of thought that you can never have too much. Since I''ve gotten my ring I have not had one person say something negative (at least to my face). The only weird comment that I got was from a co-worker. I saw her at a meeting and she said...well that ring is TDF....it must be at least 2cts. I just shrugged cause its...2.75. People just don''t know.

Frankly, I thought I would get more questions or even some remarks but not even any of my friends asked the size or anyting. I love that. I have great friends. I was at the gym the other day and a woman on the spin bike next to me said my ring is a 10. That made me feel good.

Back to your questions. I like halo''s...I have one. But...I''d opted for a very small delicate halo cause I wanted more bling but didn''t want it to overwhelm my center. I think I achieved that and it is everything I wanted.
 
Guess everyone will have their share of comments made abotu their own ring, in one way or another.
I wonder though, who do you think makes most of the comments?? friends??? coworkers??? complete strangers?

I guess in a way, the more comments you get can be seen as a good thing. Some cases people go out of their way to say something, so the ring must of caught their eye in such a way they had to do something about it.

For those women who made comments, anyone check out what they were wearing?? if they even had a ring? Jelaousy plays a big role in all of this I am sure!
 
As long as YOU feel comfortable with it, everyone else should be comfortable too. If you act strange or insecure about it, people will pick up on that. So wear what you feel comfortable wearing.
I agree I wouldn''t feel comfortable answering a stranger about how much my jewelry cost (my pieces are more modest so I don''t get those kind of questions). But a number of times friends have asked because they wanted to get something similar and wanted to know how much something like that would run/where to get something like that. And I''m always glad to help in that way.
 
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