To married PS''ers... is the first year really the hardest?

[fisherofmengirly]

Date: 1/18/2008 5:41:24 PM
Author: HollyS
It''s been a piece of cake for us; but, we''ve known each other for 14 years! What annoying habits could we possibly ''discover'' about each other at this point??

Sleeping arrangements are a pain; we have only a double bed. I have a really nice brass bed that I''m reluctant to replace with the queen-size bed we so obviously need. Sometimes I want to kick him right out onto the floor ''cause he''s such a bed hog!

Girl, I hear you! Had I known Paul was a huge COVER HOG, I may have re-thought the whole marriage thing.

He denies that he takes them, but then wakes up wrapped up like a burrito, surrounded on all sides by blankets and sheets while I wedge up against him, trying to get the little bits of covers he leaves behind....

My dad got us an electric blanket for Christmas. I was *so* excited, "Warm at last!!" Not hardly, though. He burritos himself up in it, too.

Ah well. I like sleeping cold better than I like sleeping alone, so I''ll keep my mouth shut.

 

[LitigatorChick]

I have found the more I know my husband''s family, the less we get along. The inlaws are a serious source of tension. Luckily, they live 10 hours away, so I only have to put up with them about twice a year.

 

[diamondfan]

I call the OUT LAWS for a reason. The only good in law is one that lives far away and is not trying to run you lives...a rare bird indeed.

 

[Sha]

Date: 1/28/2008 10:11:36 PM
Author: fisherofmengirly

Date: 1/18/2008 5:41:24 PM
Author: HollyS
It''s been a piece of cake for us; but, we''ve known each other for 14 years! What annoying habits could we possibly ''discover'' about each other at this point??

Sleeping arrangements are a pain; we have only a double bed. I have a really nice brass bed that I''m reluctant to replace with the queen-size bed we so obviously need. Sometimes I want to kick him right out onto the floor ''cause he''s such a bed hog!

Girl, I hear you! Had I known Paul was a huge COVER HOG, I may have re-thought the whole marriage thing.

He denies that he takes them, but then wakes up wrapped up like a burrito, surrounded on all sides by blankets and sheets while I wedge up against him, trying to get the little bits of covers he leaves behind....

My dad got us an electric blanket for Christmas. I was *so* excited, ''Warm at last!!'' Not hardly, though. He burritos himself up in it, too.

Ah well. I like sleeping cold better than I like sleeping alone, so I''ll keep my mouth shut.

That part about your DH steeling the sheets is hilarious!!

 

[HollyS]

Date: 1/28/2008 10:44:19 PM
Author: LitigatorChick
I have found the more I know my husband''s family, the less we get along. The inlaws are a serious source of tension. Luckily, they live 10 hours away, so I only have to put up with them about twice a year.

I heard that! At Christmas, we visited the MIL at her (posh) retirement home. DH''s other brothers were supposed to come over to see us, celebrate, exchange presents, etc. Neither of them showed, after telling their mother they would be there. In fourteen years, I''ve seen one brother once, and the other three times. So for two days, it was just us, sitting for hours in chairs in her living room, making small talk, listening to the tick of the clock. Did I mention she is opinionated, snobby, deaf, and talks over you because she can''t hear you? And she won''t leave the home for a meal out; we have to eat in the dining room.

But she lives 3 1/2 hours away; thank God. I don''t think I could handle the obligatory weekly visits if she was closer.

 

[LitigatorChick]

Oh, you have it easy! Mine are passive agressive. Most recent example: They refuse to use my son''s last name, which is hyphenated: they call him by their last name. As you can likely guess, I am extremely offended by this. They have done this on 4 different occassions now. The first time, I said, oh, you might not have noticed on the birth announcement, but this is his last name. The second and third time, same thing. Each time they say, oh, I made a mistake, I forgot, silly me. The fourth time, they give me the same line, and I say, DO I LOOK LIKE A MORON!!!! One mistake, fine. Two mistakes, maybe. Three times you get your grandson''s name wrong, I think you a little slow. BUT FOUR TIMES!!!!

That is just one example....

 

[gailrmv]

Our first year was the hardest, but not b/c of of marriage particularly - more because I had an extremely stressful job and was not happy. The marriage part was pretty smooth sailing. We had not lived together previously but we didn''t have any big problems learning eachother''s quirks. We have pretty similar ideas about most things including financial priorities, and that helped a lot. I am happy to say that at least for me, marriage started out really great and keeps getting better as the years go by. Not to say it''s perfect, but it''s pretty darn good!