To Honor My Mom

[Pushin40]

I found this online.
Although I will have MAYBE 20 people coming to my DW, I have decided to read this poem for my Mom, who I lost 15 years ago, after thanking everyone for coming to the wedding.

I want to acknowledge her without it being too sad.

If Roses grow in Heaven,
Lord please pick a bunch for me,
Place them in my Mother's arms
And tell her they're from me.
Tell her I love her and miss her,
And when she turns to smile,
Place a kiss upon her cheek
And hold her for awhile.
Because remembering her is easy,
I do it every day,
But there's an ache within my heart
Because I am missing her today.


Thoughts? Any other poems you may have heard that would be appropriate?

 

[jaysonsmom]

That is a beautiful poem, but I have to admit it did make me teary.....

Would you be the one reading this? It could get a little overwhelming on your wedding day. My mother-in-law passed away 3 weeks before our wedding day, so I know there would have been no way for dh to read something like that., he would have been too emotional.

 

[LtlFirecracker]

That is a beautiful poem, but I have to admit it did make me teary.....

Would you be the one reading this? It could get a little overwhelming on your wedding day. My mother-in-law passed away 3 weeks before our wedding day, so I know there would have been no way for dh to read something like that., he would have been too emotional.

I agree with the above. It is a beautiful poem, but did get me emotional, but I lost my mother almost 6 years ago.

I really don't want to say much on my wedding day. I will be wreak. I am having a rose placed next to my sister and going to ask the minister to say something in memory of her. That will kind of be the "sad" part.

To celebrate her life, I am going to have chocolate chip cookie favors. She used to make really good ones. I am not going to say anything publicly about it. My close friends and family know. It just want it to be a subtle way of having something that reminds me of her.

 

[lulu66]

it's lovely but made me a bit teary but i think thats ok. it is an emotional thing remembering your mother who's passed & acknowledging how much you love & miss her & wish she could be with you on this day. it's emotional for you & also prob for many of your guests who knew her.

 

[junebug17]

It's a beautiful, very touching poem, but I have to be honest...I started crying when I read it, and I'm a complete stranger to you! You reading this at your wedding may make people, and you, somewhat emotional...not that that's a bad thing, but just something you might want to think about. Another alternative might be to put it in your program, if you're having one.

(((((hugs))))) to you Pushin40, and to all the brides-to-be who have lost their moms. My heart breaks for all of you. I'm the mother of a 21 year old, so maybe that's why I got so emotional over this.

ETA: I re-read my post and want to add that I didn't mean to discourage you from reading the poem if that's what you want to do, it would be a beautiful tribute to your mother. I just wanted to give another perspective, and give you some food for thought.

 

[Anonymous]

I think that it's beautiful, and you should definitely read it. I cried when I read it, because it IS sad to be without a mother on your wedding day, and I can relate to that. It's ok to cry a little and to have a few moments of sadness. You miss her, and you love her dearly. I think it's a perfect way to honor her memory. *hugs*

 

[Pushin40]

Thank you girls! Add for the hug Tammy.

I guess I am still up in the air about the whole thing.
I may get too choked up....I am EXTREMELY emotional anyways and can cry in a heartbeat. At ANYTHING!!! Based on that I may just keep it all to myself. Still not sure.....

My wedding is very small and is mostly friends (and no one form my mother's side) so I don't think it will be "too much" for my guests.

My dad is gone too (25 yeas now), and his best friend, my Uncle, to my great suprise.... is coming to Mexico for the wedding. That makes it VERY special for me and in a way he is my stand in for my dad. I may ask him to dance with me when B dances with his mom. My Uncle will be really touched.

 

[honey22]

Oh my! I am sitting here at work reading this and having a bit of a teary. Such a beautiful poem. Are you going to be able to get through it without losing it though? You could always print the poem in the front cover of your programs and leave it at that if you don't want to actually say it. The sentiment is there, and you will be ok too.

ETA, I just wanted to add that my DH said a few words about his Dad before our ceremony started, actually before the bridal party arrived. Yes, it was a sad moment, but nice to remember those who couldn't be there. People were sad and cried for a bit, but then the bridal party arrived and the whole feeling changed. I realise you need to be there to say it, but when you move on, people will cheer up.

 

[MagsyMay]

You could always print the poem in the front cover of your programs and leave it at that if you don't want to actually say it. The sentiment is there, and you will be ok too.

What a beautiful poem. *hugs*
As Honey said, if you don't think you could do it, putting it in your program would still be a beautiful way to have that poem included.
I know I for one, could NOT get through that. However, I love the sentiment of it and think it is so touching. If you could get through it, you are one strong woman and I say go for it. If it helps you honor her memory, it is about how you and your closest family members feel that I think is most important. If I were a guest at a wedding and a bride or groom had lost a parent and read something like this, I would be in tears for sure, but it would not make me feel "sad" per se, and the feeling would subside as the ceremony ended, but I still would remember it being a beautiful and personal touch!