to clean or not to clean

[mikester]

the good news! we're engaged! the not-as-good, my now-fiancee has never owned a ring before and has never really been into cleaning jewelry, which sort of boils over to her views on the diamond ring. Meanwhile, I happen to be somewhat of a stickler for keeping the engagement ring clean.

I showed her how to clean the engagement ring. She does seem not too enthusiastic about it, like one would view it as a chore. She is coming around and acknowledging that yes, maybe, the engagement ring should be cleaned periodically.

My question is more of the "social" type. If she just doesn't feel like cleaning the diamond ring because it's not her thing, should I just leave her alone about it? I do realize it's her ring, she can do with it whatever she wants. I mean, it can't get too dirty right?

 

[snlee]

LOL funny post. Welcome to the I-need-to-clean-my-diamond-jewelry-religiously club!

If your fiance doesn''t want to clean her diamond regularly, how about cleaning it for her? I wouldn''t mind my husband cleaning my ring for me. Although, THAT would never happen! Haha. He does like it when I keep it clean though. Maybe if you clean it for her, she''ll appreciate the beauty of clean diamonds and will want to clean it herself? Or you could let her ring get really dirty...yes, it could get pretty dirty if it''s never cleaned.

How did you clean it when you showed her? Maybe you should get her an ultrasonic jewelry cleaner. It''s so easy to clean using that.

Congrats on getting engaged!

 

[BZ]

My first response is yes, let your FI do what she would like, but I think Snlee has a great idea. You clean it for her. Unless that makes her mad at you for some reason. You might think about getting an ultrasonic cleaner. It''s so easy to use and when my rings come out they sparkle like crazy. You can look up past threads about where to buy them, they don''t cost a lot.

 

[chrono]

Other than the "clean it for her" suggestion (which I think is great), or a US, you can get her a jar of jewellery cleaning solution. She can just drop the ring into the solution before her bath routine, and fish it out for a quick rinse after she is done and voila, it''s clean! It''s not super clean this way but it''s better than nothing. Perhaps a hint or two to gently remind her that a dirty diamond will not sparkle and look nice.

 

[neatfreak]

Unfortunately, some women just aren''t into their rings enough to make them want to clean them. Doesn''t mean they don''t love them, but they just don''t understand the cleaning thing. Some of my friends are like that and they think I am NUTS for cleaning mine 1x day!

I would clean it for her if she doesn''t mind, otherwise just let her be. My fiance cleans my glasses because I always forget to clean THEM and I really appreciate it.

 

[Lorelei]

Date: 6/5/2007 8:30:45 AM
Author: Chrono
Other than the ''clean it for her'' suggestion (which I think is great), or a US, you can get her a jar of jewellery cleaning solution. She can just drop the ring into the solution before her bath routine, and fish it out for a quick rinse after she is done and voila, it''s clean! It''s not super clean this way but it''s better than nothing. Perhaps a hint or two to gently remind her that a dirty diamond will not sparkle and look nice.

Ditto. Diamonds are grease and muck magnets and will not look great when dirty. Make it as easy as possible for her perhaps using Chrono''s suggestion, then once she sees how much better her diamond looks when it is clean, she will want to keep it that way.

 

[Modified Brilliant]

Congrats Mikester!

I''m always amazed at how there appears to be two types of "ring cleaners." Those that clean daily
and those that hardly ever clean. Something so beautiful and expensive as a quality diamond should be
maintained and cared for as much as an automobile, pet, or home. Pride in ownership!
Pamper her by cleaning her ring. She will thank you for it

www.metrojewelryappraisers.com

 

[BigDiamonds]

I agree with the suggestion to clean it for her. Maybe even wait for it to get pretty dirty, then clean it for her as a surprise. Then sit back and wait for the, "Oh wow, that looks SO much better!"

Seriously though, at the very least try to get her to take it off when she washes her hands and puts on lotion. All that stuff leaves the grossest residue on jewelry and makes it a dirt/dust magnet.

 

[dtnyc]

ha ha- I am a member of the obsessive jewelry cleaning club!
For our 1st anniversary my hubby got me a jewel jet steamer and I love it! I say buy an ultrasonic (but not as a gift as it doesn''t sound like something she would appreciate) and clean her ring for her- if she had other ultrasonic safe jewelry clean that for her too!
I bet when she sees the difference she will come around!

 

[Diamond*Dana]

LOL...I am laughing because I have a friend who never cleans her ring. I always clean it for her when she comes over, I tell her that no diamond deserves to be dirty! She thinks that I am a bit anal about it, and I think she purposely lets the muck build up just to see if I will notice....and believe me, I always notice!

 

[eac]

I agree with the person who said let it get very dirty before you clean it for her...and I have an anectode to back this up!

I have a female friend who enjoys both wearing jewelry and swimming. She complained to me that one of her rings had gotten very tarnished. I talked to her and found out she'd been wearing it IN THE POOL! In the chlorinated water! She was visiting me at the time, so we went to the jeweler where I'd bought her the ring to see what they could do. When they said they could repolish it for her right then (yay), I took off my diamond ring and asked if they could clean it for me while we waited. My friend was astonished; she'd never heard of such a thing before. Wasn't jewelry indestructible? Still, following my example, she took off all her other jewelry (diamond pendant, gold earrings, ruby and diamond ring, sapphire ring) and left it for cleaning as well.

Half an hour later, she couldn't believe her eyes at how great her newly cleaned jewelry looked. She was a cleaning convert. But it had really never occured to her before that jewelry could be cleaned. Moral of the story: your fiancee isn't the only one who wasn't into jeweley cleaning...but chances are, she'll come around.

 

[MWG]

Buy a Jewel Jet steamer and clean the ring for her...*S* Yes, I am like you, if I paid that much for a diamond, I want to see the sparkle all the time!!!

MWG

 

[hikerchick]

I also agree with cleaning it for her as long as that doesn''t upset or annoy her for one reason or another.
Also, though I clean my diamond about 3 times a week, I have stopped cleaning it everyday. I find that it really doesn''t get very dirty in a day or two because I always take it off to wash my hands, to put on lotion, to cook or clean. Have her do this so that it gets dirty less quickly and then clean it for her once a week. It won''t feel so "intrusive" to her if you aren''t grabbing it from her everyday but it will still get its weekly "bath".

Having a beautiful diamond is only "Worth" it if it sparkles and dirt won''t allow for that.
Good Luck.