Wedding Tips to stop from crying on the big day?

[Halo]

Does anyone have any tips to stop from crying on the big day? I get so emotional just thinking about my wedding (good tears, of course

) so I''m not sure how I''m going to be able to stop myself from becoming a quivering mass of tears on the actual day?

Any tips?

Note to self: Bring a fresh tube of waterproof mascara.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

Think of dead puppies? Lol that''s all I can think of, I know I will be a mess too, FI told me to not get ready right away the night he proposed but of course I did anyways and then he asked me and there was makeup EVERYWHERE lol, how was i supposed to know to wear waterproof mascara!

 

[Halo]

Smurfysmiles: Lol, yes, I will likely have to try to think of something really gross or sad...but then I may cry from the sad thoughts, lol.

I'm not engaged yet, but my FFI thinks it's "good and smart" that I'm pre-planning wedding things and doing research about wedding details so that when he finally pops the question we'll be able to get the vendors and date that we want. He's so understanding

! But I'm not sure how I'm going to get through the proposal without becoming a quivering mass, let alone the wedding itself!

Maybe I should just start wearing waterproof mascara a few months before I think he'll pop the question, just in case

 

[Rhea]

You might surprise yourself. I''m a crier. I cried when I got a ring, but not at the wedding, I was too busy laughing. I every photo I''m either grinning or huge open-mouthed laughing.

No tips from me.

 

[MishB]

Valium.

Seriously though, I am a crier too, but I didn''t cry at my own wedding, I was just too happy and excited. Everything moved so quickly, I didn''t have time to get choked up.

 

[LaraOnline]

Date: 10/12/2008 3:35:57 AM
Author:Halo
Does anyone have any tips to stop from crying on the big day? I get so emotional just thinking about my wedding (good tears, of course

) so I'm not sure how I'm going to be able to stop myself from becoming a quivering mass of tears on the actual day?


Any tips?


Note to self: Bring a fresh tube of waterproof mascara.

Nah! No tips! I bawled my guts up, from the moment the 'down the aisle' music started up.
Lucky my Mum got her way, and was walking me down the aisle. I wouldn't have made it to the end alone.
So I guess that's my tip: have a sturdy support person for your march to your groom.
Also, consider shoes you can actually walk and stand up in!! Wobbling and tottering through the tears would be no fun!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

See each other *before* the ceremony. I was the same way as you and this way I could get my emotions out and it is a great photo opportunity.

 

[Nocturnius]

Do what I did: laugh instead!

Just kidding.

There isn''t going to be much you can do to stop the emotions, so instead of trying to, prepare for them. Tissues and waterproof eye makeup are the way to go for a wet-eyed bride. Just enjoy your day! :3

 

[ladyciel]

Date: 10/12/2008 8:33:50 AM
Author: Nocturnius
Do what I did: laugh instead!


Just kidding.


There isn''t going to be much you can do to stop the emotions, so instead of trying to, prepare for them. Tissues and waterproof eye makeup are the way to go for a wet-eyed bride. Just enjoy your day! :3

Ditto! I cried during our ceremony, but I blame that on DH, who started crying the second he saw me. I was ok until he started his vows, and then I had to whip out the tissues (I hid a couple in the bustline of my dress - I''m sure SOMEBODY noticed where I got them from, but I didn''t care). The secret is DAB. DO NOT WIPE!! and you''ll be just fine.

 

[DMBFiredancer]

i''m a HUGE cryer...this is one of my biggest fears, too! i cried just now reading a reply in another post about a rock ceremony! i am afraid that i will cry the WHOLE day of my wedding - so hopefully what is true for some of you will be true for me - that i''ll be too busy laughing or smiling to have time to let the tears flow.

my FI is already teasing me about how im going to be crying the whole time. he even said i might want to skip the eye makeup since it will all be gone by the time we say "i do" LOL

 

[mia1181]

Oh! One thing I wish I hadn''t done was contort my face to keep the tears in. Don''t do that! The pictures of our vows look funny because I was struggling to keep it in. Just let it go and dab!

 

[swimmer]

A professional make-up artist told me once to keep q-tips to gently remove tears from the inside of the eyes. This is not a trick to be done in front of people unless you are good at being subtle, but I have done it right before giving memorial speeches...somehow the act of putting a Q-tip in your eye makes you focus enough to stop crying. Not sure if it is a helpful tip, but I still carry Q-tips for emotional events. Do remember to have tissues even if you are not a crier. My DH wept for the entire ceremony, so I had to get some from my sis (who had a hanky in her cleavage) to stem his floodgates. I wish I had a photo of her grabbing that from her ample storage area.

 

[NewEnglandLady]

I''m a big crier, too. We wrote our vows together and I sobbed the whole time. D and I kept laughing about what a mess I would be when it came time to actually say them. When I was walking down the aisleI cried a bit, but when it came time to say my vows, I was fine. I was really concentrating on D and I wanted to say them clearly and with meaning so they didn''t come out all blubbery and unclear, haha. I think practicing really does help to get the emotion out!

 

[Haven]

I was worried about this, too. And I ended up crying throughout the ceremony, when I stood up with my new DH to give a speech, during our photo montage . . . you get the picture.

But you know what? It was real, and it felt good. If you cry, you cry. Let it out. And I do agree with Mia--don''t contort your face to keep the tears in, because that NEVER looks good in pictures!

 

[glitterazzi]

My future groom will sob - as much, if not more than me... I''ve resigned to the fact that I''ll have to redo my makeup after the ceremony. Oh well... no one will doubt our sincerity!

 

[everlong_x]

I can remember the months leading up to the wedding, I would cry thinking about certain things (ie. vows, first dance). Honestly, I think I was too happy to cry on my wedding day! I cried once, and that was because I was dancing with my stepdad, telling him how wonderful I thought he and my mother were together.

I know this doesn''t really help, but I think that if you just take a step back from everything happening and take a big breath and smile, it''ll be just fine.

Plus, tears can be a beautiful thing!