Tipping at Reception

[Amanda.Rx]

I know this topic has been addressed before, and I read through the other forums, but I''m still confused.

Who should you tip at your ceremony and how much should you give them? Here''s a list of all the people I''ve got:

DJ- works for the company
Pastor- coming from out of town
Wedding Director
Photographer- owns his own business
Flowers- no idea how many people are setting up
Cake Lady- owns her own business, but delivering cake for free
Hair/Make Up- coming to venue to do hair/make up
Wedding Reception Staff- no idea how many there are
Bar Tender-
Wait Staff- no idea how many there are

I''m stressing about the who, how much, when, etc. etc. I don''t want to offend anybody, but this stuff gets really expensive!

 

[happydreams]

amanda, you get a better idea after hearing different opinions b/c there is no right or wrong answer. this is what I did.

DJ- works for the company (same for me. We tipped $50)
Pastor- coming from out of town (from the same town. $50)
Wedding Director ($150)
Photographer- owns his own business (none)
Flowers- no idea how many people are setting up (none - she already charged us an 18% set up fee)
Cake Lady- owns her own business, but delivering cake for free (none)
Hair/Make Up- coming to venue to do hair/make up (20%)
Wedding Reception Staff- no idea how many there are (none -already charging us 22.5% for service)
Bar Tender- (none)
Wait Staff- no idea how many there are (see above)

 

[dcgator]

Date: 4/9/2010 9:42:52 AM
Author:Amanda.Rx
I know this topic has been addressed before, and I read through the other forums, but I''m still confused.

Who should you tip at your ceremony and how much should you give them? Here''s a list of all the people I''ve got:

DJ- works for the company
Pastor- coming from out of town
Wedding Director
Photographer- owns his own business
Flowers- no idea how many people are setting up
Cake Lady- owns her own business, but delivering cake for free
Hair/Make Up- coming to venue to do hair/make up
Wedding Reception Staff- no idea how many there are
Bar Tender-
Wait Staff- no idea how many there are

I''m stressing about the who, how much, when, etc. etc. I don''t want to offend anybody, but this stuff gets really expensive!

Here is what I did:

DJ- $200
Pastor- none
Wedding Director/Wait Staff - $200
Photographer- can''t remember, I think $100
Flowers- $100
Cake Lady- none
Hair/Make Up- 20%
Planner - $100

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

DJ- works for the company I'd give 15-20% of the DJ bill. We didn't tip mine because they worked for themselves

Pastor- coming from out of town invite to stay for the meal, most wont take you up on it and most wont accept a tip. You could always consider sending a gift card to a restaurant in a thank you note

Wedding Director didn't have one, wouldn't tip anyway

Photographer- owns his own business didn't tip for ours, he owned his own business. Otherwise, I'd do 15-20% of the photog package cost

Flowers- no idea how many people are setting up I didn't tip, I did however provide high-res images of the flowers at the wedding and allowed her to use them in her marketing material (my photog package gave me copyright)

Cake Lady- owns her own business, but delivering cake for free tip a small amount to cover the cost of gas

Hair/Make Up- coming to venue to do hair/make up I tipped 20% of the cost of my hair and had the other girls do the same

Wedding Reception Staff- no idea how many there are check to make sure this wasn't included in the cost of the venue. If not, provide 15-20% of the food/drink costs as a tip to be split between the reception staff, bar staff and wait staff. Usually this is included as a "service fee" or "gratuity" in your package.

Bar Tender- see above

Wait Staff- no idea how many there are see above

 

[ilovesparkles]

Don''t have info for all those people, but I do want to offer one piece of advice/info. We are Jewish, it is customary to donate $ to the synagogue or the rabbi''s choice of fund (i.e. building fund, scholarships for children, etc). You donate what you can afford, any where from $100 and up. My friend donated $300 I believe. I think we will be in the $100-200 range. Also, our rabbi does not charge for the service of doing the wedding. That may also change how you look at it.