Home Things your parents said that you SWORE you''d never say...

[TravelingGal]

...until you had a kid of your own!

My mother said the Korean equivalents of these:

"Because I said so."

Now, with a kid, I think...hm...I can see myself not wanting to reason with the kid. Not HAVING to reason with her. I''m beginning to think "because mom says so" is a valid reason.

"Money doesn''t grow on trees."

I somehow see myself saying this when my kid is older...and hating myself for saying it.

"You''ll understand when you have a child."

I''m still on the fence about saying this one. I hated hearing it when I was a kid. But now as a mother, it''s the one that really rings most true.

 

[Haven]

Can I share even though I don''t say these things to children of my own? I say them to other people''s children in my various classrooms and I shudder inside every time I hear them leaving my mouth.

I actually stay up at night thinking of ways to be mean to you.

This one is CLASSIC my mom. She liked to say it whenever we whined about not getting something that we wanted. She''d also say "Mommy mommy mean and rotten" in a sing songy voice whenever said whining occurred.
I''ve used this line with my high school students when they''ve said things along the lines of "You''re assigning ANOTHER ESSAY! That''s so MEAN!"

Friends may come and go but you''ll always have your sister.

Oh man did I hate this one. My mom usually whipped it out whenever we were recovering from a good hair pulling or biting session with each other. I use this one on my little cousins, they hate hearing it, too.

Fifteen more minutes.

This was my parents'' answer for the "Are we there yet?" question. We were always fifteen minutes away. I hear this one slipping out when my gifted students (young guys, kindergarten through 3rd grade) ask when we''re going to have snack/going to go outside/going to do the next activity/etc.

It''s frightening really.

 

[Mara]

i already know i''ll say:

''because i said so''
''under my roof, my rules''
''if your friends jumped off a bridge, would you do it too?''

it''s GENETIC. don''t fight it.

 

[DiaDiva]

Date: 5/5/2010 12:45:56 AM
Author: Mara
i already know i''ll say:


''because i said so''

''under my roof, my rules''

''if your friends jumped off a bridge, would you do it too?''


it''s GENETIC. don''t fight it.

You''re right! My mum used to say this to me all the time when I was a kid and I''m grew up in Asia. It''s GENETIC!

 

[softly softly]

Ditto to all of the above, plus I also find myself saying "Well if you don''t want to eat (insert non exciting item of food on offer) then you can''t be very hungry."

 

[Mrs Mitchell]

I haven''t so far and will make a deliberate effort not to say the things my mother said.

After a certain age (around 10, maybe?) every time she trotted out a Pompous Platitude, I tuned out. It removed the effectiveness of all the words before and after, it was the verbal equivalent of tippex. Many a valid point was destroyed by a carelessly applied "and besides, we''re not made of money" or a throwaway "when you''re a parent you''ll understand" type comment.

Also, now that I am a parent, I find her parenting approach even harder to understand, so I''ll be particularly careful not to use that one.

 

[lknvrb4]

Because I said so.... I say that all the time and used to be told that. I remember how unfair I thought it was because it really was not the answer to my question. I''m bad.

 

[steph72276]

Just last week, my sweet 5 year old boy woke up acting like a hormonal teenager. He wanted to play videogames before school. I said absolutely not and he mumbled something about not liking me very much. I said "you don''t have to like me, I''m your mother not your friend" and then realized I had turned into my mother at that moment

 

[Puppmom]

I hope I never have to say to my kids "Next paycheck."

Oh, and I HATED when parents said "We can do such and such as soon as I''m done reading the paper." My parents read that freaking thing cover to cover and I swear it took hours!

 

[curlygirl]

TGal, "you''ll understand when you have a child" is the one that immediately came to my head! My mother used to say that (or variations of it) all the time. Now, she says, "See? Now you understand."

 

[NovemberBride]

I haven''t said too many of the same things yet, but since my mother and I are basically the same person, I know that it''s only a matter of time.

 

[Mrs Mitchell]

Date: 5/5/2010 10:01:38 AM
Author: puppmom

I hope I never have to say to my kids ''Next paycheck.''

Oh, and I HATED when parents said ''We can do such and such as soon as I''m done reading the paper.'' My parents read that freaking thing cover to cover and I swear it took hours!

Ha! My father did that. I think he ordered a special extended version of the local paper...

DH used to get a daily paper and read it cover to cover, several at weekends. I had to ask him to stop when we had a baby, because I was scared we were turning into my parents. We bought one last weekend for the election coverage and who "read" it from cover to cover? Yup, our two year old. Interesting!

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 5/5/2010 11:05:19 AM
Author: curlygirl
TGal, ''you''ll understand when you have a child'' is the one that immediately came to my head! My mother used to say that (or variations of it) all the time. Now, she says, ''See? Now you understand.''

LOL. I can''t WAIT to use that one!

 

[Mrs Mitchell]

Date: 5/5/2010 12:56:31 PM
Author: TravelingGal

Date: 5/5/2010 11:05:19 AM
Author: curlygirl
TGal, ''you''ll understand when you have a child'' is the one that immediately came to my head! My mother used to say that (or variations of it) all the time. Now, she says, ''See? Now you understand.''

LOL. I can''t WAIT to use that one!

Use it with caution - be very sure you''re on the same page in that particular parenting chapter first! If my mother said that to me, I''m afraid I wouldn''t be able to bite my tongue- we''d have to have a Bit of A Talk...

 

[PumpkinPie]

my parents said ALL of these things.. and I somehow feel that I''m inevitably going to end up saying most of them too

 

[SarahLovesJS]

So far..the biggest one for me is I caught myself asking my husband a "trivia" question the other day in the way my Dad does it. I was like gasp!!!!! Noooo! Oh well, I guess it''s kind of endearing.

 

[jas]

"Your real daddy is the mailman."

 

[Mrs Mitchell]

Bwahahahaha!