PlanningForGreatness
Rough_Rock
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- Oct 23, 2005
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Ladies (and Gentlemen, if you care to weigh in),
I have months to plan my proposal so I am weighing all things... and want it to be the best it can be. Here is the predicament that I see:
+A woman wants, and deserves, a very romantic proposal story, suited to her unique style and planned with her personality and interests in mind
+A woman wants, and deserves to be surprised. (for the most part, I know mine values surprise very highly, i.e. is turned off by shopping for a ring together, other things many girls find acceptable)
So my query is this. When I take the time to plan out an exceedingly romantic, personal, ring event, I feel like it is inevitable that she will quickly guess that there is a proposal at hand. One method I have considered is the re-surprise, and here''s the concept:
Elaborate date intentionally and unashamedly builds up to a climax which proposee can only assume is the proposal... but then you drop something else: your first "I love you", day appropriate gift, nice but not engagement ring nice jewelry gift, etc. After selling this being the ultimate climax of the evening for long enough to convince her, that tonight is not THE night, then you have both been able to be romantic and still have the element of surprise when you drop to your knee, and ask the question she really wanted to hear.
So: cruel trick or legitimate surprise tool. Discuss.
I have months to plan my proposal so I am weighing all things... and want it to be the best it can be. Here is the predicament that I see:
+A woman wants, and deserves, a very romantic proposal story, suited to her unique style and planned with her personality and interests in mind
+A woman wants, and deserves to be surprised. (for the most part, I know mine values surprise very highly, i.e. is turned off by shopping for a ring together, other things many girls find acceptable)
So my query is this. When I take the time to plan out an exceedingly romantic, personal, ring event, I feel like it is inevitable that she will quickly guess that there is a proposal at hand. One method I have considered is the re-surprise, and here''s the concept:
Elaborate date intentionally and unashamedly builds up to a climax which proposee can only assume is the proposal... but then you drop something else: your first "I love you", day appropriate gift, nice but not engagement ring nice jewelry gift, etc. After selling this being the ultimate climax of the evening for long enough to convince her, that tonight is not THE night, then you have both been able to be romantic and still have the element of surprise when you drop to your knee, and ask the question she really wanted to hear.
So: cruel trick or legitimate surprise tool. Discuss.