modernsparkler
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We are sending our save the dates in a few weeks which means our list needs to be pretty much final and I just cannot stop thinking about it. We are the 1st of pretty much all of our friends to get married (although I''m 25 and he''s 2
and it just seems like everyone we know expects to be invited and I feel terrible not inviting everyone. And I feel like since we are the first, no one really has a grasp of what it is like. We decided not to have an "A" list and a "B" list but even our one list is a challenge. We are at 160 now after some serious trimming and have a goal of around 140 attending. We are having a pretty formal wedding and my parents are being very generous and out of respect for that, we are trying to keep the guest list manageable. Yes, we could have had a casual wedding for 300 but neither the fiance or I wanted that. So, why is it so hard to look at the list and wonder about so and so not being invited?
My fiance is lucky- his friends have been steady through high school and he has invited everyone he wanted- around 20. I however have different groups of friends from high school, college, and med school. There are way more people I want to invite than can come, and it is especially hard with my med school friends who I live near vs. my other friends who are further away. I have kept on the list those who I know I will keep in touch with long term but it is still hard with everyone asking about it.... I know everyone has guest list issues but it is not as easy as I expected!
Grr. Hopefully once the save the date''s go out I will be at peace with the list.
and it just seems like everyone we know expects to be invited and I feel terrible not inviting everyone. And I feel like since we are the first, no one really has a grasp of what it is like. We decided not to have an "A" list and a "B" list but even our one list is a challenge. We are at 160 now after some serious trimming and have a goal of around 140 attending. We are having a pretty formal wedding and my parents are being very generous and out of respect for that, we are trying to keep the guest list manageable. Yes, we could have had a casual wedding for 300 but neither the fiance or I wanted that. So, why is it so hard to look at the list and wonder about so and so not being invited? My fiance is lucky- his friends have been steady through high school and he has invited everyone he wanted- around 20. I however have different groups of friends from high school, college, and med school. There are way more people I want to invite than can come, and it is especially hard with my med school friends who I live near vs. my other friends who are further away. I have kept on the list those who I know I will keep in touch with long term but it is still hard with everyone asking about it.... I know everyone has guest list issues but it is not as easy as I expected!
Grr. Hopefully once the save the date''s go out I will be at peace with the list.
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