comfortably-numb
Rough_Rock
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- Apr 30, 2010
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I have been with my bf for almost 7 years now.
After about three years together I woke up one morning and it just hit me that i wanted to marry this guy. Later on I told him about it, and he said that he felt the same. We then talked about marriage briefly.
Since then we havent really made much progress lol. He knows my ring size, we do talk about marriage now and then, but thats really about it. when we fist started talking about it he said that he wanted to be married to me within the next two years (four years ago)other than that, nothing.
2 years ago his mother became quite ill, she was on holiday abroad at the time and had to be brought home, then went into hospital, she wasnt herself at all and everyone was thinking along the lines that she might not be with us much longer. it really effected my man, one night after being with her he got home and said "i told my mum that you were the girl i am going to marry, i need her to see us get married" then he trailed off, it was either a mixture of frustration on my part or just the heat of the moment but i said "just do it, just marry me" he then said he didnt have a ring and it didnt feel right to ask without it.
Now, if he brings marriage up i just say something along the lines of "the dinosaurs will walk the earth again before we get married" he will do the same, but in our serious moments we do both want to be married, i think that the recession has knocked us off course in a big way, we both have no money.
We are selling our house, buying a smaller one, and "the plan" is to just use some of the money to get married (his idea) after the "want to be married to you within two years" thing, i feel like its just a line, im not letting myself get excited about it at all, it feels like i am waiting around for nothing, and because i have waited so long the excitement has gone for me, is this normal?
After about three years together I woke up one morning and it just hit me that i wanted to marry this guy. Later on I told him about it, and he said that he felt the same. We then talked about marriage briefly.
Since then we havent really made much progress lol. He knows my ring size, we do talk about marriage now and then, but thats really about it. when we fist started talking about it he said that he wanted to be married to me within the next two years (four years ago)other than that, nothing.
2 years ago his mother became quite ill, she was on holiday abroad at the time and had to be brought home, then went into hospital, she wasnt herself at all and everyone was thinking along the lines that she might not be with us much longer. it really effected my man, one night after being with her he got home and said "i told my mum that you were the girl i am going to marry, i need her to see us get married" then he trailed off, it was either a mixture of frustration on my part or just the heat of the moment but i said "just do it, just marry me" he then said he didnt have a ring and it didnt feel right to ask without it.
Now, if he brings marriage up i just say something along the lines of "the dinosaurs will walk the earth again before we get married" he will do the same, but in our serious moments we do both want to be married, i think that the recession has knocked us off course in a big way, we both have no money.
We are selling our house, buying a smaller one, and "the plan" is to just use some of the money to get married (his idea) after the "want to be married to you within two years" thing, i feel like its just a line, im not letting myself get excited about it at all, it feels like i am waiting around for nothing, and because i have waited so long the excitement has gone for me, is this normal?