Wedding Tham

[luckystar112]

Errr totally messed that up. The title was supposed to say "Thank You Cards (hehe)" but I slipped somehow.

Stay tuned for the actual question.

 

[luckystar112]

Okay, the other thread got me thinking.....
What are your thank you cards like?

Are they pre-bought cards? Or stationary?
I''m interested because I''ve never actually been in a situation where I''ve had to send some before.

I know they should be handwritten, and I should somehow find a way to incorporate the person''s specific gift...

I need advice soon because we''ve already received two generous gifts!!

Thanks

 

[CJ2008]

Lucky

How did you go from Thank You Cards to Tham? haha

Anyway - I don''t have mine bought yet. I was looking for Thank You Cards in general, actually, because my parents, aunt/uncle and sister/niece took us on a bachelor/bachelorette one-day cruise to the Grand Bahamas this past weekend and FI and were so grateful. But I didn''t find any that I liked.

I plan on doing boxed, probably...I don''t think I''ll want to bother going the DYI route with those like I did with the STDs and invites.

I don''t think you can go too wrong with what you write. Maybe pick something specific you''ll be able to do with the gift or a reason why you and FI love it so much (and maybe even picked it, if it was bought off your registry).

 

[luckystar112]

lol I have no idea how I ended up with "tham" but everytime I look at it I crack up. It''s late and I''m pretty hyper. The word "tham" is hilarious to me right now.

It sounds like a box of thank you cards is the easiest route. Thanks for the advice!

 

[Elmorton]

Our thankyous were bought from Walmart, I kid ya not. DH and I are casual people, and I chose a thank-you that wasn''t super fancy but tied in with our wedding theme/colors. A friend of mine had thank yous printed by her favorite charity, which I liked a lot.

I do NOT like pre-printed thankyous (where there is a message inside the card and the bride and groom sign their names/maybe a small specific note about your gift).

DH and I did sortof come up with a custom message though to make writing easier - it went something like this:

Dear ______,

Thank you for sharing in our special day. It was wonderful to see you. Thank you also for ______. We''ve already been enjoying it! We hope to see you again soon,

Elmorton and Mr. Elmorton

And then for money we said this:

Dear _______,

Thank you for sharing in our special day. It was wonderful to see you. Thank you also for the wedding gift. We are saving it for our next adventure together [we were both searching for jobs at the time, which most people knew]. We hope to see you again soon,

Elmorton and Mr. Elmorton

I''ve definitely seen better thank yous, but honestly, the most important thing is that they get sent! DH wrote them for his guests and I wrote them to mine, so we split duties.

 

[Independent Gal]

Hiya Lucky,

We bought blank notes from crane.com with bees embossed on them, and the enveloped are lined in a honeycomb pattern. They have some GREAT stuff in their sale section as well. We also got some Vera Wang thank you cards as a ''gift with registry'' thing, but they were kind of boring!

Here are our bee notes:

http://www.crane.com/prdSell.aspx?Name=RN1896_EngravedGoldBeeNotes

I think it''s just as nice, if not nicer, to get notes that don''t say ''Thank You'' on them, since to me it seems a little more personal. Kind of like "I''m not just writing you this stock thank you card because I have to, I''m writing this NOTE to you, in which I say thank you, because I really have something personal to say."

Also, it widens your selection a LOT! Have fun with it! And mix it up. Not everyone has to get the same note.

 

[Independent Gal]

Crane has a SUPER great sale section too. Lots of classy and fun options for less than $1/card.

I love these!

http://www.crane.com/prdSell.aspx?NavName=NavShop&DeptName=Clearance&SubDeptName=ClearanceStationery&Name=RC3569_EngravedElephantBarHarborCards

 

[basil]

I kind of want a blank card with our names engraved on the top, but I don''t know if I can afford them. Otherwise, I just may do a blank card with a colored rim or something.

 

[Independent Gal]

Oh, and in terms of what to say, just say what you mean. Tell the person about how you're using the gift: "We're having lattes for breakfast every day now!" or "I was really hoping we'd get these great new towels/pots/sheets, boy did we need them!" or "Your generosity brings us one step closer to owning our own home!" or note if it's something you particularly wanted or are excited about. If it's pre-wedding, tell them how you're excited about seeing them. Say what you mean, be personal and specific: "I know how you love dancing, and I just can't wait to boogie down with you at the wedding!" or "It's been so long since I've seen you. Let's make sure we get some time to chat!" etc. Just ask yourself "How DO I feel about this present / this person?" and take the opportunity to tell them so.

Another piece of advice: keep up! Send the notes as soon as you get the presents. That way you're less overwhelmed at the end. plus, it makes people feel like you really ARE grateful.

 

[neatfreak]

We ordered personalized ones from fabulousstationary.com. They were great, just little love birds on the front with our names. Cheap too (at least for personalized).

Here they are. Everyone loved them:

https://www.fabulousstationery.com/couples_notes/doves_couples/#

 

[swimmer]

We also ordered notes with our first names on the front. We used vistaprint, be careful to specify blank on the back or you get a vistaprint insignia on it. We chose a floral pattern, they give you lots of palates to choose from, and then our names, blank on inside and back. The linen finish is nice and the cardstock is heavy, but there are little blips on the side where they are cut en masse. But you can''t beat the cost with a stick; around $100 for 300 of them. Figured we will use them forever.
So Basil you can afford your own notes!

 

[zoebartlett]

We got two sets of thank you cards. My mom had ordered ones that had a a simple drawing of our venue on it before she learned that we had also ordered some. The ones I ordered from I got from our printer -- they match our invitations.

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Date: 5/18/2008 11:37:06 AM
Author: Independent Gal
Hiya Lucky,


We bought blank notes from crane.com with bees embossed on them, and the enveloped are lined in a honeycomb pattern. They have some GREAT stuff in their sale section as well. We also got some Vera Wang thank you cards as a 'gift with registry' thing, but they were kind of boring!


Here are our bee notes:


http://www.crane.com/prdSell.aspx?Name=RN1896_EngravedGoldBeeNotes


I think it's just as nice, if not nicer, to get notes that don't say 'Thank You' on them, since to me it seems a little more personal. Kind of like 'I'm not just writing you this stock thank you card because I have to, I'm writing this NOTE to you, in which I say thank you, because I really have something personal to say.'


Also, it widens your selection a LOT! Have fun with it! And mix it up. Not everyone has to get the same note.

I wanted to second Crane and add Papyrus! I love Papyrus I bought blank notecards there to use as thank you cards in addition to other cards. I have
these. I

this store.

ETA: Here's the thank you version of my notecards on Crane's website. Thank you cards

 

[Harleigh]

I got lovely embossed ones from Target...they are cream linen with green flowers that are pretty close to our wedding colors on them, and they were on clearance for $5.00 for 50 of them several months ago, so I bought every pack they had! They have them back in stock now and they''re normally $15.99 a box. At least I know I can get more if I run out!

 

[anchor31]

In our photography package, we get little custom "thank you" pictures. I bought plain cards at Staples to write the messages in, and we''ll include the pictures with the cards.

 

[Cleopatra]

I bought the coolest Thank You cards from none other than Office Depot - in their stationary section. I bought quite a few packs - they were only $9.99 for a pack of 50! And they ACTUALLY go with our invitation motif! Awesome!

My bridal shower was yesterday - so I'll be using up quite a bit of those cards tonight! Yikes!

 

[diamondfan]

I ordered engraved stationery when I got engaged. Some said my maiden name and some said our married name, which I used afterward. I did a heavy card stock in very pale pink with a raised border and my name in dove grey script. It was really pretty and I enjoyed writing the notes.

As for the content it is nice to be personal and specific, as in, Dear Aunt X, The crystal vase is just beautiful. Jeff loves to bring me flowers so I know we will use and enjoy it for many years. Thank you for sharing our special day with us, it meant so much to have you there.

You get the idea, and obviously if it is a shower thank you you would word it differently. I had to dig deep sometimes if I really did not know the people well (hubby''s family friends) or the gift was really awful, but I tried to make each note sound personal...it is a tedious job when you have a lot of them.