Wedding Target Registry Question

[pichuchy21]

My fiance and I registered at Target today despite everything we have read about their strict return policy. Our wedding is going to be tiny so we only picked a few things that we know we will need. When we registered we got a little package of registry information. Inside the little package were some notes that say. "The Lovebirds are registered at Target" I asked the lady that was helping what were they for and she says we should mailing them off with our invites. Is that correct? That sounds kinda pushy like I''m asking people to buy me a gift. Has anyone done this before?

 

[sunnygirl]

yeah we got those from macys too. I personally wouldn''t do it. Instead our website will be on one of our inclusions and we will have a link there.

 

[pichuchy21]

Yeah we don''t have a website. I think I will just tell people if they ask.
Thanks

 

[sunnygirl]

Perfect! I would do word of mouth if we didnt have a website.

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Friends of ours that got married recently sent them with the invites. But, they didn''t exactly follow etiquette rules..at all (e.g. I didn''t even get a thank you note after the wedding for the gift). Personally, I wouldn''t send them. Not everyone would be offended, I did admittedly find it helpful; however, some people would be like oh I guess you just know you''re getting a gift.

 

[pichuchy21]

Yeah I thought sending them off was going to be kinda tacky and pushy. I just rather tell people if they ask. Thanks for the advice ladies.

 

[surfgirl]

Honey, please please please throw those things in the garbage can right now. They are indeed tacky and it''s just bizarre to me that companies think it''s okay to do that sort of thing...Anyway, just tell your mother or sister or best friend that you''ve registered for a few things just in case anyone asks...Word of mouth is the best vehicle in this case. And the most tactful.

 

[CJ2008]

Date: 5/17/2008 11:10:35 PM
Author: SarahLovesJS
Friends of ours that got married recently sent them with the invites. But, they didn''t exactly follow etiquette rules..at all (e.g. I didn''t even get a thank you note after the wedding for the gift). Personally, I wouldn''t send them. Not everyone would be offended, I did admittedly find it helpful; however, some people would be like oh I guess you just know you''re getting a gift.

Warning: mini thread jack! sorry, pichuchy21

Sarah, didn''t that piss you off? The same thing happened to me with a friend of mine. Well, we used to be a lot closer when I was younger, now we''re not so close, but still...FI went to their backyard wedding, and we gave a pretty nice $ gift. That was back in September...no thank you. Just a few weeks later, got notice she was having a baby shower...didn''t attend, but sent a GC in the mail...that was about in October...again, no thank you...

I mean, I know people get busy and stuff...but really, what are they thinking? It''s probably bad manners I''m even thinking about it, but I don''t care! I resent it! With all of the expenses we had going on preparing for our wedding, we did the nice thing...

I feel like next time I get an invite in the mail, whether it''s to a baby shower, or whatever, I''m not going, not sending a gift!

Would any of you feel the same way out there? Or would you look past it and still do the "right" thing should another baby come, etc.?

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Date: 5/17/2008 11:35:54 PM
Author: claudinam

Date: 5/17/2008 11:10:35 PM

Author: SarahLovesJS

Friends of ours that got married recently sent them with the invites. But, they didn''t exactly follow etiquette rules..at all (e.g. I didn''t even get a thank you note after the wedding for the gift). Personally, I wouldn''t send them. Not everyone would be offended, I did admittedly find it helpful; however, some people would be like oh I guess you just know you''re getting a gift.

Warning: mini thread jack! sorry, pichuchy21



Sarah, didn''t that piss you off? The same thing happened to me with a friend of mine. Well, we used to be a lot closer when I was younger, now we''re not so close, but still...FI went to their backyard wedding, and we gave a pretty nice $ gift. That was back in September...no thank you. Just a few weeks later, got notice she was having a baby shower...didn''t attend, but sent a GC in the mail...that was about in October...again, no thank you...


I mean, I know people get busy and stuff...but really, what are they thinking? It''s probably bad manners I''m even thinking about it, but I don''t care! I resent it! With all of the expenses we had going on preparing for our wedding, we did the nice thing...


I feel like next time I get an invite in the mail, whether it''s to a baby shower, or whatever, I''m not going, not sending a gift!


Would any of you feel the same way out there? Or would you look past it and still do the ''right'' thing should another baby come, etc.?

Ohh yes it did. It was FI''s friend getting married, I said our friends but they''re really his friends.

I think it''s because she decided she didn''t like me or something. Then again, no one else got a card either to my knowledge. I got them what I considered to be a nice gift, too. A few items from their registry and something from Pottery Barn. I even put care into picking out a bag and a card. I was very tiffed with her DH at the time because of the way he''d been treating FI, but still went to their wedding against my gut feelings. It''s very rude I think because I know she had the time to send a thank you. Sorry for the mini-rant, you can tell I am still offended. I did get my point across, I made FI ask if they liked their gift over the phone. Maybe that was rude of me, but it put them in the position of admitting they got it at least. Wow, but it happened twice! No way, I agree. Next time just ignore it.

You''re not obligated to go or send a gift. Especially if she''s not family. People can be so rude sometimes.

 

[sunnygirl]

continuing mini-thread jack....

I went to several weddings (like four) last year where I did not receive a thank you note for our gift. for one of the couples, we had also given a nice engagement present at their engagement party. I couldn''t believe it! It actually worried me because I had no way of knowing if they ever got the gift! I was 1/4 worried about our postal system and 3/4 shocked that people think that is okay.

 

[Elmorton]

I think those registry things were in my shower invites (which I'm pretty sure is common), but NOT for the wedding invites! I think it's tacky even to have a line on the wedding invite that says "For registry info go to www.happybride'swebsite.com" - I've seen that too - because I don't think a wedding is about gifts. A shower though typically is, since present opening is part of the event, and registry info is sortof a necessity to those guests.

ALSO - we had NO problems whatsoever with our Target registry and we had TONS of returns. Honestly, it was the EASIEST place right next to BBB. Berger's (dept store, like Macy's - they're not everywhere) was the biggest pain in my rear. I highly recommend the Target registry - I think most of our guests chose to shop there because of convenience/good prices and it was the one place that I know EVERY guest had in their home town. I was really put off while registering how associates at department stores (BBB, Bergner's) would talk about why we shouldn't register at Target - I don't know what purpose that serves (to try to scare brides into having one registry?), but from my experience, all the bad things I heard were complete bunk. Their return policy is identical to BBB's.

Do watch your online registry though if you're adding products via the web - a lot of online products are not available in the store, but it will tell you in red next to the image if it's not in the store. Just double check - I made this mistake a few times. Their collections also change quickly (more so than BBB or a dept store), so be prepared if you register a year in advance and your bathroom set is on clearance a month before your shower.

The only thing I would NOT register for at Target is towels. We had horrible problems with the towels changing colors (btw - we returned ALL of them - some had no tags, some had been used, we didn't have the gift receipts anymore, they'd been purchased more than a month prior b/c we didn't use any of the shower gifts until after the wedding - and they took them ALL back without any issue) - and that was their top luxury line. I had the same problem a few years ago with their mid-line as well. Our JCP towels are amazing, no probs, so it's apparently not related to type of soap or face product that we use. I read online that some places use different dyes or dyeing techniques that make their towels change color because of the pH of your water or something. Haven't had any problems with their other linens though - we did keep a couple bathmats that were fine, and I loved my old Target Bella bedding - honestly, it held up better than our new Nautica that is about 4x as expensive.

 

[lovemybug]

i think those things are supposed to go in the shower invitations if you feel comfortable doing that, but definitely not the actual invitations to the wedding. hopefully that''s what she meant.... i would hope they''re not telling everyone to put them in the real invitations!

 

[surfgirl]

I gave a nice gift to a cousin and had to ask her mother if she got the gift because she didn''t bother to send thank yous out until like 4-5 months later...and then, it was like a generic note anyway. And on top of that I got married 2.5 months before her and she has yet to even acknowledge or congratulate us. Needless to say when she starts having kids, she''ll be lucky if she gets a card from me.

claudinam, why did you even send the second gift? I wouldn''t have, given the lack of thank you on the first one...

 

[lovemybug]

oops, elmorton replied right before i did.... sorry for the double info!

 

[CJ2008]

Date: 5/18/2008 12:17:27 AM
Author: surfgirl
I gave a nice gift to a cousin and had to ask her mother if she got the gift because she didn't bother to send thank yous out until like 4-5 months later...and then, it was like a generic note anyway. And on top of that I got married 2.5 months before her and she has yet to even acknowledge or congratulate us. Needless to say when she starts having kids, she'll be lucky if she gets a card from me.

claudinam, why did you even send the second gift? I wouldn't have, given the lack of thank you on the first one...

surfgirl, you know, that's a damn good question...

Her parents are really good friends of the family...for many years...

I felt like I should/had to...and sometimes honestly I do things because secretly I feel like I'm a little evil/not social enough so I feel guilty and then I overcompensate. (how do you like that for self-anaylizing?)

But I totally resent not getting a thank you...

What's funny is that just today I got an e-mail from her (the reason I'm saying this is funny is because I haven't talked to her or seen her since her wedding in September), she sent me an e-mail with some pictures of her baby, asking me how I was, etc., congratulating me on my upcoming wedding, etc., and she didn't mention anything about the gifts either...what better time for her to say, thank you for your gifts, by the way...I mean, really...

 

[CJ2008]

Date: 5/17/2008 11:49:07 PM
Author: SarahLovesJS

Date: 5/17/2008 11:35:54 PM
Author: claudinam

Date: 5/17/2008 11:10:35 PM

Author: SarahLovesJS

Friends of ours that got married recently sent them with the invites. But, they didn''t exactly follow etiquette rules..at all (e.g. I didn''t even get a thank you note after the wedding for the gift). Personally, I wouldn''t send them. Not everyone would be offended, I did admittedly find it helpful; however, some people would be like oh I guess you just know you''re getting a gift.

Warning: mini thread jack! sorry, pichuchy21



Sarah, didn''t that piss you off? The same thing happened to me with a friend of mine. Well, we used to be a lot closer when I was younger, now we''re not so close, but still...FI went to their backyard wedding, and we gave a pretty nice $ gift. That was back in September...no thank you. Just a few weeks later, got notice she was having a baby shower...didn''t attend, but sent a GC in the mail...that was about in October...again, no thank you...


I mean, I know people get busy and stuff...but really, what are they thinking? It''s probably bad manners I''m even thinking about it, but I don''t care! I resent it! With all of the expenses we had going on preparing for our wedding, we did the nice thing...


I feel like next time I get an invite in the mail, whether it''s to a baby shower, or whatever, I''m not going, not sending a gift!


Would any of you feel the same way out there? Or would you look past it and still do the ''right'' thing should another baby come, etc.?

Ohh yes it did. It was FI''s friend getting married, I said our friends but they''re really his friends.

I think it''s because she decided she didn''t like me or something. Then again, no one else got a card either to my knowledge. I got them what I considered to be a nice gift, too. A few items from their registry and something from Pottery Barn. I even put care into picking out a bag and a card. I was very tiffed with her DH at the time because of the way he''d been treating FI, but still went to their wedding against my gut feelings. It''s very rude I think because I know she had the time to send a thank you. Sorry for the mini-rant, you can tell I am still offended. I did get my point across, I made FI ask if they liked their gift over the phone. Maybe that was rude of me, but it put them in the position of admitting they got it at least. Wow, but it happened twice! No way, I agree. Next time just ignore it.

You''re not obligated to go or send a gift. Especially if she''s not family. People can be so rude sometimes.

Yeah, I really think I will...I mean they''re nice people, but it''s just annoying...like I said I think it bothers me even more because we feel like we''ve been bleeding $ for like a year now, between the wedding and other things...so to give what was a nice gift, and not be acknowledged...annoying...I remember when a couple of months later I got the invite for the shower I told my FI "I''d feel better about sending a gift for this if they had said thank you for the first one!" But at that time, I really thought the thank you card was coming at some point...

Well, I can safely say now that it probably isn''t!

 

[Guilty Pleasure]

Here''s my thoughts on thank-you cards.

If I give a person a gift, and they open it right then and I get to see the expression on their face, and they say "thank you" with a smile, then I wouldn''t expect a thank you card. It feels good to get real mail as a surprise if they choose to send one, but the thought never crosses my mind to notice if I don''t receive one. Growing up, I never sent thank you cards to relatives for presents; I gave them a thank you and a hug the moment I received the gift.

If I give a gift at a shower or wedding, especially if it is mailed, then I NEED the thank you note to give me peace of mind that the person received the present. I also feel this way about birthday presents or Christmas gifts that I mail.

Basically, I just need verbal or written acknowledgement that a person has recieved my gift and hopefully appreciates it (or at least gives a believable performance). I''m not hung up on the etiquette of sending the hand-written thank you note for the sake of a handwritten thank you note, and I don''t get my nose bent out of shape when I do not receive the note as long as the person said thank you to my face.

That being said, you better believe that I will write every single thank you note for shower and wedding presents when I receive them! I also write thank you notes for gifts or acts of kindness in my everyday life just because everyone likes to get mail.

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Date: 5/18/2008 3:57:18 AM
Author: Guilty Pleasure
Here''s my thoughts on thank-you cards.


If I give a person a gift, and they open it right then and I get to see the expression on their face, and they say ''thank you'' with a smile, then I wouldn''t expect a thank you card. It feels good to get real mail as a surprise if they choose to send one, but the thought never crosses my mind to notice if I don''t receive one. Growing up, I never sent thank you cards to relatives for presents; I gave them a thank you and a hug the moment I received the gift.


If I give a gift at a shower or wedding, especially if it is mailed, then I NEED the thank you note to give me peace of mind that the person received the present. I also feel this way about birthday presents or Christmas gifts that I mail.


Basically, I just need verbal or written acknowledgement that a person has recieved my gift and hopefully appreciates it (or at least gives a believable performance). I''m not hung up on the etiquette of sending the hand-written thank you note for the sake of a handwritten thank you note, and I don''t get my nose bent out of shape when I do not receive the note as long as the person said thank you to my face.


That being said, you better believe that I will write every single thank you note for shower and wedding presents when I receive them! I also write thank you notes for gifts or acts of kindness in my everyday life just because everyone likes to get mail.

Ditto! I think that''s a great way to put it. I mean if you can see the person opening it, that''s one thing. It''s just frustrating to have no idea whether they got it or liked it.

 

[surfgirl]

Guilty Pleasure, you''re like me, I also write the thank you note immediately upon opening the gift. In fact, a distant relative saw my mother last month and brought a wedding gift for us to my mother''s home. My mother was like "do you want their address so you can mail it to them directly?" but for some weird reason they didnt want to so they left it at my mother''s. I dont see her that often and she said "oh I''ll give it to you next time I see you" and I said, "no, please mail it to us this week so I can send her a thank you note as soon as possible" because I just hate giving a gift and not knowing if the person got it or not. Anyway, it''s nice to know I''m not the only one who sends out thank yous right away...this waiting X months before replying to ALL your giftgivers is for the birds, IMO.

 

[neatfreak]

Date: 5/18/2008 2:55:31 PM
Author: surfgirl
this waiting X months before replying to ALL your giftgivers is for the birds, IMO.

Not to mention it is so so much easier to send thank you''s as presents come in!

 

[CJ2008]

Date: 5/18/2008 3:57:18 AM
Author: Guilty Pleasure
Here''s my thoughts on thank-you cards.

If I give a person a gift, and they open it right then and I get to see the expression on their face, and they say ''thank you'' with a smile, then I wouldn''t expect a thank you card. It feels good to get real mail as a surprise if they choose to send one, but the thought never crosses my mind to notice if I don''t receive one. Growing up, I never sent thank you cards to relatives for presents; I gave them a thank you and a hug the moment I received the gift.

If I give a gift at a shower or wedding, especially if it is mailed, then I NEED the thank you note to give me peace of mind that the person received the present. I also feel this way about birthday presents or Christmas gifts that I mail.

Basically, I just need verbal or written acknowledgement that a person has recieved my gift and hopefully appreciates it (or at least gives a believable performance). I''m not hung up on the etiquette of sending the hand-written thank you note for the sake of a handwritten thank you note, and I don''t get my nose bent out of shape when I do not receive the note as long as the person said thank you to my face.

That being said, you better believe that I will write every single thank you note for shower and wedding presents when I receive them! I also write thank you notes for gifts or acts of kindness in my everyday life just because everyone likes to get mail.

I''m with you 100%! It''s fine whether I hear from the person via phone, e-mail, personally, or whatever. But in some way, shape or form, I''d like to hear that they got the gift, and thank you.

Could I take the opportunity that she sent me the e-mail to ask, "by the way...did you get the present for the baby? I sent it via mail, and I just want to make sure you got it..." I could ask, right?

Unfortunately, I can''t really say the same for their $ wedding gift, since we handed it in at the wedding. I don''t remember if we gave it directly to them or in some kind of basket or whatever...I''d love to make up some kind of excuse that I''m fearful it may have been lost, but I think she''ll see right through me.

 

[Haven]

I think those little paper slips "announcing" that the couple has registered with a particular store are in extremely poor taste and I''m glad to hear you''re not planning on making use of them. Word of mouth is always best.

Claudina--To answer your question, if I don''t receive a thank you note for a gift once then that person never receives another gift from me, period. Several of my FI''s friends and colleagues were married over the last few years and many of them neglected to send thank-you letters after the wedding. Now that they are having babies and the baby shower gifts are coming in I just decline the shower invitation and send a handwritten congratulatory note. If you cannot be bothered to send a proper thank you, then I cannot be bothered to send any more gifts.

One couple (whom I truly do adore) had thank-you cards PRE-PRINTED and just sent those out after their wedding! PRE-PRINTED THANK YOU CARDS! I was actually hurt because FI stood up in their wedding, we gave them an extremely generous gift, we are very close with them, and they didn''t feel the need to write a personal note! I couldn''t believe it. How incredibly offensive, I was actually shocked that a printer would even print those. It was better than no thank-you note, I suppose.

My parents went to a wedding where the couple printed poems saying something along the lines of "We are so happy you could celebrate with us, and we want to thank you for being here and for giving the generous gift that we''re sure you gave" and they rolled them up, tied them with a ribbon, and put one on each plate. That was their version of the thank-you note. Needless to say, that was the last gift they''ll ever receive from my parents.

I agree with Guilty Pleasure--if I see someone open the gift then I''m a bit less rigid about receiving a proper thank you (although it is still necessary, in my opinion). I don''t write people off for not sending a note if I was there when they opened the gift, though.

This is how my family operates--no thank-you, no more gifts.

 

[Harleigh]

I forgot what the point of this thread was, but I had to continue to thread-jack! Sorry OP!

I was MoH in a friends wedding Sept. 2006...I was INSTRUCTED to put together a "Bride''s Bag" full of stuff she *might* need on her wedding day. I did this without question and was happy to do it. I carted that AND a shower gift on an airplane to her in July of 2006 and helped to host the shower. No thank you, nada, zilch, nothing.

I also bought her a bunch of towels and kitchen stuff she had registered for at Kohl''s and had them mailed to her. She commented that she had received them on the phone one day, but never said thank you or sent a thank you card.

I flew my FI and I down to S. CA for the wedding on Labor Day weekend (which, as a teacher, is a horrible weekend to try to get a day off!) and she never once said thanks for being part of their special day, never thanked FI for helping to seat people, moving chairs, acting as bartender, helping people park, etc..., and then we were both expected to clean up and break down everything in their yard while she sat on her butt and watched us.

Thanks for letting me get that out...I just don''t think some people were taught the same manners as some of the rest of us. I write a thank you the moment I am able after receiving a gift...I think it''s more genuine and heartfelt if I don''t wait. Whenever I get something from one of my kids or family, I make sure I write a note to go home in the child''s folder that same day...I couldn''t imagine not letting them know I appreciate their thinking of me!

 

[surfgirl]

Date: 5/18/2008 11:08:44 PM
Author: Haven
...if I don''t receive a thank you note for a gift once then that person never receives another gift from me, period. Several of my FI''s friends and colleagues were married over the last few years and many of them neglected to send thank-you letters after the wedding. Now that they are having babies and the baby shower gifts are coming in I just decline the shower invitation and send a handwritten congratulatory note. If you cannot be bothered to send a proper thank you, then I cannot be bothered to send any more gifts.

This is how my family operates--no thank-you, no more gifts.

Haven, I''m glad to know it''s not just me! My sentiments exactly.

 

[CJ2008]

Date: 5/18/2008 11:08:44 PM
Author: Haven
I think those little paper slips ''announcing'' that the couple has registered with a particular store are in extremely poor taste and I''m glad to hear you''re not planning on making use of them. Word of mouth is always best.

Claudina--To answer your question, if I don''t receive a thank you note for a gift once then that person never receives another gift from me, period. Several of my FI''s friends and colleagues were married over the last few years and many of them neglected to send thank-you letters after the wedding. Now that they are having babies and the baby shower gifts are coming in I just decline the shower invitation and send a handwritten congratulatory note. If you cannot be bothered to send a proper thank you, then I cannot be bothered to send any more gifts.

Well, I am sure they will be having more babies, so I can''t wait until I get to say "Congratulations!" via mail, and that''s it.

One couple (whom I truly do adore) had thank-you cards PRE-PRINTED and just sent those out after their wedding! PRE-PRINTED THANK YOU CARDS! I was actually hurt because FI stood up in their wedding, we gave them an extremely generous gift, we are very close with them, and they didn''t feel the need to write a personal note! I couldn''t believe it. How incredibly offensive, I was actually shocked that a printer would even print those. It was better than no thank-you note, I suppose.

My parents went to a wedding where the couple printed poems saying something along the lines of ''We are so happy you could celebrate with us, and we want to thank you for being here and for giving the generous gift that we''re sure you gave'' and they rolled them up, tied them with a ribbon, and put one on each plate. That was their version of the thank-you note. Needless to say, that was the last gift they''ll ever receive from my parents.

I agree with Guilty Pleasure--if I see someone open the gift then I''m a bit less rigid about receiving a proper thank you (although it is still necessary, in my opinion). I don''t write people off for not sending a note if I was there when they opened the gift, though.

This is how my family operates--no thank-you, no more gifts.

I like this. And since I am starting my own family (I don''t know if I''ll have kids but FI and I are family!), this will be our MO as well! haha Seriously, this makes fng sense to me!

 

[CJ2008]

Harleigh,

Let it out! Is that the first time you ever admitted this to anybody? If it is, I''m sure that felt GOOD. It''s amazing how sometimes we feel so ashamed if we have these kinds of feelings like, "damn, would''ve been nice to get a thank you!"

Is this still a good friend of yours?

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Harleigh I just wanted to say I am sorry your friend didn''t even offer a thank you!

You are such a sweet person, and I agree some people are more ill-mannered than us. I am going to include myself.

 

[Harleigh]

Thanks for the kind words, claudinam & Sarah!

Yeah, it stinks to hold that in for so long! I have only ever told my BFF how I feel about it, and she has never been a fan of this gal''s, but we see her so infrequently, that I''ve tried to just let it go. She is a sporadic gift giver herself...one year I''ll receive a birthday AND a Christmas gift, and other years, nothing, maybe just a pre-printed Christmas card with pictures of her dogs. There''s no rhyme or reason to her method of madness, so I''ve just learned to let it go (as well as I know how, that is!) I forgot to mention that the "Bride''s Bag" I put together wasn''t to her liking...when I arrived for the wedding, she had totally redone it and put everything into a craft tote...totally cracked me up!

As for whether or not I''m still friends with her...yes, and she will be in my wedding in July. I have posted about this in some of my other threads, but she is the one in my bridal party who just assumed she was going to be my Matron of Honor. Again, I decided it just wasn''t worth losing a friendship over the classification of her title. She lives in S. CA and I live in N. CA, so our contact is limited and far and few between.

She seems to be really excited for my wedding, but I sometimes wonder if that''s because she didn''t do everything the way she wanted for her own wedding. I have been pretty easygoing about everything regarding the wedding, the girls'' dresses, the bridal shower, etc..., and it just ticks her off that I''m not more opinionated about things! It''s my subconcious reverse psychology, I suppose! I simply refuse to be a Bridezilla like she was!

Thanks again, ladies, and Sarah, you are just about the furthest thing from ill-mannered I''ve seen here on PS, so knock that off already!

 

[monarch64]

Disclaimer: this is just my opinion!!

OP, throw the Target registry info thingies in the trash. Use word of mouth and tell whomever is hosting your shower(s) to let people know where you are registered. Unfortunately, the big retailers will try to help you make the mistake of doing some marketing for them, that is why they print up their own registry thingies...they WANT you to feel like you are supposed to place them in your wedding invites!
You''re smarter than that, as are most brides, so don''t do it, imo it is a terribly tactless thing to do. One should never "ask" for gifts!

Rely on your shower planner, mom, friends, word of mouth, to let people know where you are registered. Many times people will figure it out on their own just by going on Target''s registry and seeing if you are on there. It will be fine...I promise!