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Shiny_Rock
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Hi everyone
I have been MIA for a while now but have been lurking a lot and am loving the ideas I get from PS. I feel really bad about venting here but I just don''t know anyone else who will understand the stress of planning a wedding and will be able to give me reasoned advice like PS''ers do.
FI and I have just had a really unlucky run over the past year or so, but particularly in the last few months.
In December 08, I lost my job, and as I had less than a year left for my degree, I was unable to find any meaningful, permanent work and have been working temp jobs ever since. I finished my degree and was admitted to the bar in Feb, and even though I have good grades, 2 years of undergrad experience, have been selected for interstate mooting competitions etc, I have been unable to secure work as a lawyer. I am from Australia, and whilst the employment situation for lawyers is bad at the moment, it isn''t as bad as in America and I should be able to find work. I am currently working as a secretary for a very demanding, needy and not very capable boss and am desperate to get out of my three month contract with her.
Then just before we were engaged last November, FI lost his job (he had been there for 4 years). He got another job in December, but the contract he was working on fell through and he lost his job again in Feb. He was out of work for a month and is now 2 weeks into a 5 week contract. However, it doesn''t look like that contract will be extended.
We have a mortgage and only about $5000 in savings. We were planning on paying for the wedding ourselves but we probably won''t be able to afford it now. Before FI lost his job for the second time we had already entered into $6500 worth of contracts for the wedding (which is in December this year).
Then, on Sunday we were in a car accident (I was the driver) in which the car rolled over on a dirt road. I was terrified and actually thought someone was going to die. I went into shock for about 12 hours. Our (only) car has probably been written off and we are waiting to hear back from the insurance company.
I am just feeling so stressed out and depressed. I am unable to enjoy wedding planning because I do not know where the money will come from. I know that our parents will help out if we need them to, but I REALLY wanted to pay for the wedding ourselves. I do not see our marriage as being anything to do with our parents, and our parents do not even really care about marriage or weddings so I feel really guilty asking them to pay for any of it.
On top of that, my two bridesmaids are moving away from my town soon. One to a town about three hours away and the other one to the UK for six months. My MOH lives interstate. So I will have no-one to help me with wedding planning once that happens. The bridesmaid going to the UK asked me to lock in my hens night for a week before the wedding as she wanted to be there, but she has booked her tickets so that she will be flying in the day of the hens night! I don''t think she is going to be there somehow.
I am so sorry for the novel, I have just had all of this brewing inside of me for a while now and once I started typing it I couldn''t stop! I am not sure what I am looking for, but any advice or comments would be great.
I have been MIA for a while now but have been lurking a lot and am loving the ideas I get from PS. I feel really bad about venting here but I just don''t know anyone else who will understand the stress of planning a wedding and will be able to give me reasoned advice like PS''ers do.
FI and I have just had a really unlucky run over the past year or so, but particularly in the last few months.
In December 08, I lost my job, and as I had less than a year left for my degree, I was unable to find any meaningful, permanent work and have been working temp jobs ever since. I finished my degree and was admitted to the bar in Feb, and even though I have good grades, 2 years of undergrad experience, have been selected for interstate mooting competitions etc, I have been unable to secure work as a lawyer. I am from Australia, and whilst the employment situation for lawyers is bad at the moment, it isn''t as bad as in America and I should be able to find work. I am currently working as a secretary for a very demanding, needy and not very capable boss and am desperate to get out of my three month contract with her.
Then just before we were engaged last November, FI lost his job (he had been there for 4 years). He got another job in December, but the contract he was working on fell through and he lost his job again in Feb. He was out of work for a month and is now 2 weeks into a 5 week contract. However, it doesn''t look like that contract will be extended.
We have a mortgage and only about $5000 in savings. We were planning on paying for the wedding ourselves but we probably won''t be able to afford it now. Before FI lost his job for the second time we had already entered into $6500 worth of contracts for the wedding (which is in December this year).
Then, on Sunday we were in a car accident (I was the driver) in which the car rolled over on a dirt road. I was terrified and actually thought someone was going to die. I went into shock for about 12 hours. Our (only) car has probably been written off and we are waiting to hear back from the insurance company.
I am just feeling so stressed out and depressed. I am unable to enjoy wedding planning because I do not know where the money will come from. I know that our parents will help out if we need them to, but I REALLY wanted to pay for the wedding ourselves. I do not see our marriage as being anything to do with our parents, and our parents do not even really care about marriage or weddings so I feel really guilty asking them to pay for any of it.
On top of that, my two bridesmaids are moving away from my town soon. One to a town about three hours away and the other one to the UK for six months. My MOH lives interstate. So I will have no-one to help me with wedding planning once that happens. The bridesmaid going to the UK asked me to lock in my hens night for a week before the wedding as she wanted to be there, but she has booked her tickets so that she will be flying in the day of the hens night! I don''t think she is going to be there somehow.
I am so sorry for the novel, I have just had all of this brewing inside of me for a while now and once I started typing it I couldn''t stop! I am not sure what I am looking for, but any advice or comments would be great.