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Brilliant_Rock
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I am starting to feel some stress about my bridal shower. My MOH emailed me asking about potential dates, and since it will be in May (busy for everyone,) I am feeling the stress of getting this event hammered out.
My aunt has said twice, in passing, that "if we did a shower here, we would do xyz." I always just sorta laugh and don''t say much, because she has never flat-out said, "can I host your shower?"
My future MIL (whom I freaking adore, she is like a second mom) has said things like how she would love a shower centered around wine and cheese, and we could do this wine and that wine, etc. etc. She hasn''t said anything recently, since I mentioned that my aunt may be interested in throwing one.
MOH who is the greatest ever is so up for whatever, she will help anyone and/or give her last dime to throw me a shower. However I have told her that both aunt and MIL have mentioned wanting to throw one, so she understands she needs to be more in helper-mode than host-mode. If her and future MIL paired up, it would be SOO fun and such a blast, since MOH and FMIL know each other well and have a hilarious time.
No one knows my aunt except a couple cousins. Aunt would throw a great party and it would mean a lot to her. She threw my grad party but almost backed out the week prior because it was "so stressful" until Mom called begging her not to cancel. I worry about a similar thing with bridal shower.
Mom lives in CA and can''t make it to the shower, nor help plan. Sister hasn''t said a word about any shower, probably because she thinks MOH is throwing one.
Its such a touchy issue for me because I HATE to seem like I''m asking any one person to host - but I need to figure out time/place soon. FI thinks I should have two, a small one with aunt and a second one where MOH and FMIL plan. FI thinks MOH should call FMIL to plan one. I feel weird having FMIL plan anything since she isn''t on my side, but it is what I WANT. I also don''t love the idea of 2 showers since I think one big one would be more fun and not seem like I''m trying to get multiple gifts from everyone.
I''m at a loss, and stressed about something that should be fun. Thoughts? THANKS!
My aunt has said twice, in passing, that "if we did a shower here, we would do xyz." I always just sorta laugh and don''t say much, because she has never flat-out said, "can I host your shower?"
My future MIL (whom I freaking adore, she is like a second mom) has said things like how she would love a shower centered around wine and cheese, and we could do this wine and that wine, etc. etc. She hasn''t said anything recently, since I mentioned that my aunt may be interested in throwing one.
MOH who is the greatest ever is so up for whatever, she will help anyone and/or give her last dime to throw me a shower. However I have told her that both aunt and MIL have mentioned wanting to throw one, so she understands she needs to be more in helper-mode than host-mode. If her and future MIL paired up, it would be SOO fun and such a blast, since MOH and FMIL know each other well and have a hilarious time.
No one knows my aunt except a couple cousins. Aunt would throw a great party and it would mean a lot to her. She threw my grad party but almost backed out the week prior because it was "so stressful" until Mom called begging her not to cancel. I worry about a similar thing with bridal shower.
Mom lives in CA and can''t make it to the shower, nor help plan. Sister hasn''t said a word about any shower, probably because she thinks MOH is throwing one.
Its such a touchy issue for me because I HATE to seem like I''m asking any one person to host - but I need to figure out time/place soon. FI thinks I should have two, a small one with aunt and a second one where MOH and FMIL plan. FI thinks MOH should call FMIL to plan one. I feel weird having FMIL plan anything since she isn''t on my side, but it is what I WANT. I also don''t love the idea of 2 showers since I think one big one would be more fun and not seem like I''m trying to get multiple gifts from everyone.
I''m at a loss, and stressed about something that should be fun. Thoughts? THANKS!