Step-mom advice needed!

[icekid]

Date: 8/25/2008 7:33:42 PM
Author: VegasAngel

Dont forget pregnant daughter in law. Why was I thinking about this when I was out shopping today,lol? I''m sorry it''s just so strange. To me it seems like MIL is purposely trying to get you to not want to stay. Why doesnt she or your dad make hotel suggestions or offer to pay for one, something.

This is what I was thinking as well. Sounds like she was trying to alienate you such that you never make plans to stay with them again. Random neighbors??? Whaaaaaa? Truly one of the more bizarre stories I have ever heard.

Indy- it sounds like you know and accept your dad. You know that he is not going to change. Because of this, you will not be staying at his wife''s home anymore. She obviously does not want you there, whatever her wacko reason may be. I think it would be best to book a hotel/ plan to stay with a friend to avoid this situation in the future. I cannot see how your dad could be upset or give you grief over this when he knows how his wife purposely isolated you on the last trip. It''s just not reasonable.

I hope you have some great revelation when you wake up in the morning

 

[vita*dolce]

wow, what an awkward situation! i think you should certainly talk to your father about it, and perhaps even talk to your step-mom about it if you feel comfortable with that. tell her how her actions made you feel and see what happens from there.

i can''t believe you left your father''s house and stayed with the neighbors, i would have said "*expletive*, are you crazy?"

 

[Independent Gal]

OK, now I'm in a mild venting mood, so I just have to tell you step-mom's other super-doozy of a WTF?!?! bad behaviour scenario. We were out hiking in the forest with my dad and his wife and and my brother and his common-law wife, J (whom I looooove

). So, J slipped off a log and feel into a big mud puddle and got completely soaked and drenched in filth. She was so upset! Nearly in tears. I mean, she was really completely marinated in mud.

So, we get back to the house and Step-mom tells J that she should go around the back, where she meets her with a HOSE and says that she should strip down and get hosed off there before going in the house so that she wouldn't track mud in.

Excuse me? That is SO HUMILIATING!!!! To have someone insist you strip OUTSIDE so they can hose you off, because tracking mud in their house would be somehow worse?!? J's dignity is worth less to her than 5 minutes of mopping?

My brother came theeeeees close to decking step-mom. I have never seen him so angry in my life. But I guess we were all raised to try to be nice and non-confrontational, and it was my dad's birthday. So we went out and got drunk instead.

But boy did step-mom lose points that day.

 

[Independent Gal]

Lucky, I remember your crazy story about the separate house sleeping!

People are kooky for sure.

 

[Skippy123]

Date: 8/25/2008 8:47:52 PM
Author: Independent Gal
OK, now I''m in a mild venting mood, so I just have to tell you step-mom''s other super-doozy of a WTF?!?! bad behaviour scenario. We were out hiking in the forest with my dad and his wife and and my brother and his common-law wife, J (whom I looooove

). So, J slipped off a log and feel into a big mud puddle and got completely soaked and drenched in filth. She was so upset! Nearly in tears. I mean, she was really completely marinated in mud.

So, we get back to the house and Step-mom tells J that she should go around the back, where she meets her with a HOSE and says that she should strip down and get hosed off there before going in the house so that she wouldn''t track mud in.

Excuse me? That is SO HUMILIATING!!!! To have someone insist you strip OUTSIDE so they can hose you off, because tracking mud in their house would be somehow worse?!? J''s dignity is worth less to her than 5 minutes of mopping?

My brother came theeeeees close to decking step-mom. I have never seen him so angry in my life. But I guess we were all raised to try to be nice and non-confrontational, and it was my dad''s birthday. So we went out and got drunk instead.

But boy did step-mom lose points that day.

Oh goodness, that wasn''t nice of her. I can just see her hosing down your brothers girl, nutty!

Glad you all went out and had a drink afterward, those always help!!! Well, I am sending you a hug Indy and keep us posted! I like being Auntie Skippy! hehe

 

[Dreamer_D]

Indy all you can do is laugh at people like you step-mom. Really. I bet nothing she does is "on purpose" in the sense that she clearly lives on another planet and plays be different rules than the rest of us. With people like that, it is easier to just chuckle and go on your merry way. And stay in a hotel

She will never change, so why bother trying to change her or even understand her?

 

[movie zombie]

Date: 8/25/2008 10:18:25 PM
Author: dreamer_dachsie
Indy all you can do is laugh at people like you step-mom. Really. I bet nothing she does is ''on purpose'' in the sense that she clearly lives on another planet and plays be different rules than the rest of us. With people like that, it is easier to just chuckle and go on your merry way. And stay in a hotel

She will never change, so why bother trying to change her or even understand her?

+1.

your dad is the way he is and always supports the woman in his life, not his kids. that''s not going to change. but he certainly has been good at getting you to ride on the pity train. time to get off, accept who he is and the woman in his life as just another cross to bear, and use all that energy for more positive things: you, your hubby, and those twins.

i know this situation....with this wife or prior ones....has been going on for a long time. but you''ve handled it well. don''t let those pregnancy hormone changes lead you off into a battle that is unwinnable. if you must say something, say it to your dad because imo he''s really the issue. life is short and some battles just not worth it. your dad has made his bed. very soon you''re not going to have time to worry about any of this!

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