monkeyprincess
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Anyone else considering trying for a family shortly after you get married?
My fiance and I have been talking lately about how long after the wedding we will stop trying not to have a baby (if that makes sense). I'll be 28 when we get married, and he is almost 10 years older than me, so age is a bit of a factor. We both really want at least two children, and my older sister experienced some problems with infertility before she had her two little ones. I know of many other people who have experienced difficulty, so it is just not something I'm going to take for granted and wait around too long. Therefore, we're talking about not doing anything to prevent a pregnancy after we have been married about 3 months or so.
The main problem with that is that it doesn't really make sense career-wise for me to have a baby for a few more years because I'll be a new associate at a large law firm about a month after we get married, and I'm sure the partners will not take kindly to finding out I'm pregnant a few months after starting. But I refuse to let that dictate my family decisions. The other concern I have is that we will miss out on having time to just be a married couple before becoming a family.
Just curious what other people's thoughts are on this issue. Am I crazy to consider trying for a baby so soon after getting married?
My fiance and I have been talking lately about how long after the wedding we will stop trying not to have a baby (if that makes sense). I'll be 28 when we get married, and he is almost 10 years older than me, so age is a bit of a factor. We both really want at least two children, and my older sister experienced some problems with infertility before she had her two little ones. I know of many other people who have experienced difficulty, so it is just not something I'm going to take for granted and wait around too long. Therefore, we're talking about not doing anything to prevent a pregnancy after we have been married about 3 months or so.
The main problem with that is that it doesn't really make sense career-wise for me to have a baby for a few more years because I'll be a new associate at a large law firm about a month after we get married, and I'm sure the partners will not take kindly to finding out I'm pregnant a few months after starting. But I refuse to let that dictate my family decisions. The other concern I have is that we will miss out on having time to just be a married couple before becoming a family.
Just curious what other people's thoughts are on this issue. Am I crazy to consider trying for a baby so soon after getting married?