Speaking of Traditions

[mayachel]

Which will you include in your wedding? (Besides the name game) Which will you overlook?



Mr. Mayachel and I will have a chuppah, do a ribbon based handfasting, stomp on some glass, sign a ketubah (but it will have interfaith text, so sorta new tradition), gladly kiss when people clink their glasses. My father wants to walk me down the aisle on his own, so I''m game. DF will likely be escorted in by both parents, as that is a Jewish tradition. I will likely do the something old/new/blue.


Things I can think of off the top of my head that we are leaving out:
-bridesmaids/groomsmen
-bouquet toss/garter toss
-clergy---we will have a friend officiate

 

[elrohwen]

I like this thread! Good topic.

Here are the traditions we''re keeping:
I''m having a MOH and bridesmaid. FI will have a best man and a groomsman
My dad will walk me down the aisle.
We''ll have a first dance (despite me trying to get out of it).
I''ll have something old, new, and blue, though probably not something borrowed unless someone surprises me with something.
We''ll have a full dinner and open bar. A DJ with dancing. Fairly traditional reception.


Traditions we''re doing without:
No bouquet toss or garter toss. It''s just not our thing.
We''re having cheesecake instead of regular cake (yum)
We''re not religious, so we''ll have a justice of the peace or something rather than clergy.
FI''s mom will walk him down the aisle (at least we''re fairly sure of this).
My dress is white, but it''s tea length, which is fairly untraditional I think. And my shoes are bright blue

No flower girls or ring bearers (we don''t even know any kids around that age)
We may not do the father/daughter and mother/son dances. I want to skip them ... but I should really leave it up to my dad and he hasn''t expressed an opinion on it yet.

 

[Clairitek]

I will be wearing a traditional wedding gown (in ivory) with a veil. I have two MOHs and 3 BMs. FI will have his best man and 3-4 groomsmen. My father will walk me down the aisle alone. My mother loathes being the center of attention. We are having a Catholic wedding blessing ceremony. We will have MOH and best man speeches as well as father of the groom and father of the brides. We will do a first dance. We will probably do a father/daughter and mother/son dance as well. I think our parents would be sad if we didn''t.

We aren''t going to do a bouquet and garter toss. No ring bearers or flower girls. I''d prefer it if people don''t clink their glasses all the time to get us to kiss. Not sure we will even have a proper wedding cake yet so we might not go through with the cake cutting shenanigans.

 

[wannaBMrsH]

Awesome Topic!


Traditions we are keeping:

FI will not see me the day of the wedding until the ceremony
I will have a MOH and 2BMs; FI will have a BM and 2-4 GMs
We are having traditional vows
We are exchanging rings
We are definitely kissing
I will wear white (no laughing!)
I will have the old/new/borrowed/blue and even a sixpence in my shoe!
We are going to have some Mexican Traditions too: Lazo, arras, etc.
Toast
Cutting the Cake

Traditions we are not keeping:

Both of my parents are walking me down the aisle (my parents were divorced and I am definitely a daddy''s girl, but I want to honor the fact that my mother was just as much a part of me as my dad)
We are also writing our own vows (we will recite our own vows first and then recite the traditional ones, because I think there is something special about saying the same vows that millions of hopeful couples in love have recited)
We are not having a religious ceremony as we are being married on the beach
We are going to leave out the "obey" part of the vows and we are both saying "love, honor and cherish"
We are going to ask that our officiant read the "Hands" passage

Traditions we haven''t decided about:

We don''t know yet if we are having a full-fledged reception or if we are having a reception dinner only, so the following is up in the air:

First Dance
Bouquet Toss and Garter Toss

Whew!

 

[sunnyd]

Keeping:
- Dad walking me down
- BMs, GMs, and a ringbearer (don''t know any girls to be a FG, unless FSIL has a girl, in which case she''ll be it!)
- Cake (we were gonna do cupcakes, but I wanted a pretty cake!

)
- 1st dance (for like a minute, then we''re busting into hip hop something or other)
- Father/daughter mother/son dances
- Clinky kisses!

Nixing:
- We want to do photos before the ceremony. My mother may disown me.

- My sister is officiating
- Red shoes!!

I really like wedding traditions, so we''re keeping or modifying most of them.

 

[Hudson_Hawk]

Here are our ''keepers''
-bridal party with best man and matron of honor (though we deviate from tradition because FI has a girl as a GM).
-my dad will walk me down the aisle
-cake cutting
-first dance
-father/daughter dance
-chicken dance (FI insists)
-champagne toast

We could care less about
-dollar dance
-bridal party dance
-FI doesn''t want to dance with his mom
-garter/bouquet toss
-full bridal party introduction
-speeches
-limo for bridal party (such a waste!)
-letterpress invitations and matching stationery
-sand ceremony

I would love to hear more about your handfasting ceremony. FI and I are both Scottish, and handfasting is an old tradition. We would love to do something like it in our ceremony.

 

[AmberGretchen]

We had:

- a chuppah
- both parents (mine) walking me down the aisle
- 7 blessings
- signed (and hung in our home) a Ketubah

we really didn''t want:

- bouquet toss
- cheesy dances (chicken dance, etc...)
- garter anything

 

[sunnyd]

Oh yeah, we''re also doing bouquet toss and garter throw...are we the only ones??

 

[glueck]

Fun topic!

IN:
Father is escorting me down the aisle
Because we are in Europe, we are getting a civil service and a church wedding...Double Yes
we will have a first dance, but it might be to solo piano
we will cut our cake
Even though we are having a destination wedding ,we are booking two separate hotel rooms for the night before the wedding.
I will have old new borrowed and blue (no sixpence though!)

UNCONVENTIONAL:
OH SO MUCH!
We will take photographs before the wedding
no bridal party except ring bearer and flower girl
groom will process alone before the flower girl and ring bearer...Its a long walk. he should make it too!
Ipod reception after cocktail hour, which is live piano
no bouquet or garter toss
Although we are marrying in a church, it is a rented space. We are getting married my a friend, and we are writing the entire ceremony ourselves.

 

[SarahLovesJS]

Traditions:
MOH - except since the MOH is my Mom I think there''s some not traditional I believe here, too.
BMs
Groomsmen & Best man
Cake cutting
On the fence, but currently planning garter & bouquet toss (not the only one sunnyd!)
Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue
Dad walking me down the aisle
First dance
Daddy/daughter dance
Mother/son dance
Bridal party dance
Flower girl
Ring bearer
Toast (except not with champagne)
Maybe some speeches..

Changing:
We are going to see each other before the wedding for photos
Not renting a limo to my knowledge
Probably not having a bachelor or bachelorette party although not sure if that is a "tradition"
Not using a church that''s kind of not traditional in our families
Probably no introductions of us or bridal party by DJ
No receiving line ahhhh!! Too long
We''re writing a section of our vows
My dress is technically not white

 

[PilsnPinkysMom]

Sunny--- you are not alone I plan to keep many traditional elements in my wedding

Traditional:
Bridal party (minus ring bearer/flower girl)
White (ivory) dress & veil
Old/new/borrowed/blue
Dad walking me down the isle
Garter/bouquet toss
First dance, m/s & f/d dances
Cake cutting
Clinky glasses & lots of kisses (!!!)
Champagne toasts

Untraditional:
Not getting married in a church, no readings from bible, FI''s uncle marrying us
Non-traditional wedding music (lotsa indie rock!!!)
Seeing FI before the wedding (we''re doin'' pictures before)

...I''m sure there are other things, I just can''t think of ''em right now

 

[mayachel]

It''s so much fun to see the list of what people are keeping and letting go of. Though not surprising, I think it speaks to how a wedding to start a marriage is tradition...how we all adapt those rituals is very personal.

 

[Deelight]

Keeping
[*] The garter and bouquet toss
[*] Attendants the whole boot
[*] The dress and stuff (like something old...)
[*] Most likely will be a church wedding
[*] Cake
[*] First Dances
[*] My dad will walk me down the aisle
[*] Pretty well down the line traditional reception
[*] Ethnic dances

Won''t be doing
[*] Almond Bomboniere(sp?) New nephew is allergic to nuts

[*] No clinking glasses
[*] Coloured Shoes


Mostly I think we will be sticking to the traditional.

 

[missismene]

Keeping: dad walking me down the isle if possible
flower girl/ring bearer
cutting cake
toasts

Non Traditional: no wedding march, no typical wedding music
classical pianist for ceremony and cocktail reception.
no brides maids/ grooms men
ring bearer is a girl
doubtful on first dance or any dance.
cocktail hour in art gallery
fi and i taking pics ahead of time
staying at ceremony site night before together
no bouquet or garter toss
NO KIDS!!! besides the five i have approved and stuck in the sunroom for dinner reception, leaving the adults safe!
having a sunday afternoon ceremony and reception.
if anyone breaks out in a spontaneous chicken dance i will rise up in a fiery anger!