Home son''s girlfriend''s parents hate him/us-HEELLLPPPP!

[KatyWI]

Date: 8/8/2009 12:47:48 AM
Author: Elmorton
I agree with all of these posts.


1) Stop calling her parents. I would have been MORTIFIED if my parents were calling the parents of my college friends, let alone my boyfriend''s parents. To boot, if my college boyfriends'' parents were calling my parents, they would have thought the parents were completely nuts, and yeah, they''d be judging the family like crazy.


2) Nineteen is really young to get married. I think it''s great that you''re being supportive of your son''s relationship, but there''s maybe a line with too supportive.


3) If Katie''s grades are dropping, yeah, she needs to focus on school. I''m a college instructor, and I see this all the time - some students have a really hard time juggling everything. Katie''s parents may know her better than you do - maybe she sees your son as an easy ''out'' (ie, she doesn''t need her education if she has him). If I were them, I wouldn''t be supportive of the relationship either. Maybe it''s not your son they dislike at all, but rather her behavior around him that they''re not a fan of. That''s a legit response.


4) Not everyone has the same relationship you have with your son, and that''s OK. My parents are very open, loving, and we discuss emotional stuff easily. My DH''s mom is the same way, but his dad is a little more formal and strict. Honestly, I''ve learned a lot from getting used to my FIL''s style of parenting/relationships. Give Katie''s parents some room and respect them for the boundaries you set.


5) Enjoy your vacation with Katie. Be her friend, but don''t try to be her parent. And...I hope I don''t get flamed for this, but it might not be a good idea to get too attached. Nineteen is young, college is a big place, and it sounds like you raised a good guy. If this relationship doesn''t work out, it''s important for you to be open to liking and supporting other women that may become a part of his life someday.

This. Ditto. Right. Exactly!!!!!