CrownJewel
Brilliant_Rock
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I''m trying to tell myself that the bridal shower is a chance for me to spend time with my favorite ladies, and for them to get to know each other too. But then I start worrying about the gifts! I dread the idea of opening the front door and being handed a gift by so many people. I dread the part of the party where I have to open all the gifts because I KNOW for sure, that most of my friends will not be excited about the onion choppers and silicone spatulas and over-the-sink chopping board.
I''m a worrier and I know I shouldn''t entertain this topic, but it''s been bugging me for months. My bridesmaids are hosting a bridal shower for me on Sunday at my mom''s house. I expressed anxiety about it from the beginning, but I think everyone assumed I wasn''t serious. I know that people are "choosing" to give me gifts, but I also think that the guests (all good friends of mine) might feel like they are "obligated" to bring a gift because that''s the tradition and it''s proper etiquette. Don''t get me wrong, I think gifts are fun. I love giving gifts and on some occaisions I love getting gifts. I would feel better if it were more like a birthday party and only a few, very enthusiastic people brought presents, you know? But I do appreciate what my bridesmaids are doing for me, so now I feel guilty for wishing for a less traditional "break-the-molds" un-bridal-shower. I feel guilty for knowing about the shower and not trying to stop it.
What do I do? I can''t really email my BMs now and make requests can I? Something like, can we turn the gift part of the party into a goofy game to get my mind off of all the not-fun-stuff that I associate with it? Is that even possible? Is it rude to tell them how they should throw me a party (um, yes)?
I''m a worrier and I know I shouldn''t entertain this topic, but it''s been bugging me for months. My bridesmaids are hosting a bridal shower for me on Sunday at my mom''s house. I expressed anxiety about it from the beginning, but I think everyone assumed I wasn''t serious. I know that people are "choosing" to give me gifts, but I also think that the guests (all good friends of mine) might feel like they are "obligated" to bring a gift because that''s the tradition and it''s proper etiquette. Don''t get me wrong, I think gifts are fun. I love giving gifts and on some occaisions I love getting gifts. I would feel better if it were more like a birthday party and only a few, very enthusiastic people brought presents, you know? But I do appreciate what my bridesmaids are doing for me, so now I feel guilty for wishing for a less traditional "break-the-molds" un-bridal-shower. I feel guilty for knowing about the shower and not trying to stop it.
What do I do? I can''t really email my BMs now and make requests can I? Something like, can we turn the gift part of the party into a goofy game to get my mind off of all the not-fun-stuff that I associate with it? Is that even possible? Is it rude to tell them how they should throw me a party (um, yes)?