so.....I thought I found the ring last sat, but.......

[FairieMoon79]

I went ring shopping last sat to replace my solitaire that wasnt the OMC it was supposed to be...I found a ring that spoke to me. But then I came across a split shank princess halo....
My heart sings at square stones and halos.
I returned the ring from last sat and went with what ive been wanting which was the halo......
But Im hesistant to share it with anyone cause I get grief from people who dont understand that to hubby and I, it is ok to change my ring to whatever makes me happy as long as we dont go into debt over it.
I finally have my halo!!!!

 

[marcy]

Post pictures of your new ring. If you and DH are happy with it I would say what other people think doesn't matter. I am glad you found something you like.

 

[SparklyOEC]

Ditto this. You're the one wearing the ring so what you and your DH think is more important than what anyone else thinks.

 

[FairieMoon79]

Thank you both for being kind!! I had to delete fb friends in the past who would say "how many more pics are you gonna post of your ring?"....or that were snarky in asking how many times was I going to change it.
I suppose I was always tought if you cant say anything nice, dont say it at all. even if i dont understand peoples logic, i still try to be complimentary or just stay quiet if i truly dont agree.

 

[Enerchi]

Thank you both for being kind!! I had to delete fb friends in the past who would say "how many more pics are you gonna post of your ring?"....or that were snarky in asking how many times was I going to change it.
I suppose I was always tought if you cant say anything nice, dont say it at all. even if i dont understand peoples logic, i still try to be complimentary or just stay quiet if i truly dont agree.

I agree. What is the point of being nasty???

Enjoy what you want to enjoy. If you can afford it, he's ok w it and it makes you happy... Go for it!

 

[Mayk]

Thank you both for being kind!! I had to delete fb friends in the past who would say "how many more pics are you gonna post of your ring?"....or that were snarky in asking how many times was I going to change it.
I suppose I was always tought if you cant say anything nice, dont say it at all. even if i dont understand peoples logic, i still try to be complimentary or just stay quiet if i truly dont agree.

Here...you'll gets lots of support... On FB there is too much diversity of appreciation for jewelry... To thinking its nice to not really caring... I think this is the best place for showing your treasures...we would love to see your new trinket...

 

[farmer gal]

be proud of your ring don't let others discourage you

 

[Amys Bling]

Post pictures of your new ring. If you and DH are happy with it I would say what other people think doesn't matter. I am glad you found something you like.

agreed- please share it!!

 

[Amys Bling]

Thank you both for being kind!! I had to delete fb friends in the past who would say "how many more pics are you gonna post of your ring?"....or that were snarky in asking how many times was I going to change it.
I suppose I was always tought if you cant say anything nice, dont say it at all. even if i dont understand peoples logic, i still try to be complimentary or just stay quiet if i truly dont agree.

Who says that?

Maybe they were saying it in jest???

 

[Asscherhalo_lover]

I never post any of my jewelry on FB, only here where people will love it! Share Share Share!

 

[FairieMoon79]

Amys Bling....when I used to work, if I changed my ring I'd get comments that ranged anywhere from "im jealous cause Ive been married longer and my ring is smaller", to "how do I get my husband to let me have another ring??", to "Ive never known anyone who changes rings".....
It really took alot of my joy away cause I was excited about my new piece, just to have to field a million questions that I often thought were no ones business.
FB made it worse, cause it was on a bigger scale. But Im the girl that if Im excited about something, I want to be able to share that and thought "friends" would understand my excitement.

A very dear friend upset me Wednesday by telling me "You liked your round before you knew what was wrong with so if no one knows but you, quit worrying about it".....she didnt understand I knew what was wrong with it (Im sensitive to clarity issues it seems) and it bothered me.

Its hard to find people who truly understand how we think as pricescopers

 

[Amys Bling]

So share with those who understand! You don't need others to rain on your parade

 

[junebug17]

MoonFairie, sounds to me that the people who make those comments are jealous - and some people just aren't that into jewelry and don't really get it, and some people just seem to like raining on someone else's parade - but please post your ring here, we're all jewelry lovers and love looking at bling! Just ignore those meanies and do what makes you happy, life is too short to worry about what others think!

 

[Amys Bling]

MoonFairie, sounds to me that the people who make those comments are jealous - and some people just aren't that into jewelry and don't really get it, and some people just seem to like raining on someone else's parade - but please post your ring here, we're all jewelry lovers and love looking at bling! Just ignore those meanies and do what makes you happy, life is too short to worry about what others think!

ditto

 

[FairieMoon79]

A friend said yesterday she thinks people are just jealous my husband loves me and spoils me, but Ive never asked him to fund any of my changes. Ive learned to shop so Ive either broke even or come out ahead, even if I just ended up selling pieces I didnt wear to have extra funds for the changes.
I guess Im lucky my only rule is that I cant change is my wedding band.

 

[diamondseeker2006]

I've only ever seen people share their engagement ring on FB when they first get engaged. People are excited for the engagement and happy to see the ring, but I don't think I'd ever share any jewelry on fb after that one time. People do not really care or else think someone would be showing off. Most people out there have never even heard of anyone changing an engagement ring so I can see why the responses would be mostly negative (even if they don't post, they would think it!). So it is far better to share jewelry changes here where people totally understand changing our minds and getting new rings! Most other people in real life won't even notice when they see you!

So now we need pictures!!!

 

[winternight]

I agree with the other that you should post here. As for FB, well you've got to understand that people are in different places in life and well you just don't know if someone is jealous or maybe they had a hard time paying their bills that month...so better to share here where we'll be excited for you!

 

[decodelighted]

Thank you both for being kind!! I had to delete fb friends in the past who would say "how many more pics are you gonna post of your ring?"....or that were snarky in asking how many times was I going to change it.

YOU POSTED IT ON FACEBOOK?

 

[FairieMoon79]

I was excited about my new jewelry so yeah, ive posted pics before and just said my new piece.
I never took it as showing off Im simple, if Im excited I like to share.....but I forget not all people understand a diamond doesnt have to be forever.

 

[decodelighted]

YOU never took at as showing off but I'd guess the majority of people WOULD. It's not nice of those people to comment -- but in a way they're just trying to alert you that you are failing to abide by social norms.

 

[FairieMoon79]

Ive never been normal in most senses of the word. Even when I go out and people want to ask alot of questions about my tattoos, I forget that to most, Im not the usual, especially now that we live somewhere more conservative.
We arent well off by any means, I just shop smartly. When people ask questions, they often want to know how I made it work so that we dont owe for the new ring.
But at least Ive learned....not all people understand me or how hubby and I work.

 

[Amys Bling]

YOU never took at as showing off but I'd guess the majority of people WOULD. It's not nice of those people to comment -- but in a way they're just trying to alert you that you are failing to abide by social norms.

Agreed. Most people would see posting each newly acquired piece of jewlery as bragging- whether they comment on it or not. I would keep posting pics here with us jewelry lovers who understand.

 

[FairieMoon79]

it makes me sad people cant just be happy for me and see it as bragging I just wanted to share something I was excited about

 

[decodelighted]

it makes me sad people cant just be happy for me and see it as bragging I just wanted to share something I was excited about

Oh well. That's life I guess. The more realistic your expectations about other people are -- the less often you are disappointed & hurt etc.

 

[FairieMoon79]

Im most often the girl who gives others the benefit of the doubt.

 

[decodelighted]

Im most often the girl who gives others the benefit of the doubt.

And then unfriends them when they don't live up to your expectations.

 

[luckky]

Im most often the girl who gives others the benefit of the doubt.

Don't even wasting of your time to think about those people who are just jealousy on you! On PS we all appreciated the beauty of everyone jewelry and no judgment in that way. As long as your hubby and you fine with what is make you happy and as you said didn't go over the top or get in to debt to get it so...who cares what other people think. Please enjoy and happy with your new ring and we love to see that beauty Big hug and congrats on your new ring

 

[diamondseeker2006]

We're just trying to help you see that it just isn't appropriate to post new jewelry (or other possessions) on facebook. It is going to cause you problems if you do. PriceScope is a group of people who love jewelry, and even though we can be very honest when people ask opinions, we DO understand the fact that we often like more than one thing and like to collect new pieces. Plus it is anonymous here. This is the only place in my life that I EVER show anyone my new jewelry, except maybe on occasion, my sister or mother.

 

[FairieMoon79]

My mom is old school, she doesnt believe I should ever change my ring. My friends dont appreciate jewelry or that I love it....they all believe the jewelry they were given is what they are stuck with.
I have a friend who just posted her and her husbands matching brand new 2012 mazdas on fb....I didnt take it as her bragging but instead just being proud of things shes worked for.

 

[diamondseeker2006]

I'd put posting brand new cars on FB in about the same category as jewelry. It's going to be looked at as showing off or attention seeking. The only time I have done so is when out youngest daughter turned 16 we surprised her with a very used car and I posted several birthday pictures, some of which included her being surprised with the car.