So I had a mini LIW breakdown the other day, but

[NCSUchick27]

I now have a timeline. I was moping around a couple of days ago because SO and I have bee together for 4 years, and we are still not engaged. Most of the problem is SO is currently looking for job, and finishing up his Phd. I made a comment about how I could still be waiting a year from now, and SO emphatically said that I wouldn't be. It looks like 2011 will be my year! So please send some job dust our way because that is the only thing that is stopping us right now.

 

[Grlsbestfrnd]

I'm totally there with you on the LIWitis. I was having a bad month recently about being together almost 7 years without a proposal but I talked to my BF and feel better now. I'm glad you now have a time line. I'm sure you're feeling a lot better.

*~*~*~*~*~DUST~*~*~*~*~* I hope it happens soon!

 

[FuturePsyD]

Dust for you and to getting engaged in 2011!!!

I can totally relate, I'm in a similar boat. We have been together 5.5 years and decided about a year ago that we wanted to get engaged. 2010 passed, and no engagement. For us, it is also due to finances, so I know how incredibly frustrating that is for us LIWs. My SO and I also had a serious talk over the holidays and I got the same response that 2011 would be our year.

I'm sure it must be a relief to you that you have a timeline in place now. I'm sure your SO will make you a very happy LIW this year!!

<<<<DUST for 2011 proposals!!!!>>>>

 

[TwinkleStar]

Lots of dust for you!!

Congrats on him finishing up his PhD, too - that is a huge accomplishment!

I always try to hope that after the proposal, we'll all look back and laugh at our LIW-itis and realize it all turned out perfectly.

 

[vintagelover229]

DUST!

It is nice to have a time line but it also has taken away a bit of the surprise for me though. My SO told me a while ago he'd do it by March...and well...March is fast approaching and there's not to many dates he can do it bc he travels. I hope it doesn't take away your surprise though (unless he does it early in the time frame vs later).

DUST DUST DUST!

 

[HaloBelle]

aw hun, lots of dust!! I am right there with you. I have been atiently waiting but this past month or so - I am so anxious and dieing to get engaged. I know we couldn't afford a wedding for at least 8 months and I know that he wants a new job and his own property before the actual wedding but I am at wits end these days. I don't care about the wedding, house, and new job anymore! I just want to be engaged! Even if it was a $15 target ring I would be happy at this point.

unfortunately he knows this and disagrees. lol we have a real timeline that we both agree with but seriously - its been hard this month. Must be something in the air in January that makes us all crazy...

 

[suchende]

aw hun, lots of dust!! I am right there with you. I have been atiently waiting but this past month or so - I am so anxious and dieing to get engaged. I know we couldn't afford a wedding for at least 8 months and I know that he wants a new job and his own property before the actual wedding but I am at wits end these days. I don't care about the wedding, house, and new job anymore! I just want to be engaged! Even if it was a $15 target ring I would be happy at this point.

unfortunately he knows this and disagrees. lol we have a real timeline that we both agree with but seriously - its been hard this month. Must be something in the air in January that makes us all crazy...

Can I ask why it's so important to you, when it doesn't seem like the right time in terms of life goal planning?

 

[HaloBelle]

Well, in the words of a popular movie quote:

'when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.'​

While I am picking up a judgmental tone in your question, I am going to ignore it and assume that it was the inflection I unintentionally added in my head and not true sentiment on your part.

Isn't that why we are all here? Because we have LIW-itis? It isn't the right time, we know that and that is why we have a timeline. I still want it to be the right time.

 

[suchende]

I still want it to be the right time.

I didn't mean to be judge-y and that sums it up perfectly.

 

[HaloBelle]

I figured you probably didn't

 

[suchende]

I only asked you specifically because you seemed to have good reasons for why now is not the right time, but your explanation makes perfect sense.