IrishEyes
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Ok, I realize this doesn''t have anything to do with jewelry or diamonds, but I respect so many of your opinions and need some advice!
I have a friend, for privacy purposes, let me call her Kate. Kate and I met a few years ago while we were working in a restaurant together. We started talking and discovered we are very much alike: we both have the same sense of humor ( mostly sarcastic), we are both natural pessimists ( or as we would say "realists" !), we both had the same interests, etc. etc. So we started hanging out alot. I was just dating my husband at the time, and she was dating a guy too, but they were having alot of problems. She told me several times that she was jealous of my good relationship with my bf, but it didn''t seem to get in the way of our friendship.
Then one day Kate called me to tell me she was pregnant. It was an "accident" and she was really bummed because she always said she didn''t want kids, especially since her and her bf were not married and were having problems anyway. Shortly after this, I was activated in the military and sent to the Middle East. She gave birth to her son while I was overseas. During this time also (right before I went overseas) I got married to my bf. After I came home for good, we hung out a few times. Her son is absolutely gorgeous and a wonderful little boy, and I would stop by and see them frequently. She is living with the father, but they are basically only together because of their son. They have ( from what I''ve seen and what she''s said) a very difficult and unemotional relationship.
The problem is, over the past 4 months or so, she has not made ANY attempts to call me and see me. Everytime (and there''s only been a handful) I see her, it''s because I call and stop by. And when I''m there, she seems upset and distant and will spend some time on the phone talking to her another friend ( who has a daughter), WHILE I''M SITTING THERE TRYING TO TALK TO HER!! She doesn''t call me anymore or anything. I realize she is a mother chasing around a 20-month old, but she certainly has time to call her other friend. I''ve even offered to babysit for her whenever, but she has never taken me up on the offer.
I know that she is envious of me and my relationship with my husband (we are very much in love and happy), and that I don''t have any children and have alot of "me" time right now. But I try to be there for her as much as possible and just want to be friends again. I even go out of my way not to talk about " good" things in my life so that she''s not upset. I know I should just talk to her about all this but I cant'' get ahold of her!!! She doesn''t even return my voicemails anymore! What do I do? Did I do something wrong?? I don''t want to lose her friendship, I really miss seeing her and her son.
Sorry for the length! any comments would be appreciated
I have a friend, for privacy purposes, let me call her Kate. Kate and I met a few years ago while we were working in a restaurant together. We started talking and discovered we are very much alike: we both have the same sense of humor ( mostly sarcastic), we are both natural pessimists ( or as we would say "realists" !), we both had the same interests, etc. etc. So we started hanging out alot. I was just dating my husband at the time, and she was dating a guy too, but they were having alot of problems. She told me several times that she was jealous of my good relationship with my bf, but it didn''t seem to get in the way of our friendship.
Then one day Kate called me to tell me she was pregnant. It was an "accident" and she was really bummed because she always said she didn''t want kids, especially since her and her bf were not married and were having problems anyway. Shortly after this, I was activated in the military and sent to the Middle East. She gave birth to her son while I was overseas. During this time also (right before I went overseas) I got married to my bf. After I came home for good, we hung out a few times. Her son is absolutely gorgeous and a wonderful little boy, and I would stop by and see them frequently. She is living with the father, but they are basically only together because of their son. They have ( from what I''ve seen and what she''s said) a very difficult and unemotional relationship.
The problem is, over the past 4 months or so, she has not made ANY attempts to call me and see me. Everytime (and there''s only been a handful) I see her, it''s because I call and stop by. And when I''m there, she seems upset and distant and will spend some time on the phone talking to her another friend ( who has a daughter), WHILE I''M SITTING THERE TRYING TO TALK TO HER!! She doesn''t call me anymore or anything. I realize she is a mother chasing around a 20-month old, but she certainly has time to call her other friend. I''ve even offered to babysit for her whenever, but she has never taken me up on the offer.
I know that she is envious of me and my relationship with my husband (we are very much in love and happy), and that I don''t have any children and have alot of "me" time right now. But I try to be there for her as much as possible and just want to be friends again. I even go out of my way not to talk about " good" things in my life so that she''s not upset. I know I should just talk to her about all this but I cant'' get ahold of her!!! She doesn''t even return my voicemails anymore! What do I do? Did I do something wrong?? I don''t want to lose her friendship, I really miss seeing her and her son.
Sorry for the length! any comments would be appreciated