Wedding Shower Hosts?

[Courtneylub]

My mom called me last night to let me know she received our shower invitation. There were about 10 names listed as hosts. What is the etiquette here? Do we buy each of them a small gift as a thank you?

 

[Haven]

Yes.

 

[Aim_Turbo]

Phew! good thing I read this post! So the bride is responsible for buying a gift for the host(s) of the shower? I had no idea! I''ve hosted a few showers and never recieved a gift or expected one!

 

[Independent Gal]

I sent flowers to all the people who hosted parties / showers for us. They all seemed surprised to receive them, but happy!

 

[Courtneylub]

There are about 10 friends hosting this for us. I was thinking personalized zippo lighters for the guys and maybe some frame coasters for the girls.

 

[Courtneylub]

Date: 4/22/2008 12:00:11 PM
Author: Courtneylub
There are about 10 friends hosting this for us. I was thinking personalized zippo lighters for the guys and maybe some frame coasters for the girls.

Bump.

Are these gifts ok? Also, should I get something a little different/bigger for the hosts offering their house for the shower?

Should I give the gifts to them before or after the shower? Or bring them with me to the shower?

 

[doodle]

Date: 4/23/2008 9:25:07 AM
Author: Courtneylub

Date: 4/22/2008 12:00:11 PM

Author: Courtneylub

There are about 10 friends hosting this for us. I was thinking personalized zippo lighters for the guys and maybe some frame coasters for the girls.

Bump.


Are these gifts ok? Also, should I get something a little different/bigger for the hosts offering their house for the shower?


Should I give the gifts to them before or after the shower? Or bring them with me to the shower?

i think the gift ideas are cute! as far as when to give the gifts, that generally depends on the gift itself (like if you give a host flowers as thanks, it''s better to send them either before or after the shower so that they don''t have to worry about what to do with them while they''re trying to host). with what you have in mind, i think any time would be fine. if you''re giving anything additional to the house hosts, though, that part might be better to not be done in front of the other hosts, unless it''s something "housy" or something everyone could enjoy, like a bottle of wine or something. maybe i just overanalyze, but i''d be afraid of the other hosts feeling less important by getting less goodies.

 

[oobiecoo]

I gave my hostesses each a calla lilly plant. I just brought them with me to the shower and told them to pick the color they liked best, starting with FI''s step-mom who''s house we were at. I didn''t get her anything more special than the other hostesses though. I think the lighters and coasters sound really nice! FI got kind of a neat gift... not for being a shower host or anything... but it was a 6-pack box filled with different beers from World Market. He''s really into trying new things so he really appreciated the gift... I think it was mostly Irish beers. That could maybe be an option for you for the guys and then a bottle of wine for your hostesses. But I think the zippos and frame coasters sound super cute... just giving you another option.

 

[Courtneylub]

For the couple''s I''m going to do personalized beer mugs and wine glasses. For the single girls, I will do the wine glasses also and for the single guys I will do the zippo''s. Those 3 bachelors all socially smoke.

 

[Harleigh]

I love this thread! Thanks for all of the great ideas...I''m maybe a bottle of wine each will do, but how about what I had originally had in mind?

I had ordered the girls monogrammed tote bags, they came out wrong, so the company re-did them and now I have 2 per girl. I have been collecting things to fill the bags with, but don''t necessarily want to carry all of the loot to Maui, so I thought I could give them their bags full of goodies as their thank you gift. I have fuschia rhinestone flip-flops for them to wear after the wedding if they want, all sorts of bath stuff, lip gloss, nail polish, a fuschia sleep mask, a crotched shawl, lots of travel toiletry stuff, a little purse holder and a beautiful friend frame I was going to put a note on for them to save to use for a picture of us after the wedding that I will send them when I get them. There is lots more "girly" stuff in the bags, but you get the idea!

Since 3 of the 4 hostesses will be at the shower and driving home after, I thought it would be better to give them the bags at the shower and tell them to take whatever they want to Maui and leave the rest at home. For the 4th BM, I figured I would just lump the cost and ship her goodies to her so that she is thanked from afar, also.

Does this sound like a good enough thank you gift for their hosting the shower? We are keeping the shower really minimal and I am helping with the food to keep costs down, but I know they all want to make it special.

FI and I are also giving each person in our bridal party $400 to help w/travel costs and I am giving my girls their jewelry as a thank you at the Welcome Dinner in Maui.

What do you think?

 

[Courtneylub]

Date: 4/23/2008 8:50:44 PM
Author: Harleigh
I love this thread! Thanks for all of the great ideas...I''m maybe a bottle of wine each will do, but how about what I had originally had in mind?

I had ordered the girls monogrammed tote bags, they came out wrong, so the company re-did them and now I have 2 per girl. I have been collecting things to fill the bags with, but don''t necessarily want to carry all of the loot to Maui, so I thought I could give them their bags full of goodies as their thank you gift. I have fuschia rhinestone flip-flops for them to wear after the wedding if they want, all sorts of bath stuff, lip gloss, nail polish, a fuschia sleep mask, a crotched shawl, lots of travel toiletry stuff, a little purse holder and a beautiful friend frame I was going to put a note on for them to save to use for a picture of us after the wedding that I will send them when I get them. There is lots more ''girly'' stuff in the bags, but you get the idea!

Since 3 of the 4 hostesses will be at the shower and driving home after, I thought it would be better to give them the bags at the shower and tell them to take whatever they want to Maui and leave the rest at home. For the 4th BM, I figured I would just lump the cost and ship her goodies to her so that she is thanked from afar, also.

Does this sound like a good enough thank you gift for their hosting the shower? We are keeping the shower really minimal and I am helping with the food to keep costs down, but I know they all want to make it special.

FI and I are also giving each person in our bridal party $400 to help w/travel costs and I am giving my girls their jewelry as a thank you at the Welcome Dinner in Maui.

What do you think?

Oh yes, I love your original idea! Those gifts are great for hosting a shower. We''re spending about $15 per host (there''s about 10 of them) and then $50 on the couple who''s hosting it at their house. You''re already going above and beyond with contributing money to them and jewelry on top of the shower gifts. Can I be in your wedding too?

 

[Harleigh]

Date: 4/23/2008 11:29:39 PM
Author: Courtneylub

Oh yes, I love your original idea! Those gifts are great for hosting a shower. We're spending about $15 per host (there's about 10 of them) and then $50 on the couple who's hosting it at their house. You're already going above and beyond with contributing money to them and jewelry on top of the shower gifts. Can I be in your wedding too?

Of course you can! I still have extra dresses, and I know they would look fantabulous on you!!!

Thanks for the input...I was hoping I could use the tote bag full 'o goodies as a thank you gift!