Should there be gifts between the bride and groom

[Tazman282]

I have been thinking about getting a gift for my future wife on our wedding day but not sure if this is the right thing to do. Any Suggestions?

 

[Erin]

I''ve seen this in the movies. The bride is getting ready with all her gals and someone delivers a gift - it''s from the groom.
How very sweet

Usually it''s something the represents a secret joke - but a nice gift.
Jewelry like diamond stud earings - which she''ll probably already have her jewelry picked out for that day...unless bigger!
A pearl necklace - again same situation above.
A bracelet - might not wear cause it might snag her (lacey, beaded, silk) dress
Engraved jewelry box
Flowers
Perfume
Any ol thing really - that fact that I got a gift would be so sentimentally sweet.

 

[somethingshiny]

DH gave me pearl and diamond earrings to wear. (He knew I had pearl and diamond jewelry to wear) BUT, he gave me the heads-up not to buy earrings on my own. So, I knew I was getting some kind of earring. He gave them to me the night before the wedding (we didn''t see each other prior to the ceremony on our wedding day.)

You don''t have to give an expensive gift. You could do a frame for photo, a photo album, one of those electronic photo albums, (for wedding pics). Make a CD of your favorite love songs for her to listen to as she''s getting ready. Or, get her something for the honeymoon, whether it''s clothes, jewels, or a pair of sunglasses.

 

[labbielove]

We were not going to, but days before the wedding I got an unexpected bonus at work so I surprised DH with a digital SLR camera Yay!!

He had a dozen roses waiting for me at the bed and breakfast on our wedding night, and that was a nice surprise.

If you are so inclined, I think a little something would mean the world. Even a thoughtfully written card.

 

[Pandora II]

Yes, yes, yes!

I am giving FI a pair of antique 1904 rose gold oval cufflinks hand-engraved with the monogram I designed for our wedding.

I have been dropping hints about a pair of diamond earring jackets. He vaguely said something about talking to that Wink guy who made your e-ring a few months ago.

I''m going to find out subtly if he''s still thinking this and prime Wink with my shopping list!

 

[zoebartlett]

I don''t think there''s a "right" or "wrong" here. It''s a very sweet gesture though. Jewelry seems like a great option, if it''s feasible. A pretty necklace, earrings, or a bracelet is always nice, especially if you expressed your desire for your FI to wear it/them on your wedding day.


I''ve heard it''s customary but I don''t think my FI and I will give each other gifts. I''m 100% sure my FI hasn''t heard of the bride and groom exchanging gifts and I feel like if I mention it to him, I''ll be hinting that I''d like a gift. Well, I would, but only if he were to think of it on his own. We''re just going to put as much away for our honeymoon as possible. If I were to get jewelry, part of me would wonder if that money would be better used for our honeymoon. Not that I would turn it down though!

 

[sumbride]

It''s definitely not required but is a nice thing to do. I got my DH a watch and he gave me a pearl bracelet that just so happened to coordinate perfectly with the necklace and earrings I had made to go with my dress. Our jeweler called him and told him what to buy me... he didn''t even see it before he bought it. It was perfect though... our jeweler knows me well.

 

[ccuheartnurse]

A gift is a nice thing to do if you can swing it.

My husband & I decided against gifts since we were paying for a wedding & honeymoon. I had decided to pay for his band since he had paid dearly for my e-ring. I also had given him a watch for our engagement.

On the flip side, buying jewelery is tricky cause most times a bride already has a vision of what she wants to wear with her dress. If you do jewelery, which you want her to wear the day of your wedding, you may want to get some hints from her mom or friends as to what her dress looks like (round neck, square neck, off the shoulder, etc) which might influence the item or colour she would wear. Sounding pretty complicated & I appologize. If you want to buy her something as a momento of your wedding day which she can wear apart from the ceremony, well...anything goes. OR, perhaps a gemstone ring for her right hand, which would not interfere with her wedding ensemble, but will still be a gift worn by you.

Judy

 

[dani13]

I think its a great idea if you can swing it. Even just sending flowers and a note to her on the day of is just so special.

My DH bought (surprised) me with my beautiful diamond w-band that I wanted so bad but figured it was just too much $$$$, so I went with a plain band instead. Well, the day before the wedding he gave it to me, and it was just the most thoughtful, sweet thing ever!

I got him a watch that he had been coveting for months. I also got him Tiffany monogrammed cufflinks to wear on the wedding day.

 

[Diamond*Dana]

My DH had his brother (best man) deliver a dozen red roses to me the morning of our wedding day, which I thought was very sweet...my DH was sitting in the car but we did not see eachother.

We went to Disney World for our honeymoon and each got a watch while we were there, so that was our wedding gifts to eachother.