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Hey all,
To keep the story short, I won''t be getting engaged... at least any time soon. I am sad about it but I''m also wondering what I should do about my 1.21 J ags 000. I paid 4500 for it and I feel that I got a great price. I do plan on getting married in the future so I''m wondering, should I keep it or if I return it will I be able to find another ''deal'' like I found this time? Thankfully I did not pick out a setting yet so I feel like the diamond can be special and unique for whoever I do marry. Let me know what you think. thanks.
 
I''m so sorry for your broken relationship! However, I believe you should return this stone and start over when you have a new love! I understand the practical aspects of putting this stone away for a rainy day, but as a woman, I wouldn''t want a stone my intended picked out for another. jmho
 
Sad news
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Yah, the stone must be returned imho.
 
.....or set it for yourself!!
 
Is it still in the return period or does the vendor you bought it from has a good upgrade policy?

If the former, return it, if the later, keep it until next time and do a upgrade with this stone.
 
I would not reuse it for a new engagement.
 
Date: 9/17/2009 6:03:19 PM
Author: Stone-cold11
Is it still in the return period or does the vendor you bought it from has a good upgrade policy?

If the former, return it, if the later, keep it until next time and do a upgrade with this stone.
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agreed!
 
Date: 9/17/2009 6:04:33 PM
Author: D&T
Date: 9/17/2009 6:03:19 PM

Author: Stone-cold11

Is it still in the return period or does the vendor you bought it from has a good upgrade policy?


If the former, return it, if the later, keep it until next time and do a upgrade with this stone.
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agreed!
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Hmmm . . .I like that idea!
 
I''m so sorry. I would return it if you are still able to and start over next time.
 
I''m still within the return period. I guess that answers it. thanks everyone.
 
Since you did not put it into a setting... i think I would keep the diamond.
 
Most girls aren''t going to want it if they know.
Of course you don''t have to tell. Depends on the kind of person you are. If you would feel like you were not having perfect honesty with your new fiance if you didn''t, or if you are going to look at the dia mond remember, maybe better return it. Especially if you can get all your money back. Resale of diamonds is generally terrible.
On the other hand, if you are the kind of person who will resent ''the fish that got away (the great deal that you got now--diamonds may be more expensive in a few years), maybe better keep it.
Many women who wouldn''t wear it as an engagement ring would wear it as a pendant or something else.
sorry it happened this way.
 
I guess it depends -- did you buy the diamond intending to propose, but never had a chance to actually propose with it? If so, the diamond wasn''t actually "some other woman''s" diamond. That''s different from the scenario where you proposed and your relationship fell apart after that.

It''s a beautiful stone -- I remember your previous threads about it -- and you did get an incredible deal.

I also remember from your previous threads that you''ve been through some really hard times lately, so maybe it''s best to send this diamond back and start fresh. It represents a good deal money-wise, but it may also be a reminder of a very sad, difficult time in your life.
 
Return it. What if your next girlfriend hates rounds, or is color sensitive, or wants a sapphire instead of a diamond?

Even if she loves that particular diamond, she will probably hate that you bought it with another girl in mind.

Not worth the risk when you''re within the return period and can get all your money back.
 
sara,
I didn''t even think about what you said and forgot to put that in my original post. I did buy the diamond intending to propose later on, but never had a chance. I didn''t acutally propose and then it fell apart. In that case I would never think of holding onto it. All along in my head I agree with what you said-it''s not "some other woman''s" diamond. If I had it in a setting and everything then I can see the tainted memory, etc. I''m leaning towards keeping it for that reason and because it was a stretch for me to pull off purchasing it for that amount financially speaking. I know down the road I can''t/won''t shell out more money and I just don''t think I''ll get a same caliber stone. Either way, I owe all of you pics of it. I''ll take some with my iphone tomorrow.
 
I''d keep it at that price! But also keep in mind that you''re not obligated to use it for an engagement ring. If you end up proposing to someone eventually who has different engagement ring tastes, or wants a higher color, etc., think of how happy you would make her when you surprise her with a beautiful 1.21 J AGS0 pendant or RHR on her birthday, your anniversary, etc.! Or have it made into a men''s ring, maybe tension set or class ring-style, to signify your new beginning.

FWIW, if I were to receive a diamond for an engagement ring that wasn''t picked out especially for me, but was still the shape and size I liked, I''d have no problem with the fact that it was bought with someone else in mind. The caveat here is that I wanted a princess cut engagement ring.
 
Sounds like you want to keep it. Since you never actually proposed with it, it might be okay. there was a post on here within the last month that perhaps you can find, where the guy proposed with a diamond that he had never used for a ring when he was previously engaged and at first the girl felt funny, but then posted that he had explained everything to her satisfactio n--the other girl had bullied him into proposing etc etc. the new fiancee was then VERY happy with the ring, which she said looked beautiful. So a good result like this can happen.
Best of luck to you whatever you do. This must be a painful time in many ways, but you''ll get thru.
 
Since you never set it, didn''t actually propose, and got a GREAT deal...I would keep it and use it later. A Pendant would be quite nice and it wouldn''t bother me at all if it was a ring. Especially if you couldn''t afford such a nice stone again later.
 
Return it. You bought it with one particular woman in mind, now, she is not going to get it. I am sure there will be another person in your life. It will be fun to go shopping with her and figure out what she likes, she may not like the shape of the stone you have, then you are stuck with this stone. So it might cost more in the future to replace this stone, thats the way it goes, things could be worse. You cannot put on price tag on all things. Best of luck.
 
Another vote for returning it. The next girl might want another shape stone or D-F color. It''s too risky to keep it. It''s only a good deal if it is exactly what the girl wants...and that is unknown at this point.
 
I''d return it.
 
Coming from a guys perspective...

I''d return it dude. There will be other deals and chances in the future. Get your money back, dont worry about an engagement ring for awhile, and start clean when the time is right.

Good luck to ya bud,

-Ted
 
None of my business, and I could well be wrong, but I think you''re probably wanting to hold on to the diamond because you''re not completely ready to let go of the relationship.

I certainly understand that. But I think it''s a bad idea in practical terms. The woman you eventually marry may have strong feelings about accepting a diamond chosen for someone else, and she may have strong feelings about what sort of engagement ring she wants. You''re still in the return period. You could get all your money back right now. By the time you''re ready to let go, you could be stuck with the diamond. By then it might feel like poison to you.

There are better, cheaper ways to let go slowly. Hang onto the ex''s toothbrush for a while instead. Hang onto her favorite sweater. Let the diamond go.

(If I''m wrong, please forgive this uncalled-for psychologizing.)
 
Hi B5s4,

Don''t forget that by returning the diamond you have the opportunity of earning interest on the money (like if it''s in a term deposit), so the next stone can be even better! (you can''t earn interest on a diamond).

If you don''t get engaged again for another couple of years, it could amount to a fair amount of pocket change (at 1% interest you earn $90 in 2 years, or $229 in 5 years )

just another thing to consider,

Cheers,

HD
 
Hi B5

I am so sorry that things did not turn out the way you want....I would definitely return it, the vendor you purchased from offers an upgrade policy where you have to spend 50% more on another diamond I believe to upgrade, so if it was me I would return it now.
 
I would agree with the others and vote that you return it. Like glitterate said, hang onto anything but the diamond. If I got a diamond that was purchased with another woman in his mind I''ll consider the diamond "tainted". It''s a weird thing as I don''t want him to buy something with the full intention of it being for somebody else when it''s for something as special as a engagement ring. But I am totally ok with him buying a second hand ring and making changes to it as long as I know it''s purchased for me!
 
Hey everyone,
Just to make one thing clear. I''m not ''hanging'' onto it as some last memory of her. I can see how that that thought would be speculated but that''s not the case. Setting that aside, I do understand some level of ''tainted'' sentiment even though I haven''t bought a setting or anything like that. I bought the diamond planning to propose at the end of the year/early next year but I see what you''re all saying. Ultimately I''m still torn but if I can see it go to a fellow pricescope member who would appreciate it and really take some pleasure from it that would make my decision earlier. I''ll let you know how it goes.
 
If this is offered to a new woman she may eventually find the receipt, which will be dated before she met you.
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Return the stone.
 
I would keep it if 4.5k is not a big deal to you. If you will not miss the cash then keep it.

Perhaps I am too logical but I do not see an issue with keeping the stone.

BTW, I am sorry your relationship did not work out this time. Chin up, and all....
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It almost certainly, is her loss.
 
So sorry things didn't work out.

If you're planning on using it for an engagement ring, I'd say return the stone.

But if you're planning on giving it as a gift (while dating) set into a pendant, I would say keep it. You never proposed with the stone, so I don't think it would be too tainted to be used as a pendant. It wasn't meant to be hers, it was meant to be your future wife's. Right? Is there anyone in your family you could gift it to - like a mom or sister? If you need the cash, why not let them have first dibs on it? I'd totally buy it from my brother if he needed to unload it for sentimental reasons.
 
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