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House Cat

House Cat

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Due to a 50 pound weight gain, i had to have my rings cut from my fingers. My diamond band lost a stone and needs repair. I really want to lose weight but don’t know if i can (menopause.) should i resize now or should i wait until i kinda lose weight? If i were to lose weight again, can my rings handle another resize? I ask especially for the diamond band that lost a stone.
 
House Cat said:
Due to a 50 pound weight gain, i had to have my rings cut from my fingers. My diamond band lost a stone and needs repair. I really want to lose weight but don’t know if i can (menopause.) should i resize now or should i wait until i kinda lose weight? If i were to lose weight again, can my rings handle another resize? I ask especially for the diamond band that lost a stone.
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Here’s a photo of my set (it’s dirty, i know...a sin)B1D49D65-4DA6-4FE0-92E9-76E1020C629E.png
 
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Austina said:
I think I’d be inclined to wait until my weight had stabilised.
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That’s what I’m inclined to do as well, but i really miss my ring. I’m just wondering if i can size it twice...probably a pipe dream, I’m sure
 
Austina said:
I think I’d be inclined to wait until my weight had stabilised.
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How many sizes up do you think it needs? But I would have to agree with Austina, its better to wait.
 
If you are not emotionally attached to keeping it as a solid circle then I say re-size now and maybe again when you lose the weight. I say maybe because I resized my favorite ring after a pregnancy to fit my previously-fabulous-size-6–turned-newly-awesome-size-7.5 left ring finger. It took me six years to lose the weight which would have been too darn long to go without my pretty ring. Now I still wear it at 7.5, just on my right ring finger (which is a little bigger than my now-shrunken-but-still-great left ring finger), or my left pointer finger. I think we women punish ourselves too much about weight like we’ll lose it faster if we’re miserable, or like there’s something wrong with not being slim our entire hormone-fluctuating lives. My respectful advice is, re-size your jewelry, buy some nice shoes and clothes in your true current size, cut out just 200 calories a day for a couple years, be patient, enjoy life, and don’t punish yourself.
 
As it looks like it only need to be one size or so, go ahead and get it done. If your fingers adjust over time, you can add a simple bar to the inside.
@oncrutchesrightnow has some very sage advice and it is imperative to treat yourself with kindness. We place so many conditions on ourselves that are ultimately needless and full of the subtlest cruelties.
Don't do that, you deserve more compassion from your harshest critic. Yourself.
 
If it's only about a size up, (not more than that) I'd resize now and if you fingers get smaller later, you can always add sizing beads. As you get older, your knuckles tend to get bigger anyway. My finger size (without my now larger knuckles) is about a 5.25 but I have to have my rings sized to 5.75 to get over my knuckles. I tend to have sizing beads put in many of my rings, depending on the style.
 
I was in a similar situation. I waited for years (3?) before finally sending it away to be resized. Once done, I was so incredibly happy to be enjoying it again. I realized I had wasted time not enjoying it - my feelings about my weight were/are/will be what they were/are/will be... but I need not deny myself the joy of my diamond!

So, my opinion: resize that baby and enjoy it! If a time comes again when your finger size prevents you from enjoying it, and another resize or speed bumps aren't in the cards... time for the excitement and joy of a new setting! :D

ETA: I also intended to lose weight and was waiting for that time. But I realized that resizing my ring is more straightforward, quick, and with predictable results whereas the journey of my weight is not. I am now starting to lose some weight. Because I resized, I got to enjoy my ring for a year+ while I got to this point vs. another year+ of not enjoying it. No regrets there.

Aaaaand I re-read to make sure I answered your question, only to discover I have not You asked specifically about your band so it's a little different. I suppose my answer changes depending upon how much you enjoy your band, do you have another ring you are wearing that still brings you joy, and how attached are you to your (I presume) original wedding band? I would defer to a skilled jeweler for advice on how much resizing it can take. If you are super sentimental about it, I might suggest purchasing a new band to enjoy now, preserving your original for a time when you can wear it again. If you are not super attached to it, I'd say resize now and then should you need yet another resize and it cannot bear it, buy a new band then.
 
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House Cat said:
That’s what I’m inclined to do as well, but i really miss my ring. I’m just wondering if i can size it twice...probably a pipe dream, I’m sure
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it seems a shame not to waer it when you love it so and miss it
why dont you take it into your jewler and ask
 
I would do what would make me happy right now. And if that is resizing so you can wear your beautiful ring I recommend to go ahead and do it. No one knows what the future will bring and please try not to be hard on yourself. Life is hard enough. Do what makes you happy now and live in the moment.

House Cat said:
i really miss my ring
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That tells me all I need to know. Resize so you can enjoy wearing your ring and if, in the future, your finger goes back down in size you can resize again. You can deal with changes later. Sending you lots of well wishes and gentle hugs. Be good to yourself now. You deserve it.
 
I would definitely resize them so you can enjoy them, as others have pointed out, life is short. If you ever do lose weight you could always add those noodle sizers to take up some space.

Menopause is really hard on a lot of women and our bodies go through a lot during this process. Try not to be too hard on yourself and if you can, practice some self care. That’s easier said than done for many especially when you have kids but you are important too, don’t forget it!
 
Diamondbug said:
How many sizes up do you think it needs? But I would have to agree with Austina, its better to wait.
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These rings are a 5.5 and i need to go up to an 8.

Also, I wasn’t clear about the band losing a stone, it did that during the cutting and bending process while removing it from my finger. I have the stone, but I wonder if too much bending will just destroy the ring. I guess I can always buy a new one if that is the case. This set is a reset. I’m not super attached to the wedding band in the sense that I wasn’t married with it. I just love the set the way it is.
 
Thanks everyone for the advice to be gentle with myself about my weight. I have NOT been. I’ve been berating myself for looking this way. I was always incredibly thin. To the point to where I’ve been accused of eating disorders. It feels as though I’ve lost a piece of myself. I don’t recognize that woman I see in the mirror.

It has been such a tough year. My 17 year old son has been in the mental hospital three times and inpatient drug rehab. My whole world has been turned upside down and the solution to it is not in my hands. It’s in my son’s, who is very sick. I feel trapped.

I’m going to go an see if I can get my set resized. I’m wearing a simple silver and turquoise band on my finger ATM, I don’t love it.
 
Just FYI, I’m not a jeweler obviously but I wear an 8.5 ring and going from 5.5 to 8 may require a re-shank so that the ring doesn’t lose its shape. It gets tricky with stones on a band too but a good jeweler will be able to advise you.

So sorry about your son’s continued struggles. As a mom it is the worst to see your child struggle or in pain, my heart goes out to you.
 
I'm so sorry @House Cat for the struggle you are going through with your son. Do be kind to yourself. It does no good for you,
or your son, to put added stress on yourself with respect to your weight. Sending peace, calmness, and healing vibes your way.
 
As someone trying to get back to their original weight (8.6 lbs) I sympathize:)
Maybe a smile helps, hopefully- I've also struggled with weight, and it's no fun.
As to the question at hand.
For the engagement ring, yes!! You can readjust that sucker repeatedly, with no real problems.
But for the rings with little diamonds set into them? No- even if it's possible to adjust them that far, they'll be weakened subsequently.
 
I have been very fat and somewhat thin...rings can be sized depending on how they are made...when my weight see sawed back and forth I ended up buy some CZ rings to tide me over till I got where I wanted to me and I truly do understand the weight thing more than you would know, its freaking hard...I lost 105 pounds and thanks to too much wine/food during the pandemic I have gained about 10-15 of it back and I stand at a whopping 4"10 1/2" inches tall so it make a difference in everything :evil::evil:
 
House Cat said:
Thanks everyone for the advice to be gentle with myself about my weight. I have NOT been. I’ve been berating myself for looking this way. I was always incredibly thin. To the point to where I’ve been accused of eating disorders. It feels as though I’ve lost a piece of myself. I don’t recognize that woman I see in the mirror.

It has been such a tough year. My 17 year old son has been in the mental hospital three times and inpatient drug rehab. My whole world has been turned upside down and the solution to it is not in my hands. It’s in my son’s, who is very sick. I feel trapped.

I’m going to go an see if I can get my set resized. I’m wearing a simple silver and turquoise band on my finger ATM, I don’t love it.
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time for a group hug my dear
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I haven't gained weight (lost weight) but my hand /finger size hasn't changed. I've always had big fingers/hands and depending on the amount of swelling from 7.5 to size 10.

My problem is one of swelling. my fingers can swell a lot and as I get older, they can get worse especially in summer. In cooler months my rings damn near fall off me. But summer my fingers swell and it can be very painful. I really don't wear rings in the summer anymore anyway so I kinda live with it.

But yes, get them resized. Enjoy your rings.
 
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