should buying a ring be so nerve-wracking?

[rocknewb]

just curious if i''m the only one that feels this way... biggest purchase of my life

... so far.

-j

 

[Skippy123]

Date: 7/10/2008 8:27:37 PM
Author:rocknewb
just curious if i'm the only one that feels this way... biggest purchase of my life

... so far.

-j

It is sort of scary but once I bought my stone online and I saw how gorgeous it is and saved a few hundred, then I thought "I should have done this sooner!"

The good people of Pricescope are awesome and so so helpful! Welcome!!!

 

[lovewhitediamonds]

I never thought in a million years I would buy a diamond "online".... thanks to pricescope and it''s wonderful members, I was armed with tons of information to make an educated (and smart) purchase. This site will be extremely helpful in your journey.. (and make the experience not as nerve-wracking!)

Good luck and welcome to PS

 

[rcrosier]

Look at it this way...

It''s better that the purchase experience be nerve-wracking than the having experience be regretful. You can buy the first diamond you see at you hometown jewelry store with a decent color/size/clarity combo and be done... But after you see what kind of a dud you have next to an awesome light performing stone, you will wish you had gone through the trouble, which you apparently are going through due to this post. Be patient and the perfect stone will come to you. Good luck!

 

[dockman3]

It was the second biggest purchase of my life, next to my car, but it meant more to me than my car, so it was definitely nerve wracking. I"m still a little nervous I suppose, since I haven''t given it to her yet, but once I found that setting and then the diamond that actually spoke to me, all of my fears were calmed and it was no big deal. I knew I got a great ring and one she''ll love, and that''s all that mattered to me.

 

[RxTechRN2b]

Buying a diamond ring is nerve racking because you''re spending more money than you ever did in your life (except for maybe a car or your house). And you''re spending it on something that''s physically so small and of no use except to sit there and look pretty (and tell the world that you''re getting married).

Then factor in all the choices you have to make -- do you want a round diamond or. An asscher or cushion, how big or small will it be, what''s the best clarity/cut/color combination for your budget, and which setting will you put it in? Do you want a ready made setting by a particular designer, or a custom setting? Will you choose bezel, prongs, halo, low or high setting, on a wide or thin band? How about a split shank? Oh yeah, don''t forget about choosing between platinum, gold, or another metal. If you go for the gold, will it be yellow, white, or rose, and will you get 18k or 14k? And you haven''t even thought about side diamonds, sapphires, or other stones for the setting.
Yeah, buying a diamond is nerve racking! But you''ve come to the right place, the people here will help you get the most bang for your buck!

 

[Lynn B]

Haha, yes, I remember my first *BIG* diamond purchase, and yes, I thought it was incredibly stressful!

Now though, after several rings and earrings, upgrades, resets, and additional diamond purchases, it's gotten MUUUUUCH easier, and WAAAAY more fun!

 

[John P]

Date: 7/10/2008 8:27:37 PM
Author:rocknewb
just curious if i''m the only one that feels this way... biggest purchase of my life

... so far.

-j

It''s perfectly natural to feel nerve-wracked. Don''t worry; PS makes good nerve tonic.

The pressure is compounded because most guys know the ring will be very important to her, but know very little about the subject matter when they start shopping.

Hey ladies... would you feel similar pressure if tradition called for your man to expect a bass boat, rod/reel and tackle from you at the nuptials?

(Ellen, you''re exempt from this question)

 

[RxTechRN2b]

I vote for starting a new tradition that requires the girl to buy something outrageously expensive and totally useless for her man. Although, what could a man possibly want that''s not useful? Give ''em a giant TV or a Harley Davidson!

 

[Lynn B]

Date: 7/11/2008 11:52:09 AM
Author: John Pollard

It''s perfectly natural to feel nerve-wracked. Don''t worry; PS makes good nerve tonic.

The pressure is compounded because most guys know the ring will be very important to her, but know very little about the subject matter when they start shopping.

Hey ladies... would you feel similar pressure if tradition called for your man to expect a bass boat, rod/reel and tackle from you at the nuptials?

(Ellen, you''re exempt from this question)

HAHA, ROFLMHO!!!

I swear, I would let him know the budget and tell him to GO FOR IT, DUDE! I don''t even think I''d bother TRYING to learn about it, what he''d want, etc. Boooooring!

So, nope, if that was the custom, I''m afraid there''d no surprise for MY honey!!! (But then again, he''d have what he wanted... and he wouldn''t be on bigbadbassboats.com posting that he didn''t like what he got!!!)

 

[WinkHPD]

Date: 7/10/2008 8:27:37 PM
Author:rocknewb
just curious if i''m the only one that feels this way... biggest purchase of my life

... so far.

-j

I totally understand how you feel. As a young suitor who''s fiance had accepted my proposal only the night before i took her shopping for a ring when we both lived in Rio de Janeiro, Brasil.

We found a nice ring in my budget, $300. (Remember, gold was $35 per ounce back then in the prehistoric times when I got engaged.) The ring contained four square cut rubies and eight diamonds and was very attractive and she loved it.

Only problem was she started crying on the way home. I said if she did not like the ring we could take it back, but she was crying because she just finally realized that I really did intend to marry her and she wasn''t sure she was ready.

I just said that she had made me a promise and that I knew her to be an honest an honorable woman who would never break a promise and that she would feel better in a day or so. It must have been the right thing to say, we are still very happily married with two wonderful children and two, so far, wonderful grandchildren.

These are stressful times when you are young and getting started, and the ring now costs so much that it unfortunately adds a lot to the stress. The average 1 ct diamond cost at retail back then around $500 - 600, at least in Rio. A D-IF was about 2k, an absurd amount of money for this young Marine. You should all be so lucky now.

Fortunately you have this incredible resource here at Pricescope where you can get grate guidance and assistance, not only from the professionals, but from many WAY EDUCATED consumers who actually know more than about 90% of the "jewelers" that you will meet at the Mall.

Relax, if you can, take a deep breath, and go forward knowing that you are NOT alone. You not only have the lady of your dreams, but literally hundreds of interested parties looking over your shoulder to make sure you are not lead astray.

Wink

 

[rocknewb]

thanks everybody for the replies. i must admit that after having read these posts for the past couple of months, i definitely don''t feel lost. this site and its members are a tremendous resource that should be more widely known and not something that i just happened to find via google searching for diamonds.

-j

 

[John P]

Date: 7/11/2008 12:33:53 PM
Author: Lynn B

Date: 7/11/2008 11:52:09 AM
Author: John Pollard

It's perfectly natural to feel nerve-wracked. Don't worry; PS makes good nerve tonic.

The pressure is compounded because most guys know the ring will be very important to her, but know very little about the subject matter when they start shopping.

Hey ladies... would you feel similar pressure if tradition called for your man to expect a bass boat, rod/reel and tackle from you at the nuptials?

(Ellen, you're exempt from this question)

HAHA, ROFLMHO!!!

I swear, I would let him know the budget and tell him to GO FOR IT, DUDE! I don't even think I'd bother TRYING to learn about it, what he'd want, etc. Boooooring!

So, nope, if that was the custom, I'm afraid there'd no surprise for MY honey!!! (But then again, he'd have what he wanted... and he wouldn't be on bigbadbassboats.com posting that he didn't like what he got!!!)

Proof positive that you girls are a lot more practical than we are! We want to thump our chests, grunt and point to that fantastic thing we conquered and brought to you.

It's another symptom of the same disease that causes us to refuse to pull over and ask directions... You may notice new cars come with a cure for that, finally.

 

[Irishgrrrl]

Awwww, Wink that was a beautiful story! Congratulations on having such a great marriage!

 

[WinkHPD]

Date: 7/11/2008 1:30:38 PM
Author: Irishgrrrl
Awwww, Wink that was a beautiful story! Congratulations on having such a great marriage!

Thanks! LOL, today when someone says something like that they would probably get locked up for stalking...

Wink

 

[kcoursolle]

Date: 7/11/2008 1:22:07 PM
Author: Wink

Date: 7/10/2008 8:27:37 PM
Author:rocknewb
just curious if i''m the only one that feels this way... biggest purchase of my life

... so far.

-j

I totally understand how you feel. As a young suitor who''s fiance had accepted my proposal only the night before i took her shopping for a ring when we both lived in Rio de Janeiro, Brasil.

We found a nice ring in my budget, $300. (Remember, gold was $35 per ounce back then in the prehistoric times when I got engaged.) The ring contained four square cut rubies and eight diamonds and was very attractive and she loved it.

Only problem was she started crying on the way home. I said if she did not like the ring we could take it back, but she was crying because she just finally realized that I really did intend to marry her and she wasn''t sure she was ready.

I just said that she had made me a promise and that I knew her to be an honest an honorable woman who would never break a promise and that she would feel better in a day or so. It must have been the right thing to say, we are still very happily married with two wonderful children and two, so far, wonderful grandchildren.

These are stressful times when you are young and getting started, and the ring now costs so much that it unfortunately adds a lot to the stress. The average 1 ct diamond cost at retail back then around $500 - 600, at least in Rio. A D-IF was about 2k, an absurd amount of money for this young Marine. You should all be so lucky now.

Fortunately you have this incredible resource here at Pricescope where you can get grate guidance and assistance, not only from the professionals, but from many WAY EDUCATED consumers who actually know more than about 90% of the ''jewelers'' that you will meet at the Mall.

Relax, if you can, take a deep breath, and go forward knowing that you are NOT alone. You not only have the lady of your dreams, but literally hundreds of interested parties looking over your shoulder to make sure you are not lead astray.

Wink

Wink, that was a lovely story! Do you have pictures of her original ring by chance? It sounds beautiful!

 

[kcoursolle]

Date: 7/10/2008 8:27:37 PM
Author:rocknewb
just curious if i''m the only one that feels this way... biggest purchase of my life

... so far.

-j

Yes, the process can be nerve racking, but it can also be fun. Try to remember how excited she will be with the end product and all the hard work you are doing. You will also be excited to see it. Since you are doing your homework it is going to be beautiful. It''s definitely worth it to put in all of the hard work!

 

[WinkHPD]

Date: 7/11/2008 2:36:54 PM
Author: kcoursolle

Date: 7/11/2008 1:22:07 PM
Author: Wink

Date: 7/10/2008 8:27:37 PM
Author:rocknewb
just curious if i''m the only one that feels this way... biggest purchase of my life

... so far.

-j

I totally understand how you feel. As a young suitor who''s fiance had accepted my proposal only the night before i took her shopping for a ring when we both lived in Rio de Janeiro, Brasil.

We found a nice ring in my budget, $300. (Remember, gold was $35 per ounce back then in the prehistoric times when I got engaged.) The ring contained four square cut rubies and eight diamonds and was very attractive and she loved it.

Only problem was she started crying on the way home. I said if she did not like the ring we could take it back, but she was crying because she just finally realized that I really did intend to marry her and she wasn''t sure she was ready.

I just said that she had made me a promise and that I knew her to be an honest an honorable woman who would never break a promise and that she would feel better in a day or so. It must have been the right thing to say, we are still very happily married with two wonderful children and two, so far, wonderful grandchildren.

These are stressful times when you are young and getting started, and the ring now costs so much that it unfortunately adds a lot to the stress. The average 1 ct diamond cost at retail back then around $500 - 600, at least in Rio. A D-IF was about 2k, an absurd amount of money for this young Marine. You should all be so lucky now.

Fortunately you have this incredible resource here at Pricescope where you can get grate guidance and assistance, not only from the professionals, but from many WAY EDUCATED consumers who actually know more than about 90% of the ''jewelers'' that you will meet at the Mall.

Relax, if you can, take a deep breath, and go forward knowing that you are NOT alone. You not only have the lady of your dreams, but literally hundreds of interested parties looking over your shoulder to make sure you are not lead astray.

Wink

Wink, that was a lovely story! Do you have pictures of her original ring by chance? It sounds beautiful!

Alas, no. One day she was standing with her hand on a fence post and her horse came up and nibbled on her ring, inhaling the center ruby. She was going to put the horse in stall and spend the next week sifting poop until she found it but I told her that no way in heck was my wife spending a week in horse poop for a ruby I could replace for $50.

I took the two remaining rubies and the four diamonds and made earrings out of them and then got her a great 18kt and diamond ring that she treasures to this day. I don''t think it would be appropriate for me to post it here as a vendor, but it is MUCH nicer than the original ring that she got. She does treasure the earrings though, and often enjoys a good laugh about the poopy end to her original ring.

Wink

 

[Ellen]

Date: 7/11/2008 1:28:58 PM
Author: John Pollard

Date: 7/11/2008 12:33:53 PM
Author: Lynn B

Date: 7/11/2008 11:52:09 AM
Author: John Pollard

It''s perfectly natural to feel nerve-wracked. Don''t worry; PS makes good nerve tonic.

The pressure is compounded because most guys know the ring will be very important to her, but know very little about the subject matter when they start shopping.

Hey ladies... would you feel similar pressure if tradition called for your man to expect a bass boat, rod/reel and tackle from you at the nuptials?

(Ellen, you''re exempt from this question)

HAHA, ROFLMHO!!!

I swear, I would let him know the budget and tell him to GO FOR IT, DUDE! I don''t even think I''d bother TRYING to learn about it, what he''d want, etc. Boooooring!

So, nope, if that was the custom, I''m afraid there''d no surprise for MY honey!!! (But then again, he''d have what he wanted... and he wouldn''t be on bigbadbassboats.com posting that he didn''t like what he got!!!)

Proof positive that you girls are a lot more practical than we are! We want to thump our chests, grunt and point to that fantastic thing we conquered and brought to you.

It''s another symptom of the same disease that causes us to refuse to pull over and ask directions... You may notice new cars come with a cure for that, finally.

Good lord, AND I''ve got it in writing!!

 

[kcoursolle]

Date: 7/11/2008 3:06:32 PM
Author: Wink

Date: 7/11/2008 2:36:54 PM
Author: kcoursolle

Date: 7/11/2008 1:22:07 PM
Author: Wink

Date: 7/10/2008 8:27:37 PM
Author:rocknewb
just curious if i''m the only one that feels this way... biggest purchase of my life

... so far.

-j

I totally understand how you feel. As a young suitor who''s fiance had accepted my proposal only the night before i took her shopping for a ring when we both lived in Rio de Janeiro, Brasil.

We found a nice ring in my budget, $300. (Remember, gold was $35 per ounce back then in the prehistoric times when I got engaged.) The ring contained four square cut rubies and eight diamonds and was very attractive and she loved it.

Only problem was she started crying on the way home. I said if she did not like the ring we could take it back, but she was crying because she just finally realized that I really did intend to marry her and she wasn''t sure she was ready.

I just said that she had made me a promise and that I knew her to be an honest an honorable woman who would never break a promise and that she would feel better in a day or so. It must have been the right thing to say, we are still very happily married with two wonderful children and two, so far, wonderful grandchildren.

These are stressful times when you are young and getting started, and the ring now costs so much that it unfortunately adds a lot to the stress. The average 1 ct diamond cost at retail back then around $500 - 600, at least in Rio. A D-IF was about 2k, an absurd amount of money for this young Marine. You should all be so lucky now.

Fortunately you have this incredible resource here at Pricescope where you can get grate guidance and assistance, not only from the professionals, but from many WAY EDUCATED consumers who actually know more than about 90% of the ''jewelers'' that you will meet at the Mall.

Relax, if you can, take a deep breath, and go forward knowing that you are NOT alone. You not only have the lady of your dreams, but literally hundreds of interested parties looking over your shoulder to make sure you are not lead astray.

Wink

Wink, that was a lovely story! Do you have pictures of her original ring by chance? It sounds beautiful!

Alas, no. One day she was standing with her hand on a fence post and her horse came up and nibbled on her ring, inhaling the center ruby. She was going to put the horse in stall and spend the next week sifting poop until she found it but I told her that no way in heck was my wife spending a week in horse poop for a ruby I could replace for $50.

I took the two remaining rubies and the four diamonds and made earrings out of them and then got her a great 18kt and diamond ring that she treasures to this day. I don''t think it would be appropriate for me to post it here as a vendor, but it is MUCH nicer than the original ring that she got. She does treasure the earrings though, and often enjoys a good laugh about the poopy end to her original ring.

Wink

Thank goodness she didn''t go through the horse pies LOL. I''m sure she treasures her new set and how nice that she got to keep the remaining rubies as earrings.

 

[sparxs111]

Buying my ring gave me an ulcer as she loved the Tiffany ring and said it was the one. As with many of us, that was WAY out of my price range considering she wanted a carat, but PS helped me out. Got the most important purchase of my life so far, and saved oodles of cash, but buying unseen was a little nerve racking...

PS IM WITH YOU TERRY! Engagement TVs a around!!!

 

[Irishgrrrl]

Date: 7/11/2008 3:06:32 PM
Author: Wink

Date: 7/11/2008 2:36:54 PM
Author: kcoursolle

Date: 7/11/2008 1:22:07 PM
Author: Wink

Date: 7/10/2008 8:27:37 PM
Author:rocknewb
just curious if i''m the only one that feels this way... biggest purchase of my life

... so far.

-j

I totally understand how you feel. As a young suitor who''s fiance had accepted my proposal only the night before i took her shopping for a ring when we both lived in Rio de Janeiro, Brasil.

We found a nice ring in my budget, $300. (Remember, gold was $35 per ounce back then in the prehistoric times when I got engaged.) The ring contained four square cut rubies and eight diamonds and was very attractive and she loved it.

Only problem was she started crying on the way home. I said if she did not like the ring we could take it back, but she was crying because she just finally realized that I really did intend to marry her and she wasn''t sure she was ready.

I just said that she had made me a promise and that I knew her to be an honest an honorable woman who would never break a promise and that she would feel better in a day or so. It must have been the right thing to say, we are still very happily married with two wonderful children and two, so far, wonderful grandchildren.

These are stressful times when you are young and getting started, and the ring now costs so much that it unfortunately adds a lot to the stress. The average 1 ct diamond cost at retail back then around $500 - 600, at least in Rio. A D-IF was about 2k, an absurd amount of money for this young Marine. You should all be so lucky now.

Fortunately you have this incredible resource here at Pricescope where you can get grate guidance and assistance, not only from the professionals, but from many WAY EDUCATED consumers who actually know more than about 90% of the ''jewelers'' that you will meet at the Mall.

Relax, if you can, take a deep breath, and go forward knowing that you are NOT alone. You not only have the lady of your dreams, but literally hundreds of interested parties looking over your shoulder to make sure you are not lead astray.

Wink

Wink, that was a lovely story! Do you have pictures of her original ring by chance? It sounds beautiful!

Alas, no. One day she was standing with her hand on a fence post and her horse came up and nibbled on her ring, inhaling the center ruby. She was going to put the horse in stall and spend the next week sifting poop until she found it but I told her that no way in heck was my wife spending a week in horse poop for a ruby I could replace for $50.

I took the two remaining rubies and the four diamonds and made earrings out of them and then got her a great 18kt and diamond ring that she treasures to this day. I don''t think it would be appropriate for me to post it here as a vendor, but it is MUCH nicer than the original ring that she got. She does treasure the earrings though, and often enjoys a good laugh about the poopy end to her original ring.

Wink

Wink! LOL! I have a horse, too! I''m glad you mentioned this . . . now I''ll be extra careful!